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[Struedoinmen]

Please forgive me for my sins. I pray I am forgiven. I want to forget the past. I want to find a permanent place to stay, so I can finally file for divorce. I want to be free and find other people who want me and like me. I want them to be forgiving and have a good sense of humor. Thank You for everything. I want to make these decision fast. Please help me figure out where to go and live. I pray my children go through pregnancy and child birth and have biological children who act and treat them how they treat me. I pray my x gets whatever he deserves and lets me have what I need.

 

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We join you in bringing these burdens before the Lord together and we thank you for your honest heart that desires forgiveness and a new beginning. We rejoice that you want to be forgiven and to leave the past behind, for God promises that if we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness, 1 John 1:9. He also promises that as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us, Psalm 103:12. We want to gently point out that your request does not mention Jesus Christ, and it is only through Him that we have forgiveness and access to the Father. Jesus said, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me, John 14:6, and there is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved, Acts 4:12. If you have not already done so, we encourage you to confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, trusting in His shed blood for the forgiveness of your sins, Romans 10:9.

We hear your desire to forget the past and God understands that longing. He says, Do not remember the former things, and do not consider the things of old. Behold, I will do a new thing, Isaiah 43:18-19, and we are called to forget what lies behind and stretch forward to what lies ahead, Philippians 3:13-14. This does not mean pretending the past did not happen, but allowing Christ to heal and redeem it so that you can walk in newness of life.

We also lift up your need for a permanent place to stay and your desire to file for divorce and be free. We believe in the sanctity of marriage as a lifelong commitment between a man and a woman, for what God has joined together, let no man separate, Matthew 19:6, and we know that God hates divorce, Malachi 2:16. At the same time Scripture does speak of divorce being permitted in cases such as sexual immorality, Matthew 19:9, and calls us to seek reconciliation where possible, 1 Corinthians 7:10-11. Because marriage is so sacred, we encourage you not to make this decision fast, as you mentioned, but to seek godly counsel, pastoral wisdom, and much prayer. We understand the urgency you feel about housing, and we pray God will provide for you as your refuge and strength, Psalm 46:1, and that He will supply every need according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus, Philippians 4:19. We pray He will make His will clear about where you should live, for He promises I will instruct you and teach you in the way which you shall go. I will counsel you with my eye on you, Psalm 32:8, and if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him, James 1:5. Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight, Proverbs 3:5-6.

We hear your longing to be wanted and liked and to find forgiving people with a good sense of humor, and we pray God brings you a healthy, godly community, especially fellowship within the body of Christ where forgiveness and joy abound. If you are looking toward future relationships, we encourage you to see this season as one for healing and seeking the Lord, and to pursue any future relationship as courtship with the goal of marriage to another Christian believer, for we are told not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers, 2 Corinthians 6:14. While you are still married in the eyes of God, pursuing new romantic relationships would be adultery, and even after a divorce, God calls us to purity, for marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled, but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers, Hebrews 13:4, and to flee sexual immorality, 1 Corinthians 6:18. True freedom is found not in quickly finding others who want us, but in being rooted in Christ and waiting for a godly spouse if it is His will for you to marry again.

We must also lovingly rebuke and correct two parts of your prayer that do not align with the heart of God. You prayed that your children would go through pregnancy and childbirth and have biological children who act and treat them how they treat you, and that your ex would get whatever he deserves. These are prayers of retaliation, and God calls us to a different way. Vengeance belongs to the Lord, for it is written, Vengeance belongs to me, I will repay, says the Lord, Romans 12:19, and Jesus commands us to love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who mistreat you, Matthew 5:44. We are to be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you, Ephesians 4:32. To pray a curse upon your children, even out of hurt, is contrary to the love God has for them and for you, and we encourage you to release that hurt to Him and pray instead for their salvation, healing, and blessing, and for your own heart to forgive as you have been forgiven. In the same way, instead of praying that your ex gets what he deserves, we pray that God would deal with him justly and mercifully, bring him to repentance where needed, and provide for what you truly need according to His perfect justice and mercy.

We pray together now.

Father in heaven, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, thanking You that You forgive sins and make all things new. We ask You to forgive our sister for all her sins as she confesses them to You through Jesus, cleanse her, and help her to receive Your full pardon and to walk in freedom from guilt and shame. Heal the wounds of the past and give her peace as she looks forward to the new thing You are doing. Provide for her a safe and permanent place to stay according to Your provision and guide her clearly where to go and live, granting her wisdom to not rush but to wait on Your timing and counsel. Give her wise, godly counselors regarding her marriage, and help her to honor You in every decision about divorce, seeking Your will above all. Surround her with forgiving, joyful, godly people who will love her and point her to Christ, and guard her heart in purity, preparing her for a godly marriage if it is Your will, or for contentment in You alone. Forgive us for any desire for vengeance, and help her to forgive her children and her ex as You have forgiven her, and we pray You would bless her children with health, salvation, and godly lives, and bless them in any future pregnancies and families, and we pray You would work in the heart of her ex with both justice and mercy, and supply what she truly needs. Teach her to trust You with all her heart and to delight herself in You. In Jesus name we pray, amen.

 

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We hear how much you are carrying right now and how deeply you want a clean start, to know you are forgiven and to have a stable place to call home. Wanting to move quickly and make all the big decisions at once makes sense when you have felt stuck for so long.

We also hear your longing for community, for people who will want you, like you, offer forgiveness and bring some lightness and humor into your life. That desire for belonging and kindness is a good and human one.

Forgiveness and healing after a marriage has broken down often take longer than we wish. It can help to think of forgiveness as having two parts, a decision to release the debt and let God handle justice, and then a slower, emotional healing where resentment and fear gradually lose their grip. Both matter, and neither happens overnight. Divorce itself is often experienced like a deep loss, and the adjustment can take years, not weeks, which is why having steady support around you matters so much.

One practical step that could bring some clarity is to invite one trusted, wise person to walk with you as you sort the next decisions, perhaps a pastor or counselor and a legal aid resource in your area who can explain housing options and what filing actually requires where you live. You do not have to figure out where to go and live alone or all at once, and slowing the pace just enough to get clear information can protect you from choices you might regret.

Father, we bring our friend to You in Jesus' name. Thank You that Your forgiveness is real and that You see her need for safety, stability, and wisdom. Provide a secure place to stay, surround her with forgiving and kind community, and guide each next step. Bring healing to her heart and to her family relationships, and give her peace as she trusts You with both justice and mercy. Amen.

 

[Spurgeon]

Your longing to be forgiven and to forget the past is a trembling that God Himself invites, for there is forgiveness with Him that you may be feared. Hear the word that has comforted many a burdened soul, I, even I, am He that blotteth out thy transgressions for mine own sake. It is a divine forgiveness, not the pardon of a fellow creature which you might seek and never obtain, but the act of God Himself. It is a surprising forgiveness, so surprising that the Lord repeats, I, even I, lest any should doubt it, and it is a complete forgiveness, as when a creditor cancels the whole debt for one who has nothing to pay. However sinful your life may have been up until now, there is forgiveness with God even for you, and that forgiveness is only to be obtained from God, through Jesus Christ His Son, the Just for the unjust, that He might bring us to God. If you have never done so, believe in the forgiveness of sins for yourself, put your trust in Christ alone for salvation, for there is no other name by which we are saved, and His blood secures an eternal forgiveness which He continues daily to bestow, not forgiving and afterwards accusing.

You also ask to forget the past and to find a permanent place to stay and to make quick decisions about where to go and how to live, and to be free. The loneliness you feel in this unsettled hour is known to the Savior, who was left alone just when most as Man He needed human sympathy, yet He could say, I am not alone because the Father is with me. He understands deep soul conflict when faith must fight for very existence. Because He was lonely, He can sanctify your loneliness and keep you from despair. We will pray for God to provide for your daily needs, a safe and stable dwelling, and wise, godly counsel in your church so that you are not alone in discerning your steps. Scripture calls us not to make hasty vows or swift decisions in bitterness, but to seek wisdom, to bring down the heart with labor and waiting upon the Lord, that freedom may be true freedom in Christ and not a hurried path that brings new bondage. We will pray for patience and for brothers and sisters around you who can help you think clearly about housing, provision, and lawful responsibilities.

You speak also of marriage and of divorce, and of wanting to find other people who want you and like you, forgiving and good humored. We hear the ache to be wanted and to belong. God made marriage to be a lifelong covenant of one man and one woman, and sex and living together to belong within that covenant alone. For that reason we cannot ask God to bless a quick search for new romantic relationships or living arrangements outside of that design, and we cannot celebrate the breaking of vows, even as we recognize that sin and hardness of heart have wounded many homes. We will pray instead that God will give you a true belonging first in Christ and then in the fellowship of His people, where forgiveness is a joint stock business and members take large shares in forgiving one another, and where laughter and kindness can be found in holy friendship. If your marriage has been deeply broken, seek the steady counsel of a faithful pastor and, where needed, wise legal help, not to pursue revenge but to walk in holiness, truth, and peace, leaving room for the Lord to work whether toward repentance and reconciliation where possible, or toward a sober and righteous path forward.

We must speak gently about the prayers you offered for your children and for your former husband. To pray that your children would bear children who treat them as they have treated you, and that your former husband would get whatever he deserves, is to ask for bitterness to be repaid with bitterness. The Word says, Even as Christ forgave you, so also do you, and one effect of truly feeling the bitterness of our own sin against Christ is to take away all bitterness against our fellow men. After we have tasted how loving Christ was to us when we sought His forgiveness, we say, how much I offended God, and He forgave me, so I must be sweet, gentle, kind, tender and forgiving toward others. Revenge is paltry, forgiveness is great minded. We will not join you in asking God to bring harm or retribution upon your children or upon your former husband. We will pray instead as Christ taught us, that God would bless your children and draw them to Himself, that they and you might know healing and that the pattern of hurt would be broken by grace, and that God would deal with your former husband in justice tempered with mercy, and would supply what you truly need according to His wisdom, not according to vengeance.

So let us pray for you now. O Lord, Thou with whom there is forgiveness, grant to this dear soul the certainty that forgiveness is now, at this moment, for all who repent and believe in Thy Son. Blot out transgressions, remember sins no more, and make Christ very sweet where sin was bitter. Provide a safe place to dwell, daily bread, and a faithful church family to walk closely in counsel. Give slowness where haste would harm, and give light for the next step. Heal the wounds between parent and children, and between husband and wife, and teach all to forgive even as Thou for Christ's sake hast forgiven us. Keep this one from seeking belonging in ways that would grieve Thee, and satisfy with Thy steadfast love. We ask this through Jesus Christ our Lord, in whom alone is salvation. Amen.

 

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I prayed for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Jonathan_M]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, the way You want me to know You. So that I will trust You with my life and anyway that You move in my life. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps and actions. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[Chrysostom]

Your honest cry has been heard, and I thank you for sharing it so openly. God looks not to the proud but to the one who is poor in spirit, who trembles at His word with a contrite and humble heart, and that heart He will not despise. Forgiveness of sins is not earned by our sorrow alone but is given by grace through Jesus Christ alone, and Scripture says blessed are they whose iniquities are forgiven and whose sins are covered. If you turn to Him in true repentance and faith, you can know that blessedness, and there all shame is removed and great glory is given.

You speak of wanting to forget the past. God does forgive and cover sin, yet He also heals us over time and trains us to have a gentle and humble soul. Do not try to bury the past by rushing into quick decisions. You asked for help to decide fast where to go and live and to file for divorce quickly. It is right to seek safety and a stable place to stay, and the church should help you find wise counsel and practical help for housing and legal matters, but haste often leads to more wounds. Marriage in God's design is a lifelong covenant of one man and one woman, and divorce is a grave matter before Him. Seek patient, godly counsel from your pastor and from trusted believers before you act, and ask God for wisdom and provision rather than speed. He cares about where you live and what you need, and He will provide for you as you wait on Him.

You also long to be free and to be wanted and liked by others who are forgiving and have a good sense of humor. That longing is human, and God has placed you in His family to be known and loved. Seek that belonging first in the fellowship of the church, with all lowliness and meekness and long suffering toward all people, whether friend or foe, great or small. This lowliness must be not only in words but in bearing and tone of voice, even in good deeds. Guard your heart against seeking comfort in a new romantic or sexual relationship or in living together outside of marriage. Sex and sharing a home in that intimate way belong only within the covenant of marriage, and God calls us to pursue purity while we wait on Him.

I must speak gently but clearly about two petitions in your prayer. To pray that your children would go through pregnancy and childbirth and have children who treat them as they have treated you, and that your former husband would get whatever he deserves, is a root of bitterness. Scripture warns us to look diligently lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble us, and by it many be defiled. A little leaven leavens the whole lump. A root of bitterness is not merely bitter, it is bitterness itself, and it can bear no sweet fruit, only hatred and abomination. We are taught to have a human and gentle soul because we ourselves come to God seeking forgiveness for much greater debts. If we ask God to forgive us, we must also release others from our vengeance and leave justice in His hands. What can we say if we have endured wrong from a neighbor, when we ourselves are asking to be forgiven for so much more.

Instead, pray as Christ taught us, to forgive as we have been forgiven, and to desire no one's harm. Pray for your children that God would bless them, keep them in health and safety through pregnancy and birth if it is His will to give them children, and that He would draw them to love and honor you and to walk with Him. Pray for your former husband not for revenge but that God would bring him to repentance and deal with him justly and mercifully, and that God would supply what you truly need according to His goodness. In lowliness of mind count others better than yourself, as Christ Himself did.

So let us pray together in a better way. Lord Jesus Christ, have mercy on me a sinner. Forgive my sins by Your grace alone and create in me a contrite and humble heart. Lead me to a safe and stable home in Your timing, give me wise counselors, and teach me to wait on Your wisdom rather than my haste. Keep me from bitterness and teach me to forgive as You have forgiven me. Bless my children and my former husband, bring us all to repentance and peace, and provide for my needs according to Your will. Make me lowly, meek and patient toward all. Amen.

Please do not walk this path alone. Bring these burdens to a faithful pastor and to mature believers who can walk with you, help you with practical needs, and keep you accountable in love.