We hear your distress and stand with you in the authority of Jesus Christ, who has already defeated every power of darkness. The enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy, but Christ came that we might have life abundantly (John 10:10). Your concern about spiritual attacks is valid, for we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, and against spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places (Ephesians 6:12). However, we must also examine the situation through the lens of Scripture to ensure we are walking in wisdom and truth.
First, we must address the nature of your relationship with this woman. You refer to her as "my woman," but Scripture is clear that unless you are married, she is not your wife. If you are not married, this language reveals a possessiveness that is not biblical. The Bible instructs men to treat women with honor, not as objects to be claimed (1 Peter 3:7). If you are courting her with the intention of marriage, we encourage you to pursue this relationship with purity, patience, and a commitment to godly principles. If you are not married, any sexual involvement would be fornication, which is sin (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). We urge you to repent of any impurity and seek to honor God in this relationship.
Now, regarding the spiritual attacks you are experiencing: the Bible warns us that witchcraft, divination, and all forms of occult involvement are detestable to the Lord (Deuteronomy 18:10-12). If this individual has been involved in such practices, he has opened himself up to the influence of demonic forces. However, we must also consider whether there are areas in your own life where the enemy may have gained a foothold. Have you engaged in any sin, such as unforgiveness, bitterness, lust, or pride, that could be giving the enemy legal ground to harass you? The enemy cannot touch a believer who is walking in righteousness and covered by the blood of Jesus (1 John 5:18). We encourage you to examine your heart and repent of any known sin, for the Lord is faithful to forgive and cleanse us (1 John 1:9).
We also want to address the fear you are experiencing. Fear is not from God; He has given us a spirit of power, love, and a sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7). When we walk in faith, we can resist the devil, and he will flee from us (James 4:7). You have already taken a bold step by cutting this person out of your life, and we commend you for that. Now, we must stand firm in the authority of Jesus Christ. The name of Jesus is above every name, and at His name, every knee must bow (Philippians 2:9-11). There is no power in heaven or on earth that can stand against Him.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the Name that is above every name. We thank You for Your protection and Your power over all the forces of darkness. Lord, we lift up this brother to You and ask that You would surround him with Your angels and fill him with Your peace. We rebuke every spirit of witchcraft, divination, and deception that is seeking to harass him or his household. We cancel every assignment of the enemy against him, his future wife, and their relationship. We declare that no weapon formed against them shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17).
Father, we ask that You would expose any areas in his life where the enemy has gained a foothold. Reveal any sin, unforgiveness, or ungodly soul ties that need to be broken. We pray that You would cleanse him with the blood of Jesus and fill him with Your Holy Spirit. Give him a spirit of discernment to recognize the enemy’s schemes and the courage to stand firm in Your truth.
Lord, we also pray for this woman. If she is being influenced or deceived by this individual, we ask that You would open her eyes to the truth. Protect her mind, her heart, and her spirit from any demonic influence. Draw her closer to You and surround her with godly influences who will speak life and truth into her.
We declare that this brother is covered by the blood of Jesus, and no weapon formed against him shall prosper. We break every curse, every spell, and every assignment of the enemy in the name of Jesus. We command every evil spirit to flee and to go where Jesus Christ sends them. We declare that this brother walks in victory, in faith, and in the authority of Christ.
Father, we ask that You would strengthen his faith and fill him with Your peace. Remind him that You are greater than he who is in the world (1 John 4:4). Help him to fix his eyes on You and not on the attacks of the enemy. We pray that You would restore what the enemy has stolen and bring healing to any areas of his life that have been affected by this spiritual warfare.
We thank You, Lord, for Your faithfulness and for the victory we have in Jesus Christ. We trust in You to protect, guide, and deliver this brother. May Your will be done in his life, and may he walk in the fullness of Your purpose for him. In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you to continue standing firm in your faith. Put on the full armor of God daily (Ephesians 6:10-18) and remain in prayer and the Word. Surround yourself with godly believers who can support and pray with you. The enemy may try to return, but resist him steadfast in the faith (1 Peter 5:8-9). You are not fighting alone; the Lord is your refuge and your strength (Psalm 46:1).
If this woman is someone you are courting with the intention of marriage, we encourage you to seek godly counsel and ensure that your relationship is built on a foundation of faith, purity, and mutual respect. Marriage is a sacred covenant, and it is worth waiting for and pursuing in a way that honors God. If you are not yet married, we urge you to guard your heart and hers, and to commit to walking in holiness before the Lord.