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I posted this recently: "One of my coworkers recently expressed an interest in dating me. He is a professing Christian but confused about certain things and even holds to false teachings in some ways. There is also a large age gap but he looks much younger than he is. He is an extremely sweet, amazing person and I do like him back. I'm not very sure where this is going or if this is 100% the spouse God has for me. In some ways, this is all moving very fast, in other ways, it's moving normally. He is very, very good at the work we do at our job (we're in the same department) and even though he just started the job along with me (we trained together for the past month), he's already being promoted to more responsibility in his position. He's hoping to move to a different department in a few months. Please pray for him as the new responsibilities involve a lot of work and he says he felt kind of thrown to the wolves in the way he was trained and then put out into actually doing the job. Pray for him in all his endeavors. I am worried that we are moving really fast although I like him. Please pray that God would slow things down and, if it's in His will, allow things to work out with us. Please pray for him. He has been having problems with his internet provider since Sunday and his internet went out just now toward the end of his shift causing him to have to leave from work early. We work from home and our company has an extremely strict attendance policy especially when you're in your first 60 days which we are now as new employees. I'm worried because I feel like bad things always start to happen to people when I get close to them (for a number of reasons). Please pray this isn't happening to him. Please pray that our conversations each day would be honoring to God and that we would not be tempted in anyway especially toward sexual topics or thoughts or other things. He's not feeling well today. He's having acid reflux. Please pray for him." Please pray that God would allow us to end up together. I would love to marry him. Thank you.
 
We hear your heart and the complexity of your situation, and we lift it all before the Lord in prayer. First, we must address the foundational truth that every decision, especially one as significant as marriage, must be rooted in seeking God’s will above our own desires. The Bible reminds us in Proverbs 3:5-6, "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight." This is a season to slow down, seek wisdom, and allow God to reveal His perfect plan for you both.

The age gap and the speed at which this relationship is developing are not inherently sinful, but they do require careful discernment. Scripture warns us in 1 Corinthians 15:33, "Don’t be deceived! ‘Evil companionships corrupt good morals.’" While your coworker may be a kind and godly man in many ways, his confusion about certain biblical truths and adherence to false teachings are red flags that cannot be ignored. Marriage is a covenant before God, and it is vital that a spouse shares not just affection but a unified faith grounded in Scripture. We must pray fervently for his spiritual growth and alignment with God’s Word, for "Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?" (Amos 3:3).

The temptation toward sexual thoughts or conversations is a serious concern, as the Bible is clear that intimacy is reserved for marriage alone. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 warns, "Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit which is in you, which you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s." We must rebuke any hint of compromise in this area and pray for purity in both heart and mind.

Your fear that "bad things always start to happen" when you grow close to someone is understandable, but we must reject the lie that this is somehow a spiritual attack tied to your worth or God’s favor. Trials and hardships are part of life, and they do not necessarily indicate God’s displeasure. Instead, we trust in Romans 8:28, "We know that all things work together for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to his purpose." We pray that God would use even the challenges your coworker is facing, his health, work stress, and internet issues, for His glory and your mutual growth.

It is also critical to address the practical concerns of this relationship. Working together, especially in the early stages of a potential courtship, can complicate matters. The Bible does not forbid workplace relationships, but it does call us to wisdom and discretion. Proverbs 22:3 warns, "A prudent man sees danger and hides himself, but the simple pass on and suffer for it." If this relationship is to move forward, we encourage you to seek godly counsel from mature believers outside your workplace and to consider how your professional roles might be affected.

Most importantly, we must emphasize that our prayers and hopes for marriage must always be submitted to God’s timing and will. Psalm 37:4-5 reminds us, "Also delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this." If this man is indeed the spouse God has for you, He will confirm it in His perfect timing. If not, He has someone even better prepared for you, someone who will lead you both closer to Christ.

Let us pray together:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with humble hearts, seeking Your wisdom and guidance for our sister in this situation. Lord, we ask that You would slow down the pace of this relationship and give her clarity to discern Your will. If this man is the spouse You have prepared for her, we pray that You would align his heart with Yours, correct any false teachings he holds to, and draw him into a deeper relationship with You. If this is not Your plan, we ask that You would close the door gently and prepare her heart to trust in Your timing.

Father, we rebuke any temptation toward impurity in their conversations or thoughts. Guard their hearts and minds in Christ Jesus, and let their interactions be honoring to You. We pray for protection over their work, their health, and their spirits. Strengthen them both in times of stress and uncertainty, and remind them that You are their Provider and Sustainer.

Lord, we ask that You would reveal Yourself to this man in a powerful way. Soften his heart to receive Your truth, and surround him with godly mentors who can disciple him in the faith. For our sister, we pray that You would fill her with peace and confidence in Your plan, even if it looks different from what she desires. Help her to wait on You and to trust that Your ways are higher than her ways.

We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the Author and Perfecter of our faith, the One who holds all things together, and the only Name by which we can come before You. May Your will be done in this situation, and may Your glory be the ultimate outcome. Amen.

We encourage you to spend time in prayer and fasting, seeking God’s face for clarity. Surround yourself with godly mentors who can speak truth into this situation, and commit to honoring God in every step. Marriage is a beautiful gift, but it is not the ultimate goal, knowing and serving Christ is. Trust that He will lead you to the spouse He has prepared for you, in His perfect timing.
 
We sense how much you care for him, and the mixture of hope and worry in your words is one we understand. It is not wrong to want to marry a good man; that longing can be a beautiful thing. So you have our genuine warmth and our prayers right alongside your own.

The part we want to touch gently is your fear that bad things start happening to people when you get close to them. We know that weight, but please hear this: you are not a jinx, and God is not punishing anyone for drawing near to you. Internet problems, acid reflux, and heavy workloads are ordinary troubles in a fallen world, not a sign that your presence brings harm. Releasing that thought to the Lord can lighten something heavy in your spirit.

Since you feel things are moving quickly and you’ve noticed some confusion in his beliefs, a steady next step might be to invite a wise, mature Christian, perhaps a pastor or an older woman you trust, into your thinking. A calm outside voice can help you sort through the pace and the spiritual concerns without the cloud of new affection. It is not about distrusting him but about stewarding your own heart well while you wait on God’s direction.

We also appreciate your honest prayer for purity in your conversations. That is a godly desire. Keep those boundaries clear; it honors both of you and guards what could become a healthy relationship if God leads that way.

Let’s pray:

Father, we lift up this co-worker to You, steady his footing in the new responsibilities, restore his internet so his job is secure, and ease the acid reflux he is dealing with. For our sister, quiet the anxious thoughts that tell her she brings trouble. Let their conversations be marked by honor and restraint, and give her clarity about this connection. Above all, align her hopes with Your good and trustworthy will. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
 
Lord Jesus please richly bless, protect and guide them. Please help them in accordance with your perfect will Father. Thank you and praise you. In your holy name I pray. Amen.
 
My soul is stirred within me to lift up this matter before the throne of grace. How often we rush headlong into the morrow, counting upon it as though we could command the winds and waves! The Apostle James saith, "Ye ought to say, If the Lord will, we shall live, and do this, or that." Let us not be as those who boast of the future, for we know not what a day may bring forth. I shall pray that God would order your steps and this young man's, and that you both may wait upon Him with a teachable spirit. It is a mercy to be instructed of the Lord from our youth, and to hear His voice behind us, saying, "This is the way, walk ye in it."

Concerning the swiftness of this affection, it is wisdom to entreat the Lord to set a watch upon the pace. The covenant of grace hath no need of our feverish haste; He that believeth shall not make haste. If this be of God, it shall stand firm as the lasting hills. If it be not, then let it be dashed to pieces that your soul be not ensnared. You do well to pray that your daily converse be honourable and free from the tinder of unhallowed thought. Purity without charity is but a withered branch, yet charity without purity is a poisoned well. Keep yourselves unspotted from the world, for without holiness no man shall see the Lord. Flee from the very appearance of evil, and let not your tongue nor your heart venture near that which defileth.

I hear your trembling whisper, that ill befalls those who draw nigh to you. Cast out this superstition! Doth not our heavenly Father govern all things with a perfect hand? Are not the hairs of your head numbered? The trials of your friend are not tokens of a curse, but may be the chisel of the great Sculptor, fashioning his servant for higher service. I will pray that God would restore his health, steady his employment, and mend his internet, for the Lord careth for the sparrows and much more for His own.

Yet I must speak a faithful word. You tell me he holdeth false teachings, though he nameth the name of Christ. O dear soul, be not unequally yoked together with unbelievers in the vital truths of the faith! The marriage bond is a figure of Christ and His church, a holy mystery not to be lightly entered upon. Can two walk together except they be agreed? If his mind is clouded in doctrine, seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness. Wait upon the Lord; He will not deny thee that which is truly good. Let the Word of God be the sole arbiter. If this be the spouse God hath appointed, He will make the crooked paths straight and purge away the dross of error. But if not, rejoice that the snare is broken and thou art delivered.

Let us commit all to Him who doeth all things well. The Lord grant thee patience to tarry His leisure, purity to walk blameless before Him, and wisdom to discern His will. I will add my amen to thine, that God would be glorified, and that you both, whether single or joined, may be found among that people which were not a people, but now are the people of God, called out of darkness into His marvellous light.
 
You speak of swift movement and eager hope, yet I hear a soul unsettled, grasping for assurance where there should be careful testing. You say this man confesses Christ but is confused in doctrine and holds even to false teachings. Do you not tremble at that? Marriage is not a trifle; it is a lifelong covenant, a union of souls. If he is unsound in the faith, what fellowship has light with darkness? You would yoke yourself to one who may lead you astray, or at least blunt your devotion. I do not say to shun him utterly, but before your heart runs further, inquire soberly into these errors. For if he will not be corrected by the word of God, how can you build a house upon the sand?

And then you plead that God would slow things down, yet your own words reveal a flood of emotion and the swiftness of worldly attachment. Take heed: the enemy often presents what seems good to hurry us past the safety of wise counsel and patient prayer. When Noah was warned of things not yet seen, he moved with godly fear, not with the passion of a moment. He prepared the ark over many years, while the world mocked. Your soul, like his, must be moved by reverence, not by the flutter of liking. If this is of God, He will make it plain without your straining; if it is not, no amount of prayer to secure it will sanctify what He has not ordained.

You also fear that bad things happen to those close to you. Pause and test that fear. Is it a summons to deeper trust, or a warning to avoid entangling others in a pattern of haste? Often God permits small trials to keep us fleeing to His bosom. Instead of fretting over internet outages and acid reflux, look to your own heart. Have you allowed your conversations to stray near the borders of purity? You ask for protection from sexual topics, yet such requests should not be necessary among the betrothed in Christ. Flee all appearance of evil. Do not toy with words that kindle desire; cut them off before they take root. The body is for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.

Do not pray merely that this relationship end in marriage. Pray rather, “Thy will be done.” Cast yourself upon God without bargaining. If you seek first His kingdom and righteousness, all other things will be added or taken away for your true good. I have seen many rush into unions that pleased the eye but starved the soul, and afterward they wept in bitterness. Turn your anxiety into alms and prayer. Let your adornment be blushes and shamefastness, not the clamor of a hurried courtship. Wait on the Lord; He knows how to give good gifts to those who ask aright. And if this man is not your husband, then rejoice that a snare was broken. May the God of peace sanctify you wholly, and may your love be sincere, abounding more and more in knowledge and all discernment.
 
May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.


🙏Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so
. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

Heal Me Lord Jesus Spirit, Soul, And Body

 

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