Ennvy and hatred from family members

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My cousins are always judging me. Looking down on me because they have more money and better job. Hes angry with me because I recorded a song mentioning God. He heard it and keeps making fun of me and treating me unjustly. .
 
We join with you in bringing this hurt before the Lord, for we know how painful it is when those closest to us, our own family, look down on us and treat us unjustly.

We hear that your cousins are judging you because they have more money and a better job, and that one of them is mocking you because you recorded a song that mentions God. This kind of envy and contempt is something the Lord sees clearly. The Scripture tells us, For where jealousy and selfish ambition are, there is confusion and every evil deed James 3:16, and A tranquil heart is the life of the flesh, but envy is the rottenness of the bones Proverbs 14:30. Their judgment based on wealth is not God's measure, for man looks at the outward appearance, but Yahweh looks at the heart 1 Samuel 16:7, and Has not God chosen those who are poor in this world to be rich in faith, and heirs of the Kingdom which he promised to those who love him James 2:5. Their mocking you for honoring God is also not new to Him, for Jesus said, Blessed are you when people reproach you, persecute you, and say all kinds of evil against you falsely, for my sake. Rejoice, and be exceedingly glad, for great is your reward in heaven Matthew 5:11-12.

We want to gently encourage you as well. It is easy when we are looked down upon to hold onto hurt, bitterness, or to want to repay them with the same contempt. We must guard our own hearts against returning envy for envy or hatred for hatred. We are called to a different way, But I tell you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who mistreat you and persecute you Matthew 5:44, and Repay no one evil for evil. Respect what is honorable in the sight of all men. If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men. Don't seek revenge yourselves, beloved, but give place to God's wrath. For it is written, Vengeance belongs to me, I will repay, says the Lord Romans 12:17-19. We encourage you not to let their unjust treatment make you bitter, but to commit your cause to the Lord who judges righteously.

We also notice you mentioned God in your song, which is a beautiful desire to use your gift for His glory, yet you did not mention the name of Jesus in your request. We want to lovingly remind you that it is only through Jesus Christ that we have access to the Father and that our worship is made acceptable. Jesus said, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me John 14:6, and There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved Acts 4:12. To mention God generally can mean many things to many people, but to lift up the name of Jesus is to proclaim the one who shed His blood for our sins, died, and rose again so that we might be reconciled to God. If you have not already, we urge you to place your full trust in Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior, confessing your sins and believing in Him, for then your songs and your life become a true testimony of His grace. Continue to sing boldly for Him, for If you are insulted for the name of Christ, you are blessed, because the Spirit of glory and of God rests on you 1 Peter 4:14.

We pray together for you and for your family.

Father, in the name of Jesus Christ we come before You together for our dear one who is hurting from envy and mockery within his own family. Lord, You see the way his cousins have judged him and looked down on him for worldly measures of money and position, and how he has been mocked for seeking to honor You with his music. We ask You to comfort his heart and remind him that his worth is not in wealth or status but in being Your child, created for Your purpose. Help him to find his contentment in You, knowing that godliness with contentment is great gain 1 Timothy 6:6, and that You will supply all his needs according to Your riches in glory Philippians 4:19. Give him strength to endure this reproach with grace, to not grow weary in doing good, and to continue to use the gift of music You have given him to glorify the name of Jesus without shame or fear, for we know if God is for us, who can be against us Romans 8:31. Soften the hearts of his cousins, Lord. Remove envy and pride from them and open their eyes to see that they are sinners in need of Your mercy just as we all are. Bring them to repentance and salvation through Jesus Christ, and where possible, bring reconciliation and peace to this family. Help our brother to love them, to pray for them, and to forgive as You have forgiven us, and to leave all justice in Your righteous hands. We ask all this in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our only hope and Savior, amen.

We encourage you to keep your eyes on Christ and not on their approval. Keep recording and singing for the Lord if He has put this on your heart, and do so boldly in the name of Jesus. Pray daily for your cousins by name, blessing them rather than cursing them, and entrust your reputation to God. He saw Joseph envied and rejected by his own brothers, and yet God meant it for good Genesis 50:20. He will use even this trial to refine you and to make you more like Christ if you remain faithful.
 
We hear how heavy this has felt, being looked down on by your own cousins for not having the same money or job, and then being mocked for making a song that mentions God. When family treats you unjustly like that, it can leave you feeling small and alone even when you have done nothing wrong.

It can help to separate their comparison from your worth. When people keep measuring themselves against others and need to feel above someone, their comments often say more about that habit of comparison than about who you really are. That does not take away the sting, but it can keep their judgment from settling in as the truth about you.

We also noticed you chose to honor God openly in your music, and then faced ridicule for it. It makes sense that would hurt, and it also shows courage in how you want to live.

A couple of steady next steps that may help:

Try to decide ahead of time what you will and will not engage. If a gathering turns to belittling talk about jobs or to making fun of your song, it is okay to quietly step away or change the subject rather than defending yourself in the moment. And keep sharing your music where it is received with respect, with friends or a faith community who appreciate that part of you, so one painful response does not silence something meaningful to you.

Father, we lift our brother to You. You see how he has been treated and how much he wants to be respected and understood. Give him wisdom for these family relationships, peace when mockery comes, and people nearby who will encourage his gifts and his faith. Keep his heart soft toward You and steady in the days ahead. In Jesus' name, amen.
 
The trial you describe is one that cuts deeply, to be looked down upon by your own family for lack of money or position, and then to be mocked for honoring the Lord in your song. The Lord sees this unjust treatment, and He does not despise the faith that moved you to mention His name.

Scripture teaches us that such little oppositions as we meet with now are permitted for our good. They are overruled to make us feel that this world is not our rest and to cause us to long for the better land, and to get more faith out of more trial. When you are reviled for Christ's sake you are in blessed company, and God will use even this scorn to strengthen you and to prove His faithfulness, as experience teaches that courage once apt to waver is confirmed.

Take comfort in this sure ground, Thy mercy, O Lord, endureth for ever, forsake not the works of thine own hands. The Lord will perfect that which concerneth you. What He has begun in mercy He will not leave unfinished. Though your faith may feel small under this contempt, remember that little faith is still true faith. It was bought with the same blood as great faith, it belongs to the same family of the saved, and Christ Himself is both the author and sustainer of it. Your returning Lord cares nothing for the treasures of the rich or the honors of the great. He looks for faith, and He knows where to find it because He created it and keeps its flame burning.

Do not let envy take root when your cousins boast in riches or place. Those things pass away, but faith endures and alone can please God, for without faith it is impossible to please Him. Meet their judgment and mockery not with anger in return, but with quiet grace. Pray for them, that the Lord would open their eyes to their own need of Christ. Continue to sing unto the Lord as He gives you voice, not to please men but to please Him who has set you apart as a vessel for His use.

Let us pray together. O Lord, Thou seest Thy servant who is despised and mocked for Thy name's sake. Comfort his heart with the assurance that Thy mercy endureth for ever and that Thou wilt perfect all that concerneth him. Strengthen his faith though it be but little, and keep it burning by Thy grace. Forgive those who treat him unjustly and bring them to know Thy Son, and help him to walk before them in meekness and love, looking to Jesus alone. Make this trial to work for his good and for Thy glory, and keep him faithful till Thou callest him home. In Jesus name, Amen.
 
May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

🙏Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, the way You want me to know You. So that I will trust You with my life and anyway that You move in my life. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps and actions. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

Heal Me Lord Jesus Spirit, Soul, And Body
 

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