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We understand the weight of your request, and we are here to seek God’s will with you in this important matter. The decision of marriage is one of the most significant choices a person can make, and it must be rooted in God’s wisdom, not human emotions or fleeting desires. The Bible makes it clear that God’s design for marriage is a lifelong covenant between one man and one woman, and it is not to be entered into lightly or without prayerful consideration. As believers, we are called to seek first His kingdom and His righteousness (Matthew 6:33), and that includes our relationships.
First, we must address something critical in your request: you mention having *two men* in your life who both want to marry you. This situation is not aligned with biblical principles. A woman courting two men simultaneously is not honoring to God, nor is it fair to either man. The Bible teaches us to walk in integrity and purity, avoiding even the appearance of evil (1 Thessalonians 5:22). Courtship should be intentional, purposeful, and directed toward marriage with *one* person who is a believer in Christ. Having two men pursuing you at the same time creates confusion, division, and potential for sin—whether in the heart, mind, or actions. This is not the way of holiness.
We also want to gently but firmly remind you that if either of these relationships has involved physical intimacy outside of marriage, that is sin—specifically fornication—and must be repented of immediately. The Bible is clear: *"Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s"* (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). If this has been the case, we urge you to repent, turn away from this sin, and seek God’s forgiveness and cleansing. He is faithful to forgive when we confess (1 John 1:9).
Now, let’s turn to the matter of discerning God’s will. You say you want to *"marry right,"* and that is a godly desire! But marrying right begins with *seeking right*—seeking God first, above all else. Have you asked yourself: *Are both of these men believers in Jesus Christ?* The Bible is unequivocal: *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship has righteousness with unrighteousness? What communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14). If either of these men is not a born-again believer, the choice is already clear—you cannot marry him. A marriage built on anything other than a shared faith in Christ is built on sinking sand.
If both men are believers, then you must prayerfully examine their character, their walk with the Lord, and their alignment with Scripture. Does either man exhibit the qualities of a godly husband as described in God’s Word? *"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for her"* (Ephesians 5:25). Is he a man of prayer? Does he lead spiritually? Is he humble, patient, and selfless? Does he demonstrate the fruit of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23)? These are not optional traits—they are evidence of a life surrendered to Christ.
We also encourage you to examine your own heart. Are you seeking a husband who will point you to Christ, or are you being swayed by emotions, attraction, or worldly standards? *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4). When your heart is fully surrendered to God, your desires will align with His, and He will guide your steps.
You asked God to *"close the door"* for you, and we believe He will—if you are willing to obey. But sometimes, God doesn’t just close doors; He asks us to *walk away* from the ones that are not His will. He may be waiting for you to take a step of faith and obedience by ending one or both of these relationships so that His perfect will can unfold. *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6).
Lastly, we notice that your request did not mention the name of Jesus Christ. This is not a small matter. The Bible tells us, *"There is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5). There is no other name by which we can approach the Father (John 14:6), and there is no salvation apart from faith in Jesus (Acts 4:12). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Christ, we urge you to do so now. Confess your sins, believe in your heart that Jesus died for you and rose again, and invite Him to be your Lord and Savior (Romans 10:9-10). Without this foundation, no amount of prayer or seeking will lead you to God’s best.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our sister who is seeking Your will in this critical decision. Lord, we ask that You open her eyes to see clearly, her ears to hear Your voice, and her heart to discern Your perfect plan. Father, if there is any sin in her life—whether in her relationships, her thoughts, or her actions—we ask that You convict her by Your Holy Spirit and lead her to repentance. Cleanse her, Lord, and make her whole.
We pray that You would close every door that is not of You. If either of these relationships is not Your will, give her the strength and courage to walk away in obedience, trusting that You have something far better. Lord, if she has been entertaining two men at once, convict her of this and lead her to make things right before You. Help her to honor You in her courtship, keeping it pure, intentional, and directed toward a godly marriage.
Father, we ask that You reveal the heart of each man involved. If they are not walking with You, expose it. If they are not the husband You have for her, remove them from her life. But if one of them *is* Your choice, make it undeniably clear to her. Give her wisdom beyond her years, discernment beyond her understanding, and a peace that surpasses all comprehension as she waits on You.
We rebuke any confusion, distraction, or deception from the enemy. No weapon formed against her shall prosper, and every tongue that rises against her in judgment, she shall condemn (Isaiah 54:17). Let her steps be ordered by You, Lord, and let her marriage be a testimony of Your goodness, faithfulness, and glory.
Finally, Father, if our sister does not yet know You as her Savior, we pray that today would be the day of her salvation. Draw her to Jesus, Lord. Let her see her need for Him and surrender her life completely to His lordship. May she find her identity, security, and future in Christ alone.
We ask all these things in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
We encourage you to spend time in fasting and prayer, seeking God’s face without distraction. Read His Word daily, and ask Him to speak to you through it. Surround yourself with mature believers who can offer godly counsel. And remember: God’s timing is perfect. Do not rush ahead of Him, and do not settle for anything less than His very best. He who began a good work in you will complete it (Philippians 1:6). Trust Him.
First, we must address something critical in your request: you mention having *two men* in your life who both want to marry you. This situation is not aligned with biblical principles. A woman courting two men simultaneously is not honoring to God, nor is it fair to either man. The Bible teaches us to walk in integrity and purity, avoiding even the appearance of evil (1 Thessalonians 5:22). Courtship should be intentional, purposeful, and directed toward marriage with *one* person who is a believer in Christ. Having two men pursuing you at the same time creates confusion, division, and potential for sin—whether in the heart, mind, or actions. This is not the way of holiness.
We also want to gently but firmly remind you that if either of these relationships has involved physical intimacy outside of marriage, that is sin—specifically fornication—and must be repented of immediately. The Bible is clear: *"Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s"* (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). If this has been the case, we urge you to repent, turn away from this sin, and seek God’s forgiveness and cleansing. He is faithful to forgive when we confess (1 John 1:9).
Now, let’s turn to the matter of discerning God’s will. You say you want to *"marry right,"* and that is a godly desire! But marrying right begins with *seeking right*—seeking God first, above all else. Have you asked yourself: *Are both of these men believers in Jesus Christ?* The Bible is unequivocal: *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship has righteousness with unrighteousness? What communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14). If either of these men is not a born-again believer, the choice is already clear—you cannot marry him. A marriage built on anything other than a shared faith in Christ is built on sinking sand.
If both men are believers, then you must prayerfully examine their character, their walk with the Lord, and their alignment with Scripture. Does either man exhibit the qualities of a godly husband as described in God’s Word? *"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for her"* (Ephesians 5:25). Is he a man of prayer? Does he lead spiritually? Is he humble, patient, and selfless? Does he demonstrate the fruit of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23)? These are not optional traits—they are evidence of a life surrendered to Christ.
We also encourage you to examine your own heart. Are you seeking a husband who will point you to Christ, or are you being swayed by emotions, attraction, or worldly standards? *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4). When your heart is fully surrendered to God, your desires will align with His, and He will guide your steps.
You asked God to *"close the door"* for you, and we believe He will—if you are willing to obey. But sometimes, God doesn’t just close doors; He asks us to *walk away* from the ones that are not His will. He may be waiting for you to take a step of faith and obedience by ending one or both of these relationships so that His perfect will can unfold. *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6).
Lastly, we notice that your request did not mention the name of Jesus Christ. This is not a small matter. The Bible tells us, *"There is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5). There is no other name by which we can approach the Father (John 14:6), and there is no salvation apart from faith in Jesus (Acts 4:12). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Christ, we urge you to do so now. Confess your sins, believe in your heart that Jesus died for you and rose again, and invite Him to be your Lord and Savior (Romans 10:9-10). Without this foundation, no amount of prayer or seeking will lead you to God’s best.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our sister who is seeking Your will in this critical decision. Lord, we ask that You open her eyes to see clearly, her ears to hear Your voice, and her heart to discern Your perfect plan. Father, if there is any sin in her life—whether in her relationships, her thoughts, or her actions—we ask that You convict her by Your Holy Spirit and lead her to repentance. Cleanse her, Lord, and make her whole.
We pray that You would close every door that is not of You. If either of these relationships is not Your will, give her the strength and courage to walk away in obedience, trusting that You have something far better. Lord, if she has been entertaining two men at once, convict her of this and lead her to make things right before You. Help her to honor You in her courtship, keeping it pure, intentional, and directed toward a godly marriage.
Father, we ask that You reveal the heart of each man involved. If they are not walking with You, expose it. If they are not the husband You have for her, remove them from her life. But if one of them *is* Your choice, make it undeniably clear to her. Give her wisdom beyond her years, discernment beyond her understanding, and a peace that surpasses all comprehension as she waits on You.
We rebuke any confusion, distraction, or deception from the enemy. No weapon formed against her shall prosper, and every tongue that rises against her in judgment, she shall condemn (Isaiah 54:17). Let her steps be ordered by You, Lord, and let her marriage be a testimony of Your goodness, faithfulness, and glory.
Finally, Father, if our sister does not yet know You as her Savior, we pray that today would be the day of her salvation. Draw her to Jesus, Lord. Let her see her need for Him and surrender her life completely to His lordship. May she find her identity, security, and future in Christ alone.
We ask all these things in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
We encourage you to spend time in fasting and prayer, seeking God’s face without distraction. Read His Word daily, and ask Him to speak to you through it. Surround yourself with mature believers who can offer godly counsel. And remember: God’s timing is perfect. Do not rush ahead of Him, and do not settle for anything less than His very best. He who began a good work in you will complete it (Philippians 1:6). Trust Him.
Dear sister, we're here with you, seeking God's will for your life. We understand the complexity of your situation and we're praying with you.
First, we want to encourage you to trust in God's timing and His love for you. He has a perfect plan for your life, including your future spouse. As it says in Jeremiah 29:11, "For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
We also want to remind you that God calls us to live in holiness and purity (1 Thessalonians 4:3-4). This includes our relationships. It's important to honor God in all aspects of our lives, including our romantic relationships. We encourage you to take a step back and evaluate your current relationships. Are they honoring to God? Are they leading you towards a godly marriage?
We're praying for you, that God would give you clarity and wisdom in this situation. We ask that He would close any doors that are not His will for your life. We also pray that you would have the courage to walk away from any relationships that are not aligned with His will, trusting that He has something far better for you.
Lastly, we want to remind you that God's ways are not our ways, and His thoughts are not our thoughts (Isaiah 55:8-9). Trust in Him, even when the path is unclear. He sees the bigger picture and He knows what's best for you.
Let's keep praying together, seeking God's face, and trusting in His perfect plan for your life.
First, we want to encourage you to trust in God's timing and His love for you. He has a perfect plan for your life, including your future spouse. As it says in Jeremiah 29:11, "For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
We also want to remind you that God calls us to live in holiness and purity (1 Thessalonians 4:3-4). This includes our relationships. It's important to honor God in all aspects of our lives, including our romantic relationships. We encourage you to take a step back and evaluate your current relationships. Are they honoring to God? Are they leading you towards a godly marriage?
We're praying for you, that God would give you clarity and wisdom in this situation. We ask that He would close any doors that are not His will for your life. We also pray that you would have the courage to walk away from any relationships that are not aligned with His will, trusting that He has something far better for you.
Lastly, we want to remind you that God's ways are not our ways, and His thoughts are not our thoughts (Isaiah 55:8-9). Trust in Him, even when the path is unclear. He sees the bigger picture and He knows what's best for you.
Let's keep praying together, seeking God's face, and trusting in His perfect plan for your life.
Isaac Samuel Lubwama
Faithful Servant
Praying in Jesus Name.
Cinu
Beloved of All
Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.
Some resources that might help.
Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)
Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)
Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)
Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)
Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)
Help in Prayer
Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)
Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)
sermons
Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.
Some resources that might help.
Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)
Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)
Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)
Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)
Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)
Help in Prayer
Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)
Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)
sermons
Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”
The Encourager
The Encourager
I prayed that God in Jesus' name will answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God Loves You. Thank You Jesus!!!
Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.
Healed Spirit Soul And Body
Healed Spirit Soul And Body
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