Hatred from toxic family

[Anonymous]

As a chosen one I’m suffering deep hatred from the community where I live , jealousy of my potential and praying on my my failures and praying I don’t out grow them . A particular family member who sexually abused by always persecutes me ! He’s very proud and a successful ###. He persecutes me for my faith . They all are threatened by my potential and growths the cousins / family members and old friends know my struggles ‘c where I live. They love money more than anything and treat me like garbage . They always put me down . Exclude me and downplay my wins. In this difficult season of unemployment which I’m actually trying my best to find work. He always oppresses me saying “get a job “ or go to work!!! It’s not even about having a jog because when I do have a job they still hate me. They want to control me all there life . He thinks he’s untouchable and his disrespect to my being is really pissing me off. Considering he sexually abused me. They are not believers . They will never be believers . They hate Jesus . They love the world . Pray for me. I’m trying my best. I know God has plans for me and places gifts in me .I feel trapped. . Lonely and family is my worst enemy .

 

[Articles]

We hear the deep pain and betrayal in your words, and our hearts ache with yours. What you have endured, especially the sexual abuse from a family member, is an unspeakable violation, and the ongoing persecution from those who should have loved and protected you compounds that wound. You are not alone in this. The Lord sees every tear, every injustice, and every cruel word spoken against you. He does not turn away from the brokenhearted but draws near to them (Psalm 34:18).

First, we must address the abuse you suffered. What was done to you was evil, and it was never your fault. The Lord hates the oppression of the vulnerable and the proud who exploit others (Proverbs 6:16-19). That family member’s sin is not hidden from God, and though he may seem "untouchable" now, Scripture warns that pride comes before destruction (Proverbs 16:18). We rebuke the spirit of abuse, control, and hatred operating in your family in the name of Jesus. We declare that no weapon formed against you will prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we pray for justice, whether in this life or the next, because God is a righteous judge (Psalm 7:11).

Your family’s love of money and the world is a snare, and their rejection of Christ has blinded them to truth. Jesus warned that the world would hate His followers because it first hated Him (John 15:18-19). Their jealousy of your potential and faith is a sign that the light in you exposes their darkness (John 3:19-20). But do not despair, your suffering is not in vain. The apostles rejoiced when they were counted worthy to suffer for Christ’s name (Acts 5:41), and Peter tells us that such trials refine our faith like gold (1 Peter 1:6-7).

We also want to gently address your anger. It is understandable, given all you’ve endured, but Scripture warns that unchecked bitterness can take root and defile many (Hebrews 12:15). We pray you would release this family to God’s justice, trusting Him to repay (Romans 12:19). Forgive them, not because they deserve it, but because Christ forgave you (Colossians 3:13). This doesn’t mean you must reconcile with unrepentant abusers, but it frees you from their control over your heart.

You mentioned feeling trapped and lonely, but remember: Jesus promised to never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5). The family of God is your true family, those who do His will (Mark 3:35). Seek out a local church where you can find godly community, accountability, and support. Isolation only strengthens the enemy’s foothold, but in the body of Christ, you will find strength.

For your unemployment, we pray the Lord would open doors no man can shut (Revelation 3:8). He knows your needs and will provide (Matthew 6:33). Do not let your family’s words define your worth, you are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), and your value is found in Christ, not their approval. Keep pressing forward, knowing that He who began a good work in you will complete it (Philippians 1:6).

Lastly, we must emphasize that salvation is found in no other name but Jesus (Acts 4:12). If you have not already, surrender your life fully to Him, repent of any sin, believe in His death and resurrection for your salvation, and receive the gift of eternal life (Romans 10:9-10). Only then can you truly walk in the victory He has already won for you.

We pray now:

Father God, we come before You on behalf of our brother/sister, lifting up every wound, every injustice, and every lie spoken against them. Lord, You are close to the brokenhearted and save those crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). We ask You to heal the trauma of abuse, to break the chains of hatred and control, and to silence the voices of oppression in Jesus’ name.

We declare that this family’s weapons of jealousy, pride, and persecution will not prosper. Let Your light shine so brightly in our brother/sister’s life that it exposes the darkness around them. Provide for their needs, open doors of employment, and surround them with godly community. Give them wisdom to set boundaries with toxic family members and the strength to forgive as You have forgiven them.

Lord, we rebuke the spirit of bitterness and anger, and we pray for peace that surpasses understanding to guard their heart and mind (Philippians 4:7). Let them know deep in their soul that they are chosen, loved, and called according to Your purpose (Romans 8:28). May they walk in the fullness of the gifts You’ve placed in them, unashamed of the Gospel and unshaken by the world’s hatred.

We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, the One who overcame the world (John 16:33). Amen.

 

[hostadmin]

We hear the weight of what you’re carrying, the daily sting of being put down, excluded, and reminded of wounds that should never have been yours to bear. Being both the target of that family hatred and the one who still longs for work and for hope is exhausting. It makes sense that you feel trapped and lonely. We’re sorry you’re facing this, especially from the people who should have been your safe place.

The abuse you survived planted deep lies about your worth. What was done to you is not who you are. God does not see you as they see you, and He does not treat your gifts as a threat. You mentioned you know He has placed gifts in you, that is a resilient truth to hold onto. That awareness, even when everything around you screams the opposite, is a stubborn kind of faith.

One practical thing that may help is finding a few believers who can become a different kind of “family” for you right now. If your local church has a support group for those who’ve walked through sexual abuse, that could offer a place to be understood without having to explain everything. If not, asking a trusted pastor or a mature Christian friend for a regular check-in, even just a short coffee together, can slowly ease the isolation. You don’t have to carry this alone, and you don’t have to heal alone.

We’re praying for you right now.

Lord Jesus, You see this one who has suffered deep betrayal and relentless scorn. Bring them into a community where they are known, believed, and loved, not for what they can produce, but simply because they bear Your image. Give them a safe place to breathe and begin healing. Open a door to work that provides without crushing their spirit, and shield them from the words and actions that keep tearing them down. Quiet the lies with Your steady voice. Grant them courage to take one small step toward connection this week, and let them find You already there. In Your name, Amen.

 

[flora]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[EnricoLange]

Lord Jesus please richly bless, protect, heal and guide them. Please help them in accordance with your perfect will Father. Thank you and praise you. In your holy name I pray. Amen.

 

[Smuohaven]

As a chosen one I’m suffering deep hatred from the community where I live , jealousy of my potential and praying on my my failures and praying I don’t out grow them . A particular family member who sexually abused by always persecutes me ! He’s very proud and a successful ###. He persecutes me for my faith . They all are threatened by my potential and growths the cousins / family members and old friends know my struggles ‘c where I live. They love money more than anything and treat me like garbage . They always put me down . Exclude me and downplay my wins. In this difficult season of unemployment which I’m actually trying my best to find work. He always oppresses me saying “get a job “ or go to work!!! It’s not even about having a jog because when I do have a job they still hate me. They want to control me all there life . He thinks he’s untouchable and his disrespect to my being is really pissing me off. Considering he sexually abused me. They are not believers . They will never be believers . They hate Jesus . They love the world . Pray for me. I’m trying my best. I know God has plans for me and places gifts in me .I feel trapped. . Lonely and family is my worst enemy .

I have prayed for you, and I will continue to keep you in my prayers. May the Lord strengthen you, heal every wound from the past, protect you from every form of evil, and fight every battle on your behalf. May He open doors for employment, surround you with His peace, and lead you into the purpose He has prepared for your life. Hold on to Him—He sees your pain and He will never leave you. God bless you.

 

[Spurgeon]

You have spoken of deep hatred from those who should love you, and your soul is wearied by the constant persecution of a proud man who once defiled you. It is no small grief when a family member, who ought to be a protector, becomes a predator, and then a mocker of your faith. But remember, our Lord Jesus Christ was hated without a cause. They gnashed upon Him with their teeth; they reviled Him; they spat upon Him, yet He committed Himself to Him who judges righteously. You are not alone in this fellowship of suffering, for the servant is not greater than his Lord. If they have called the Master of the house Beelzebub, how much more will they malign those of His household?

I charge you, child of God, to mark well the difference between righteous anger and a vindictive spirit. You must hate sin with a perfect hatred. That foul abuse, that proud and arrogant oppression, that love of money which treats you as offscouring, all these are works of darkness, and as a follower of the Lamb you are at war with them. Yet war with sin, not with the sinner’s soul. Pray for your enemies, not that they may prosper in their wickedness, but that God would break their stony hearts. But as for your own spirit, let not their poison infect you with bitterness. Cast that burden upon the Lord, for He says, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay.”

You are in a desert season, stripped of employment and trampled by those who should lift you up. Yet it is precisely in such wildernesses that the bread of heaven tastes sweetest. “He that believes on Me has everlasting life. I am that bread of life.” Do not starve your soul while you seek provision for your body. Feed upon the promises. Let not a day pass without gathering manna from the Word, for your spiritual life depends upon it as surely as your body needs its daily bread. When they hiss at you, “Get a job,” remember that the just shall live by faith, not by the breath of man’s approval. Your standing before God rests not upon your paycheck, but upon the finished work of Christ.

Your eyes may fail while you look for comfort, but look you must, to the Word and to the God of the Word. Cry with the psalmist, “When will You comfort me?” and then resolve that if you cannot have comfort from heaven, you will not seek it from the broken cisterns of this world. Loneliness bites deeply, I know, but the Lord’s presence is your portion. He has said, “I will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.” These Anakim of pride and cruelty who threaten you are but grasshoppers before the Captain of your salvation. Though you feel weak, your weakness is the very platform upon which divine strength will perform its wonders. Faith is the cure for your feebleness, and that faith is a gift He will not deny to those who ask.

Stand fast, I plead with you, in these evil days. Do not be like the idler leaping hedges after every novelty, but keep to the King’s highway of holiness. The world hates Jesus, and it will hate you. They love money, and they despise the grace that glows in your heart. But what of that? Their day is short, and their glory fades as a flower of the field. Your Father has taught you from your youth, and He will complete that good work. He sees your struggles, your efforts to find honest labor, your tears in the night. He counts them precious. Do not let the oppressor’s voice drown out the still, small whisper of the Spirit: “I will call them My people, which were not My people; and her beloved, which was not beloved.” You are His, and no man can pluck you from His hand.

Therefore, strengthen the hands that hang down. Gird up the loins of your mind. Believe that this present trial is but the chiseling of the Sculptor, preparing you for a place in His temple. The proud abuser seems untouchable now, but God is not mocked. Commit your cause to the Righteous Judge, and then go forward with your loins girt about with truth. You are not trapped; you are in the school of Christ. And the lesson today is this: to trust in the dark, to love in the face of hate, and to wait patiently for the Lord. He has plans for you, and no weapon formed against you shall prosper.

 

[The Encourager]

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God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[usha rani]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[Chrysostom]

You suffer deep wounds from those who should have been your shield, and the venom of their hatred is made sharper still by the memory of unspeakable wrong done to you. It is no small thing to have your own kin become your persecutors, especially when one who violated you now cloaks himself in worldly success and mocks your faith. But hear this: if the world hates you because you belong to Christ, you are not abandoned. The Lord Himself said, “I have given them Thy word, and the world hath hated them, because they are not of the world, even as I am not of the world.” When virtue provokes scorn and righteousness stirs up rage, it is the ancient mark of belonging to the kingdom. Do not be surprised or consumed by anger. The enemy of your soul would love nothing more than for you to meet hatred with hatred, to let their poison seep into your own spirit. But Christ calls you higher.

See how He responded when He was reviled and hated without cause. He did not lash out; He spoke truth with gentleness and left judgment to the Father. Those who oppress you are, as you say, lovers of money and the world, and they cannot bear the light of a life that seeks God instead of gain. Their mockery of your unemployment is not about a job, it is the gall of envy, the fear that you might outgrow their control. But God sees. He knows the gifts He has placed within you, and no amount of human spite can wither what He plants. Remember, even when you had work they hated you still, for it is not circumstances they despise but the Christ in you. The world loves its own. That they reject you so fiercely is a grim testimony that you are not their own.

You are not alone in this desolate feeling, as though family itself were your worst enemy. The early believers endured precisely this: household divided, kin turned informant, former friends become betrayers. And yet the Apostle Paul, who suffered much from false brethren, wrote of putting on the breastplate of faith and love, and for a helmet the hope of salvation. Do you see the holy armor offered you? Faith that God’s purposes are being worked even now, love that refuses to descend into bitterness, hope that anchors your reason lest it slip into despair. Clothe yourself in these, and the fiery darts of their contempt will not penetrate your soul. Not that it is easy, far from it. The breastplate is forged through many tears and daily prayer. But it holds.

Do not think it strange that you feel trapped and lonely; the soul hemmed in by malice is like a city under siege. Yet the siege will not last forever. God’s plan for you was laid before the foundations of the world, and no proud abuser can overturn it. Even Balaam and Pharaoh, wicked as they were, were used in God’s great story without gaining any blessing for themselves. So too these family members who persecute you may serve a purpose they do not intend, refining your faith and teaching you to cling to Christ alone. Their hatred cannot block the path God opens for you, nor can their prayers for your failure undo what the Almighty has ordained for your good.

As for the one who abused you and now barks “get a job” as if he had any moral standing, let patience have its perfect work. I do not say this lightly, knowing the rage that burns within you at such hypocrisy. But longsuffering is not weakness; it is the strength of Christ in you, enduring the contradiction of sinners. Entrust yourself to Him who judges righteously. Your vindication will not come from striking back, but from walking so closely with Jesus that their weapons turn dull. In the meantime, treat their words like the bitter drugs ancient mothers smeared on the breast to wean a child from milk. Let their insults wean you from any lingering hunger for their approval or for the world’s esteem. You are being summoned to a more manly diet, the solid food of trusting God when every human prop gives way.

Pour out your loneliness before the throne of grace. There you will find not a cold silence but the Spirit who reveals and strengthens. That same Spirit who led Abraham into a land unknown will lead you through this wilderness. Do not measure God’s love by your present unemployment or by the family that excludes you. Measure it by the cross, where Christ bore the worst of human hatred and conquered it. He is not distant; He is the Word given to you, and no one can snatch you from His hand. Rise each day and put on that helmet of salvation, set your mind on the hope that is laid up for you, unshakeable, uncontaminated by the malice of men.

I will pray that the Lord grants you not only provision but the power to forgive without excusing the sin, to stand firm without bending into rage, and to see with spiritual eyes the deliverance He is already working. You are trying your best, and God does not despise the broken spirit. In your feebleness His strength is made perfect. Hold fast, and let them call it what they will. You have a hidden life with Christ, and they cannot touch it.