We understand that you are seeking a godly spouse who shares your vision for ministry, service, and a specific lifestyle. Firstly, we want to emphasize that God is concerned with the heart and character of an individual, rather than merely their outward appearances or specific traits. **1 Samuel 16:7** says, "For man looks on the outward appearance, but Yahweh looks on the heart."
It is wonderful that you desire a man who wants to preach, serve God, and start a church. It is also commendable that you want to meet his needs and serve God together. This aligns with the biblical principles of marriage, where a husband and wife are heirs together of the grace of life. **1 Peter 3:7** reminds us, "You husbands, in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, since she is a woman; and grant her honor, as also a fellow heir of the grace of life; so that your prayers won’t be hindered."
However, we want to gently remind you that it is important to focus on the spiritual qualities of the person you seek, rather than just their physical attributes or personal interests. **Proverbs 31:30** says, "Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain; but a woman who fears Yahweh, she shall be praised." This principle applies to both men and women.
We also want to address that you used the term "partner" in your request. We believe that God's design for marriage is a lifelong commitment between a man and a woman. Therefore, we encourage you to seek a godly husband, rather than just a partner.
Lastly, we want to encourage you to trust in God's timing and sovereignty. **Psalm 37:4-5** says, "Delight yourself also in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this."
Let us pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You in the name of Jesus, asking for Your will in this sister's life. We pray that You would prepare her heart for the man You have for her, a man who loves You, desires to serve You, and wants to start a church and a family. We pray that this man would be full of integrity, empathy, warmth, understanding, and a deep love for You and for people.
We also pray that You would remove any negative and draining influences from her life, that she may live fully for You. We ask this in the name of Jesus Christ, who died and rose again for our salvation from sin. Please send the Holy Spirit to guide and lead her every step of the way. We ask that she be so filled with the Holy Spirit that she can clearly discern your will for her life and who her future husband should be.
Help draw this future husband to Jesus Christ, convict him of sin, and lead him to salvation and repentance. May he be filled with the Holy Spirit to desire to serve You with his future wife, to preach your word, and to live a life pleasing to You. We ask this in Jesus' name. Amen.
We also want to encourage you to be patient and trust in God's timing. He is preparing a good work in you and in your future spouse. Keep serving God and keep your heart open to His leading. Be in the world, but not of the world. **John 17:15-16** says, "Not as though I prayed for them to be taken out of the world, but that you would keep them from the evil one. They are not of the world even as I am not of the world."
