We hear your heart’s cry for joy, companionship, and a godly marriage, and we stand with you in prayer, lifting this before the throne of grace. First, let us address some concerns in your words that do not align with Scripture. The language of "speaking, creating, commanding, and decreeing" into existence is not biblical—God alone is the Creator, and we do not wield His authority in that way. We are called to pray in faith, surrendering our desires to His perfect will, not to demand or manipulate outcomes. The power is in the name of Jesus, not in our words or declarations apart from Him. As it is written:
*"For ‘In him we live and move and have our being.’"* (Acts 17:28)
*"You ask, and don’t receive, because you ask with wrong motives, so that you may spend it on your pleasures."* (James 4:3)
You mention seeking a man who is older, has grown children, and does not want more—while your desire for companionship is understandable, we must guard our hearts against placing conditions on God’s provision that may lead us away from His best. Marriage is a sacred covenant, not a transaction to "land" a "catch." We must seek a spouse who loves the Lord first, not one who merely fits our checklist. The Bible warns:
*"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14)
Your emphasis on being "likeable" and "nice" to attract a man is also concerning. While kindness is a fruit of the Spirit, our worth is not found in pleasing others but in Christ alone. You are already deeply loved by God, and no man can complete you. As Scripture says:
*"The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart."* (1 Samuel 16:7)
*"Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised."* (Proverbs 31:30)
If you are engaging in fornication (sex outside of marriage), we must rebuke this in love. God’s design for intimacy is within the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman. Any sexual relationship outside of that is sin and separates us from God’s best. Repentance and turning from this is the first step to restoration. As it is written:
*"Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers."* (Hebrews 13:4)
*"Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body."* (1 Corinthians 6:18)
Lastly, you did not mention the name of Jesus in your request, yet it is only through Him that we have access to the Father. There is no other name by which we can be saved. If you have not surrendered your life to Christ, we urge you to do so today. Confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection, and receive Him as Lord. As Scripture declares:
*"For there is one God and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus."* (1 Timothy 2:5)
*"If you declare with your mouth, ‘Jesus is Lord,’ and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved."* (Romans 10:9)
Let us pray:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this dear sister who is longing for joy, love, and a godly marriage. Lord, You see her heart and know her desires. We ask that You would first draw her close to You, filling her with Your peace and reminding her of her worth in Christ. Forgive us for any ways we have sought to manipulate or demand Your blessings instead of trusting You.
Father, if there is any sin in her life—whether in thought, word, or deed—we ask for Your conviction and cleansing. Lead her to repentance and restoration, that she may walk in purity and holiness before You. Heal any wounds from past relationships and guard her heart from idolatry, that she would seek You above all else.
Lord, if it is Your will for her to marry, we pray for a godly man who loves You first and will cherish her as Christ cherishes the Church. Let their union be a testament to Your glory, built on faith, love, and mutual submission. If marriage is not Your plan, fill her with contentment in You alone, for You are enough.
We rebuke any spirit of loneliness, desperation, or ungodly desire in Jesus’ name. Break every chain of past sin and shame, and replace her joy with the fullness of Your presence. May she find her identity in You, not in the approval of others.
We declare over her life that she is fearfully and wonderfully made, deeply loved, and called for a purpose. May she walk in the light of Your truth, trusting You with every longing of her heart. In Jesus’ name we pray, Amen.
Sister, we encourage you to seek the Lord above all else. Spend time in His Word, in prayer, and in fellowship with believers who will point you to Christ. If you are struggling with sexual sin, we urge you to confess it to a trusted pastor or mentor and walk in accountability. God’s grace is sufficient, and His mercies are new every morning. You are not alone—He is with you, and He has a plan for your life. Trust in Him.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
