We hear the deep pain and weariness in your heart, and we grieve with you over the harsh treatment and loneliness you’ve endured. The weight of mistreatment, betrayal, and the ache of feeling alone can make life feel unbearable, but we want you to know that God sees your suffering, and He has not abandoned you. The psalmist cried out in similar anguish, saying, *"Why are you in despair, my soul? Why are you disturbed within me? Hope in God! For I shall still praise him for the saving help of his presence"* (Psalm 42:5, WEB). Even in your darkest moments, God is near, and He longs to be your refuge and strength.
The question of why others treat you harshly is one that only God can fully answer, but Scripture reminds us that the world is broken by sin, and people—even those closest to us—can act out of their own pain, selfishness, or hardness of heart. Jesus warned us, *"In the world you have oppression; but cheer up! I have overcome the world"* (John 16:33, WEB). The mistreatment you’ve faced is not a reflection of your worth in Christ. You are deeply loved by the Father, who sent His Son to redeem you and call you His own. Your identity is not found in how others treat you but in how God sees you: *"But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for God’s own possession, that you may proclaim the excellence of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light"* (1 Peter 2:9, WEB).
As for the idea of divorce, we know this is a weighty and painful decision, and we urge you to seek God’s wisdom and will above all else. Marriage is a covenant before God, and Scripture teaches that *"What therefore God has joined together, don’t let man tear apart"* (Matthew 19:6, WEB). However, we also recognize that there are biblical grounds for divorce in cases of unrepentant adultery (Matthew 19:9) or abandonment by an unbelieving spouse (1 Corinthians 7:15). If you are facing abuse, infidelity, or persistent hardness of heart from your spouse, these are serious matters that require wisdom, counsel, and prayer. We strongly encourage you to seek godly, biblical counseling—both for your own healing and to discern the right path forward. Do not walk this road alone. *"Where no counsel is, plans fail; but in a multitude of counselors they are established"* (Proverbs 15:22, WEB).
If you are considering divorce, we urge you to examine your heart before the Lord. Have you sought reconciliation, if possible? Have you confronted the issues in your marriage with truth and love? Have you prayed for your spouse’s repentance and for God’s intervention? Divorce should never be entered into lightly, but if it is pursued, it must be done with a clear conscience before God, knowing that you have exhausted all biblical means of restoration. *"So then, whatever you desire that others would do to you, do also to them; for this is the law and the prophets"* (Matthew 7:12, WEB). Even in pain, we are called to act justly and mercifully, trusting God to vindicate and heal.
We also want to gently address something we notice in your request: you did not invoke the name of Jesus. This is not a small matter, for Scripture is clear that *"there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* (Acts 4:12, WEB). It is only through Jesus Christ that we have access to the Father, and it is in His name that we find hope, healing, and the power to endure. If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus, we plead with you to do so now. Confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection for your salvation, and invite Him to be your Lord and Savior. *"That if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart, one believes resulting in righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made resulting in salvation"* (Romans 10:9-10, WEB). Without Christ, there is no lasting peace or true resolution to the brokenness you feel. But in Him, there is redemption, restoration, and the promise of eternal life where *"God will wipe away every tear from their eyes. Death will be no more; neither will there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain, any more. The first things have passed away"* (Revelation 21:4, WEB).
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this precious child of Yours who is carrying such a heavy burden of pain, loneliness, and confusion. Lord, You see the tears they’ve cried in secret, the wounds inflicted by harsh words and mistreatment, and the exhaustion of feeling alone. We ask that You would draw near to them now, as You’ve promised in Your Word: *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit"* (Psalm 34:18, WEB). Comfort them with Your presence, Father, and remind them that they are not forgotten or abandoned. You are their ever-present help in trouble.
Lord, we pray for wisdom and discernment as they navigate the difficulties in their marriage. If there is sin in their own heart, convict them and lead them to repentance. If their spouse has hardened their heart, we pray for conviction and repentance in their life as well. Soften hearts, Lord, and bring healing where there is brokenness. If reconciliation is possible, we pray for the strength and humility to pursue it in a way that honors You. If divorce is the path they must walk, we ask that You would guide them with Your wisdom, surround them with godly counsel, and protect their heart from bitterness or despair. Let them seek Your will above all else, trusting that You are a God of justice and mercy.
Father, we rebuke the lies of the enemy that tell them they are worthless, unlovable, or beyond hope. Your Word says they are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), and we declare that truth over them now. Break the chains of loneliness and replace them with Your peace. Bring godly community into their life—people who will walk beside them, pray with them, and point them to You.
We also pray for their courage and strength. If they have been sinned against, give them the boldness to set biblical boundaries and seek justice where necessary. If they have contributed to the brokenness in their marriage, grant them the humility to repent and seek restoration. Above all, let them find their identity and security in You alone.
Finally, Lord, we pray that if they have not yet surrendered their life to Jesus Christ, that today would be the day of salvation. Open their eyes to see their need for a Savior, and draw them into Your arms of grace. Let them know the hope that is found only in Your Son.
We ask all these things in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Redeemer. Amen.
Beloved, we urge you to cling to Jesus in this season. Read His Word daily, even if it’s just a few verses. Let the truth of Scripture wash over your wounded heart. Seek out a Bible-believing church where you can find support and accountability. And if you are in a situation where you are being abused or endangered, please reach out to trusted believers or professionals who can help you find safety. You are not meant to walk this path alone.
*"Cast all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you"* (1 Peter 5:7, WEB). Trust Him with your pain, your marriage, and your future. He is faithful, and He will never leave you nor forsake you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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