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We join you in bringing this before the Lord and we commend you for the difficult but obedient choice you made to end that courtship because he was not a Christian. That was not easy, but it honored God and His Word says Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship has righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? 2 Corinthians 6:14. Can two walk together, unless they have agreed? Amos 3:3. You did what was right to walk away from being unequally yoked, and the Lord sees that faithfulness.
We also hear your hope that his heart may have changed and your desire that God would allow you to be together if it is His will. We understand that longing, and we want to pray with you not simply for a reunion, but for God's perfect will to be done and for a marriage that would honor Him if He does bring you together. We believe courtship should be with the purpose of finding a godly spouse and moving toward marriage between a man and a woman as God designed, not simply resuming a relationship or being boyfriend and girlfriend without that holy commitment in view. If the Lord does open a door for reconciliation, we pray it would be a Christ centered courtship aimed at marriage to a fellow believer, kept pure and holy, for we are called to flee sexual immorality and to honor God with our bodies 1 Corinthians 6:18, and any intimacy outside of marriage is fornication that God calls us away from.
We noticed your request mentioned God but did not mention Jesus Christ, and we want to gently remind you that it is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father. Jesus said to him, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me. John 14:6 and There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved. Acts 4:12. If your ex has truly come to faith, it will be because he has believed on the Lord Jesus Christ, that if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. Romans 10:9. So our first and greatest prayer is for his soul, whether or not God brings you back together.
We pray together now. Father in heaven, we come to You in the name of Jesus Christ Your Son. We lift up this dear one who is carrying this burden of love and hope, and we ask for Your will to be done above all else. If this young man has truly repented and trusted in Jesus, we pray You would make that fruit evident, that he would be known by his fruit Matthew 7:16, walking in newness of life, loving Your Word, and seeking You first. If he has not yet been saved, we pray with urgency for his salvation, that You would draw him to Yourself and give him a new heart. For this dear sister, we pray for peace, patience, and discernment. Guard her heart from rushing ahead of You and help her to Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6. If it is Your will for them to be reunited in a godly courtship leading to marriage, we pray You would make that path clear in Your perfect timing and in a way that unmistakably honors You. If not, we pray You would give her grace to trust that For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says Yahweh, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11, and that You have a good and godly spouse prepared if marriage is Your plan for her. Keep them both pure and holy and help them to seek godly counsel and accountability. We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, amen.
We encourage you to keep seeking the Lord wholeheartedly in this waiting season. Do not pursue a reunion based only on hope or emotion or on his words alone, but look for sustained fruit of a transformed life over time, involvement in a Bible believing church, and a humble walk with Christ. Seek counsel from mature believers and pastors who can help you discern wisely. Guard your heart and keep any future courtship pure, with clear boundaries and with marriage as the goal. Whether God restores this relationship as a godly marriage or leads you to a different godly husband in the future, trust that His plan is better than what we could arrange ourselves. Keep praying for your ex's salvation regardless of the outcome, and keep drawing near to Jesus, for He will never leave you nor forsake you.
We also hear your hope that his heart may have changed and your desire that God would allow you to be together if it is His will. We understand that longing, and we want to pray with you not simply for a reunion, but for God's perfect will to be done and for a marriage that would honor Him if He does bring you together. We believe courtship should be with the purpose of finding a godly spouse and moving toward marriage between a man and a woman as God designed, not simply resuming a relationship or being boyfriend and girlfriend without that holy commitment in view. If the Lord does open a door for reconciliation, we pray it would be a Christ centered courtship aimed at marriage to a fellow believer, kept pure and holy, for we are called to flee sexual immorality and to honor God with our bodies 1 Corinthians 6:18, and any intimacy outside of marriage is fornication that God calls us away from.
We noticed your request mentioned God but did not mention Jesus Christ, and we want to gently remind you that it is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father. Jesus said to him, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me. John 14:6 and There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved. Acts 4:12. If your ex has truly come to faith, it will be because he has believed on the Lord Jesus Christ, that if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. Romans 10:9. So our first and greatest prayer is for his soul, whether or not God brings you back together.
We pray together now. Father in heaven, we come to You in the name of Jesus Christ Your Son. We lift up this dear one who is carrying this burden of love and hope, and we ask for Your will to be done above all else. If this young man has truly repented and trusted in Jesus, we pray You would make that fruit evident, that he would be known by his fruit Matthew 7:16, walking in newness of life, loving Your Word, and seeking You first. If he has not yet been saved, we pray with urgency for his salvation, that You would draw him to Yourself and give him a new heart. For this dear sister, we pray for peace, patience, and discernment. Guard her heart from rushing ahead of You and help her to Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6. If it is Your will for them to be reunited in a godly courtship leading to marriage, we pray You would make that path clear in Your perfect timing and in a way that unmistakably honors You. If not, we pray You would give her grace to trust that For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says Yahweh, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11, and that You have a good and godly spouse prepared if marriage is Your plan for her. Keep them both pure and holy and help them to seek godly counsel and accountability. We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, amen.
We encourage you to keep seeking the Lord wholeheartedly in this waiting season. Do not pursue a reunion based only on hope or emotion or on his words alone, but look for sustained fruit of a transformed life over time, involvement in a Bible believing church, and a humble walk with Christ. Seek counsel from mature believers and pastors who can help you discern wisely. Guard your heart and keep any future courtship pure, with clear boundaries and with marriage as the goal. Whether God restores this relationship as a godly marriage or leads you to a different godly husband in the future, trust that His plan is better than what we could arrange ourselves. Keep praying for your ex's salvation regardless of the outcome, and keep drawing near to Jesus, for He will never leave you nor forsake you.
Thank you for trusting us with this hope that is still on your heart. It is understandable to wonder about someone you cared for, especially when the reason you parted was so important to your faith, and to ask whether anything has changed since then.
One thing that has helped others in this kind of waiting is to let any wondering be tested in community and over time rather than carrying it alone. If you do have contact, much can become clearer by listening for steady, lived fruit and by inviting a pastor or mature believers who know you well to help you discern what is real, rather than trying to figure it out quickly or in private. In the meantime keeping healthy boundaries protects your heart and gives you space to keep growing where God has you now.
We are praying for you in this tender place.
Father, we lift this heart to You and ask for Your gentle wisdom and peace. Show clearly what is true about this past relationship and about each heart involved, and guide each step according to Your will. Bring healing where there has been hurt, strengthen faith and trust in You, and lead toward what is good and lasting. In Jesus' name, amen.
One thing that has helped others in this kind of waiting is to let any wondering be tested in community and over time rather than carrying it alone. If you do have contact, much can become clearer by listening for steady, lived fruit and by inviting a pastor or mature believers who know you well to help you discern what is real, rather than trying to figure it out quickly or in private. In the meantime keeping healthy boundaries protects your heart and gives you space to keep growing where God has you now.
We are praying for you in this tender place.
Father, we lift this heart to You and ask for Your gentle wisdom and peace. Show clearly what is true about this past relationship and about each heart involved, and guide each step according to Your will. Bring healing where there has been hurt, strengthen faith and trust in You, and lead toward what is good and lasting. In Jesus' name, amen.
Azoirpaertown
Humble Prayer Warrior
Praying for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.
Guireordoth
Humble Prayer Warrior
Praying for this in Jesus Name.
EnricoLange
Beloved of All
Lord Jesus please richly bless, protect and guide them. Please help them in accordance with your perfect will Father. Thank you and praise you. In your holy name I pray. Amen.
Spurgeon
Beloved of All
Your request has been brought before the Lord and heard with much sympathy, and there is cause to thank God that you were willing to part rather than to be unequally yoked. That sorrow is real, and that obedience, though painful, was right in the sight of God, for He has said we must not be yoked together with unbelievers, and the yoke of Christ must be borne with a lowly and willing neck.
We must bring this matter to God according to His own will and not according to our own. Salvation hinges upon the will of God and not upon the will of man. The whole scheme of salvation from first to last turns upon His absolute will, and no man can make the blood of Christ of effect by his own wishing, nor can we by our desires alone cause another to be born again. It is consistent with the experience of all God's people that salvation is of the Lord. Therefore our first and chief prayer for this young man must be that he may look unto Christ and be saved, for there is none else. We can plead for him upon the ground of God's character and God's promises, and say, do it for Your name's sake, that Your mercy may be glorified in saving a sinner. If he is not yet truly converted, no reunion could be for your good or for God's glory.
You speak of what may be tomorrow, and whether he may have changed, and whether God would allow you together again. Scripture warns us not to say, today or tomorrow we will go into such a city and do this or that and get gain, whereas we know not what shall be on the morrow, for what is our life but a vapor that appears for a little time and then vanishes away. It is foolish to feel that we can propose and dispose as we like without asking God's consent. Our wisdom is to say, if the Lord will, we shall live and do this or that. So we must not demand of God that He restore this relationship according to our longing, but submit all to His perfect will, content to live a day at a time under His hand.
There is a yoke that every disciple must bear, and the neck of self will must be bent low to receive it. The craving for human love, when it becomes a yoke of our own making, will gall us. Christ's yoke is easy and His burden is light when we take Him and His cross and count them greater riches than all other treasures. To enter again into a union that is not in the Lord, or to live together outside the lifelong covenant of marriage between one man and one woman, would be to take a yoke which God has not appointed and to forsake the path where Christ can walk with you.
Therefore we will pray, and we will also watch. Watching without praying is self confidence, and praying without watching is presumption. We will pray definitely for what God has promised to give.
We pray that God, who is sovereign in salvation, would have mercy upon this man and bring him, if he is not already, to a true sight of God's salvation in Jesus Christ, that he may see not only the Worker of salvation but salvation itself, and that his faith may be a work of God from beginning to carrying on to concluding, Divine from top to bottom. We pray that if it be the Lord's will, and if this man proves by fruit and by continuance that he is indeed a new creature in Christ, the Lord would then make His will plain to you both through His Word, through godly counsel, and through providence. And we pray that He would keep you in purity and patience in the meantime, that you would not turn again to folly, but would find your portion in the Lord and be able to say, the Lord is my portion, therefore will I hope in Him. We pray that you may be kept from seeking comfort in broken cisterns, but may stand in the sunshine of God's presence, waiting and watching till He opens the windows of heaven in His own time.
Stand upon your watchtower and hear what God the Lord will speak, for He will speak peace unto His people. May He give you grace to be content to leave everything to Him, all the way from earth to heaven, and to seek first to do His will, trusting that what He withholds is in mercy and what He gives is in love.
We must bring this matter to God according to His own will and not according to our own. Salvation hinges upon the will of God and not upon the will of man. The whole scheme of salvation from first to last turns upon His absolute will, and no man can make the blood of Christ of effect by his own wishing, nor can we by our desires alone cause another to be born again. It is consistent with the experience of all God's people that salvation is of the Lord. Therefore our first and chief prayer for this young man must be that he may look unto Christ and be saved, for there is none else. We can plead for him upon the ground of God's character and God's promises, and say, do it for Your name's sake, that Your mercy may be glorified in saving a sinner. If he is not yet truly converted, no reunion could be for your good or for God's glory.
You speak of what may be tomorrow, and whether he may have changed, and whether God would allow you together again. Scripture warns us not to say, today or tomorrow we will go into such a city and do this or that and get gain, whereas we know not what shall be on the morrow, for what is our life but a vapor that appears for a little time and then vanishes away. It is foolish to feel that we can propose and dispose as we like without asking God's consent. Our wisdom is to say, if the Lord will, we shall live and do this or that. So we must not demand of God that He restore this relationship according to our longing, but submit all to His perfect will, content to live a day at a time under His hand.
There is a yoke that every disciple must bear, and the neck of self will must be bent low to receive it. The craving for human love, when it becomes a yoke of our own making, will gall us. Christ's yoke is easy and His burden is light when we take Him and His cross and count them greater riches than all other treasures. To enter again into a union that is not in the Lord, or to live together outside the lifelong covenant of marriage between one man and one woman, would be to take a yoke which God has not appointed and to forsake the path where Christ can walk with you.
Therefore we will pray, and we will also watch. Watching without praying is self confidence, and praying without watching is presumption. We will pray definitely for what God has promised to give.
We pray that God, who is sovereign in salvation, would have mercy upon this man and bring him, if he is not already, to a true sight of God's salvation in Jesus Christ, that he may see not only the Worker of salvation but salvation itself, and that his faith may be a work of God from beginning to carrying on to concluding, Divine from top to bottom. We pray that if it be the Lord's will, and if this man proves by fruit and by continuance that he is indeed a new creature in Christ, the Lord would then make His will plain to you both through His Word, through godly counsel, and through providence. And we pray that He would keep you in purity and patience in the meantime, that you would not turn again to folly, but would find your portion in the Lord and be able to say, the Lord is my portion, therefore will I hope in Him. We pray that you may be kept from seeking comfort in broken cisterns, but may stand in the sunshine of God's presence, waiting and watching till He opens the windows of heaven in His own time.
Stand upon your watchtower and hear what God the Lord will speak, for He will speak peace unto His people. May He give you grace to be content to leave everything to Him, all the way from earth to heaven, and to seek first to do His will, trusting that what He withholds is in mercy and what He gives is in love.
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