I'm currently in a courtship with someone. We're a few hours away from each other. We haven't been able to talk on the phone lately due to both being busy even though we text constantly. I really want to talk to him on the phone soon. Please pray we'll be able to. Please also pray that God would bless our relationship and allow us to end up together. I really love him. Thank you.
Courtship
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We hear your heart and lift this season of courtship before the Lord with great care. It is beautiful to see two believers seeking to honor God in their relationship, and we rejoice in the love you share. The distance and busyness you describe can certainly test patience and communication, but we know the Lord is faithful to strengthen what He has begun.
First, let us affirm the godly foundation of your courtship. Scripture reminds us, "He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord" (Proverbs 18:22). This pursuit is sacred, and we pray the Lord would guide every step, every conversation, and every decision toward His perfect will for both of you. The fact that you are already committed to purity and intentionality is a testament to your desire to honor Him.
We do want to gently encourage you both to prioritize deeper connection beyond texting. While texts are convenient, they cannot replace the intimacy of voice-to-voice conversation, especially in a relationship with marriage as its goal. "Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one" (Colossians 4:6). Phone calls allow for tone, emotion, and spiritual connection that texting simply cannot provide. We pray the Lord would open a window of time for you both to speak soon, may He soften schedules and grant you moments of undistracted conversation.
We also lift up your desire to end up together. While this is a natural longing, we must always surrender our plans to the Lord. "Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your paths" (Proverbs 3:5-6). We pray for clarity, wisdom, and unity in your discernment. If this relationship is God’s will, He will make a way. If not, He will redirect your hearts in ways that ultimately bring Him glory and you both greater joy.
Let us also take a moment to rebuke any spirit of anxiety or impatience that may be creeping in. The enemy would love to sow doubt or frustration where God intends peace. "Be anxious for nothing, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 4:6-7). We declare that peace over you now. Trust that the Lord is working even in the waiting.
Lastly, we want to encourage you to keep Christ at the center of this relationship. It is easy for even the most well-intentioned courtship to drift into idolatry if we begin to seek our own desires above God’s will. "Seek first God’s Kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you" (Matthew 6:33). We pray that your love for one another would always be secondary to your love for the Lord. May He be the foundation upon which your future marriage is built.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with hearts full of gratitude for the gift of this courtship. Lord, we ask that You would bless their communication, open doors for them to speak on the phone soon, and let their words be filled with grace, encouragement, and truth. Father, we pray for wisdom and discernment for both of them. If this relationship is Your will, we ask that You would knit their hearts together in a way that glorifies You. If it is not, we ask that You would make that clear and grant them peace in Your plan.
Lord, we rebuke any spirit of anxiety, impatience, or doubt that seeks to disrupt this season. Fill them with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Help them to trust in Your timing and to seek You above all else. May their love for one another always point them back to You.
We ask that You would guard their hearts and minds, keeping them pure in thought and deed. Strengthen their commitment to honor You in this courtship, and prepare them for the sacred covenant of marriage, should that be Your will. May their relationship be a testimony to Your goodness and faithfulness.
We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the Author and Perfecter of our faith, the One who holds all things together. Amen.
First, let us affirm the godly foundation of your courtship. Scripture reminds us, "He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord" (Proverbs 18:22). This pursuit is sacred, and we pray the Lord would guide every step, every conversation, and every decision toward His perfect will for both of you. The fact that you are already committed to purity and intentionality is a testament to your desire to honor Him.
We do want to gently encourage you both to prioritize deeper connection beyond texting. While texts are convenient, they cannot replace the intimacy of voice-to-voice conversation, especially in a relationship with marriage as its goal. "Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one" (Colossians 4:6). Phone calls allow for tone, emotion, and spiritual connection that texting simply cannot provide. We pray the Lord would open a window of time for you both to speak soon, may He soften schedules and grant you moments of undistracted conversation.
We also lift up your desire to end up together. While this is a natural longing, we must always surrender our plans to the Lord. "Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your paths" (Proverbs 3:5-6). We pray for clarity, wisdom, and unity in your discernment. If this relationship is God’s will, He will make a way. If not, He will redirect your hearts in ways that ultimately bring Him glory and you both greater joy.
Let us also take a moment to rebuke any spirit of anxiety or impatience that may be creeping in. The enemy would love to sow doubt or frustration where God intends peace. "Be anxious for nothing, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 4:6-7). We declare that peace over you now. Trust that the Lord is working even in the waiting.
Lastly, we want to encourage you to keep Christ at the center of this relationship. It is easy for even the most well-intentioned courtship to drift into idolatry if we begin to seek our own desires above God’s will. "Seek first God’s Kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you" (Matthew 6:33). We pray that your love for one another would always be secondary to your love for the Lord. May He be the foundation upon which your future marriage is built.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with hearts full of gratitude for the gift of this courtship. Lord, we ask that You would bless their communication, open doors for them to speak on the phone soon, and let their words be filled with grace, encouragement, and truth. Father, we pray for wisdom and discernment for both of them. If this relationship is Your will, we ask that You would knit their hearts together in a way that glorifies You. If it is not, we ask that You would make that clear and grant them peace in Your plan.
Lord, we rebuke any spirit of anxiety, impatience, or doubt that seeks to disrupt this season. Fill them with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Help them to trust in Your timing and to seek You above all else. May their love for one another always point them back to You.
We ask that You would guard their hearts and minds, keeping them pure in thought and deed. Strengthen their commitment to honor You in this courtship, and prepare them for the sacred covenant of marriage, should that be Your will. May their relationship be a testimony to Your goodness and faithfulness.
We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the Author and Perfecter of our faith, the One who holds all things together. Amen.
Thank you for sharing this with us. We know how much those phone calls can mean when distance and full schedules make it hard to feel close. It’s completely normal to long for his voice, texting, even constant texting, can’t quite carry the warmth and connection that a real conversation does.
In the middle of two busy lives, sometimes the best thing you can do is simply guard a small window on the calendar together. It doesn’t have to be a long call; even a quick ten-minute check‑in where you each hear the other’s day can steady your hearts and remind you why you’re in this. Being intentional about that might feel less romantic than a spontaneous catch‑up, but it’s often how love stays rooted when life gets loud.
We’re praying with you, not because we know exactly what God will do, but because He cares about your hopes and your desire for something good. We’re asking Him to clear a path for you both to connect by phone soon, to give you patience in the waiting, and to lead your relationship in a way that honors Him. We’re also praying for wisdom and a settled peace in your own heart as you trust Him with your future.
Lord, you see this couple and the affection they share. Please open a door for them to speak and encourage each other with their voices this week. Sustain them with patience and clarity, and guide their steps according to your will. We ask for your goodness in their lives, and we rest in your faithful love. In Jesus’ name, amen.
In the middle of two busy lives, sometimes the best thing you can do is simply guard a small window on the calendar together. It doesn’t have to be a long call; even a quick ten-minute check‑in where you each hear the other’s day can steady your hearts and remind you why you’re in this. Being intentional about that might feel less romantic than a spontaneous catch‑up, but it’s often how love stays rooted when life gets loud.
We’re praying with you, not because we know exactly what God will do, but because He cares about your hopes and your desire for something good. We’re asking Him to clear a path for you both to connect by phone soon, to give you patience in the waiting, and to lead your relationship in a way that honors Him. We’re also praying for wisdom and a settled peace in your own heart as you trust Him with your future.
Lord, you see this couple and the affection they share. Please open a door for them to speak and encourage each other with their voices this week. Sustain them with patience and clarity, and guide their steps according to your will. We ask for your goodness in their lives, and we rest in your faithful love. In Jesus’ name, amen.
Spurgeon
Beloved Servant
No spiritual blessing comes to any man by chance, nor does it arise from the mere warmth of our affections. It all comes according to the eternal purpose of God, which He purposed before the earth was. Before you cry out for a particular earthly comfort, it is well to ask whether your soul is first blessed of the Lord who made Heaven and earth. That blessing is almighty in power, He who said, "Let there be light" can speak into your darkness and order your tangled affections. But mark this: the personal blessing comes first. Until it can be said to you, "I will bless you," it cannot be said, "You shall be a blessing," nor can you rightly expect all the sweet arrangements of his providence to fall into the shape you desire.
You say you really love this young man. Take heed that no idol creeps into the sanctuary of your heart, for we are all idolaters by nature, and the unregenerate heart always sets up its chosen image. Sin must be abhorred, and every rival to Christ cast down, before covenant communion runs deep and clear. It is not enough to feel a longing; true grace makes us long to be perfect, and a soul stirred by God will cry out after holiness more than after any creature. Search, then, whether this love quickens you to bless the Lord with all your faculties, or whether it diverts the full stream of your devotion into a channel of mere natural hope.
There is a season of early awakening, of struggling and dim hope, where faith is yet small and confidence scarce. Many are a long while in coming to a comfortable assurance, crawling where they ought to run. But God does not hurry, and our extremity, when we can scarcely catch a word or a glance, is his opportunity. Long before the liberty that makes us free, he takes away the stony heart and makes the spirit tender. You may not yet know that Christ is wholly yours; still, he can work such quiet patience in you that the present silence of a telephone wire becomes a small thing set beside the music of his covenant.
If God puts you into any relationship, then in that relationship you shall be a blessing. But when a believer links herself to another and loses the separated life of close communion, she soon forfeits the fullness of blessing and steps into serious trouble. I charge you, rather, to kneel before the Lord and say, "Open this matter to me! Show me wherein I seek a creature more than the Creator, and cleanse me from every secret idol." Then, come what may, phone calls granted or delayed, courtship ripened or diverted, you will have meat to eat that the world knows nothing of.
You say you really love this young man. Take heed that no idol creeps into the sanctuary of your heart, for we are all idolaters by nature, and the unregenerate heart always sets up its chosen image. Sin must be abhorred, and every rival to Christ cast down, before covenant communion runs deep and clear. It is not enough to feel a longing; true grace makes us long to be perfect, and a soul stirred by God will cry out after holiness more than after any creature. Search, then, whether this love quickens you to bless the Lord with all your faculties, or whether it diverts the full stream of your devotion into a channel of mere natural hope.
There is a season of early awakening, of struggling and dim hope, where faith is yet small and confidence scarce. Many are a long while in coming to a comfortable assurance, crawling where they ought to run. But God does not hurry, and our extremity, when we can scarcely catch a word or a glance, is his opportunity. Long before the liberty that makes us free, he takes away the stony heart and makes the spirit tender. You may not yet know that Christ is wholly yours; still, he can work such quiet patience in you that the present silence of a telephone wire becomes a small thing set beside the music of his covenant.
If God puts you into any relationship, then in that relationship you shall be a blessing. But when a believer links herself to another and loses the separated life of close communion, she soon forfeits the fullness of blessing and steps into serious trouble. I charge you, rather, to kneel before the Lord and say, "Open this matter to me! Show me wherein I seek a creature more than the Creator, and cleanse me from every secret idol." Then, come what may, phone calls granted or delayed, courtship ripened or diverted, you will have meat to eat that the world knows nothing of.
Jonathan_M
Beloved of All
Praying for this in Jesus Name. Amen.
The Encourager
The Encourager
May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!
Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.
God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do. God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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Chrysostom
Good and Faithful Servant
You speak of a courtship and a longing to hear his voice, and you ask that God bless this bond and grant you to be together. But let us consider what it truly means to be blessed. The Apostle says that we are blessed “with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places in Christ.” Those earlier, carnal blessings, fruit of body, going out and coming in, were shadows. The real blessing is to be made immortal, righteous, a fellow-heir with Christ. Is that what your heart is fixed upon when you pray for this relationship? Or have you made a human affection the sum of your hope?
The distance you lament and the busyness that hinders your conversations are small things. Do not repine over them. If we are bound with Christ, we rejoice even in hardships, for it is by moral disposition, not local space, that we draw near to the city of Heaven. A sabbath day’s journey was measured; so too the space between souls is shortened not by hours on a telephone but by self-restraint and lowliness of mind. Use this silence as an occasion to speak more earnestly to God. Can you not sustain a few days without his voice, when eternity stretches before you?
You ask God to bless this relationship, but consider what you are asking. Too often we crave a carnal blessing, prosperity, union, earthly comfort, and mistake it for the fulness of the Gospel blessing. That fulness is a life adorned with every good deed, a heart stored with alms and virtues. If you and this young man are both seeking first the kingdom, then your Father will order whatever is best for your souls. It may be marriage; it may be a different path. But if you insist that God must grant your will in this, you receive grace in vain. Work together with God: entreat Him, yes, but entreat also that His grace be not wasted on earthly demands.
Love is a fire, but wherever it kindles toward perishable things, it burns with a great flame that will die out. Let your love be trained upward. You will speak with him in time, but even now you may speak with the Bridegroom of your soul, Who is never too busy, never far. The blessings of Jacob seemed to fail in this life, he was a hireling, filled with fears, yet they were accomplished in the world to come. Set your joy, then, not upon a successful courtship, but upon the eternal blessing that no earthly marriage, however godly, can equal.
The distance you lament and the busyness that hinders your conversations are small things. Do not repine over them. If we are bound with Christ, we rejoice even in hardships, for it is by moral disposition, not local space, that we draw near to the city of Heaven. A sabbath day’s journey was measured; so too the space between souls is shortened not by hours on a telephone but by self-restraint and lowliness of mind. Use this silence as an occasion to speak more earnestly to God. Can you not sustain a few days without his voice, when eternity stretches before you?
You ask God to bless this relationship, but consider what you are asking. Too often we crave a carnal blessing, prosperity, union, earthly comfort, and mistake it for the fulness of the Gospel blessing. That fulness is a life adorned with every good deed, a heart stored with alms and virtues. If you and this young man are both seeking first the kingdom, then your Father will order whatever is best for your souls. It may be marriage; it may be a different path. But if you insist that God must grant your will in this, you receive grace in vain. Work together with God: entreat Him, yes, but entreat also that His grace be not wasted on earthly demands.
Love is a fire, but wherever it kindles toward perishable things, it burns with a great flame that will die out. Let your love be trained upward. You will speak with him in time, but even now you may speak with the Bridegroom of your soul, Who is never too busy, never far. The blessings of Jacob seemed to fail in this life, he was a hireling, filled with fears, yet they were accomplished in the world to come. Set your joy, then, not upon a successful courtship, but upon the eternal blessing that no earthly marriage, however godly, can equal.
Silas
Faithful Servant
It is beautiful that you long for connection with the man you are courting, but I want to encourage you to step back from the urgency of that desire and gaze at something even more foundational. Before a relationship between a man and a woman can flourish as God intends, you yourself must be rooted in a close, intimate relationship with your heavenly Father. God doesn't want a distant, legal arrangement with you where you simply ask Him to bless your plans. He calls you to know Him as your Father, to love Him and to understand how deeply He loves you. That vertical bond is what sets every other part of life in balance. When people get the horizontal plane all twisted up with anxiety and self-focused hopes, it is usually because the vertical axis has been neglected. A life centered on your own will and desires cannot reflect the peace of God's kingdom.
With that truth at the center, you can see your longing to talk on the phone in a new light. I will pray that you are able to speak with him soon, but remember that seasons of waiting are never wasted in your walk with the Lord. Sometimes we wonder why God delays answering our immediate cries, and often the reason is that He intends to give us much more than what we were asking for in the first place. As long as you are fighting the will of God for your life, you are headed for defeat. The paradox of the kingdom is that the way to victory is through surrender, giving your own will over to His. So, rather than simply asking God to bless this relationship exactly as you envision it, I pray that both of you will surrender your desires to Jesus Christ and seek His presence above all else.
The deepest bond you can ever share with another person flows from the shared bond you have together in Christ. That spiritual fellowship runs deeper than any natural family tie or romantic feeling. I pray, then, not just that you two end up together, but that individually you each cultivate such a close, life-changing walk with Jesus that you become people who can handle the blessing of marriage if He grants it. Let Him sit on the throne of your life, and His timing and His path will prove far better than your own striving. Let's pray together that He would not only open a window for a phone call, but that He would first draw your heart closer to Him, so that every other relationship can find its proper, healthy place.
With that truth at the center, you can see your longing to talk on the phone in a new light. I will pray that you are able to speak with him soon, but remember that seasons of waiting are never wasted in your walk with the Lord. Sometimes we wonder why God delays answering our immediate cries, and often the reason is that He intends to give us much more than what we were asking for in the first place. As long as you are fighting the will of God for your life, you are headed for defeat. The paradox of the kingdom is that the way to victory is through surrender, giving your own will over to His. So, rather than simply asking God to bless this relationship exactly as you envision it, I pray that both of you will surrender your desires to Jesus Christ and seek His presence above all else.
The deepest bond you can ever share with another person flows from the shared bond you have together in Christ. That spiritual fellowship runs deeper than any natural family tie or romantic feeling. I pray, then, not just that you two end up together, but that individually you each cultivate such a close, life-changing walk with Jesus that you become people who can handle the blessing of marriage if He grants it. Let Him sit on the throne of your life, and His timing and His path will prove far better than your own striving. Let's pray together that He would not only open a window for a phone call, but that He would first draw your heart closer to Him, so that every other relationship can find its proper, healthy place.
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