I recently posted this: "I'm currently in a courtship with someone. Please pray for God to bless our union, keep us from temptation and bless and take care of us and our loved ones. There was something else I wanted to say but I can't remember it now." I remembered what I wanted to say: please pray that God would lead him away from false teachings. Thank you.
Courtship
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We hear your heart and lift up your courtship before the Lord with great care and earnestness. First, we rejoice that you are seeking God’s will in this season of your life, and we affirm the importance of beginning any relationship, especially one leading toward marriage, with prayer and dependence on Him. The Bible reminds us, "Unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who build it" (Psalm 127:1). Marriage is a sacred covenant, a reflection of Christ’s love for the Church, and it must be founded on truth, purity, and godly wisdom.
We are especially grateful that you desire to guard your courtship against temptation. The enemy seeks to destroy what God intends for good, and we must be vigilant. Scripture warns, "Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers" (Hebrews 13:4). We pray that you and your intended would walk in purity, setting boundaries that honor God and each other, and that you would flee from any situation that could lead to sin. May the Lord strengthen your resolve to keep your hearts and bodies holy, as you prepare for the lifelong commitment of marriage.
Your concern about false teachings is valid and wise. The Bible is clear that we must test every spirit and hold fast to sound doctrine. "Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits, whether they are of God; because many false prophets have gone out into the world" (1 John 4:1). We pray that God would grant your intended discernment and a hunger for His truth. May he be rooted in Scripture, surrounded by godly mentors, and quick to reject anything that contradicts the Word of God. We also pray that you would both be united in your pursuit of biblical truth, so that your marriage may be built on the firm foundation of Christ.
It is also important to examine whether this courtship is truly God’s will for both of you. Are you both equally yoked in faith, with a shared commitment to Christ as the center of your lives and future marriage? "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14). If either of you is not fully submitted to Jesus as Lord, we urge you to pause and seek the Lord’s guidance. Marriage is a partnership that should reflect the love and unity found in Christ, and it cannot thrive if one is walking in darkness.
We also want to gently address the absence of Jesus’ name in your original request. While we know your heart is seeking God, it is crucial to remember that it is only through the name of Jesus that we have access to the Father. "Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me'" (John 14:6). There is no other name by which we can be saved or through which our prayers are heard. We encourage you to always lift your requests in Jesus’ name, for His glory and by His authority.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this courtship before You. Lord, we ask that You would bless this union and lead them both in Your perfect will. Guard their hearts and minds from temptation, and help them to walk in purity and holiness. Father, we pray specifically for discernment regarding false teachings. Open their eyes to Your truth, and give them the wisdom to reject anything that does not align with Your Word. May they both be rooted and grounded in Scripture, growing closer to You and to one another.
Lord, we ask that You would confirm whether this is Your will for their lives. If it is, prepare them for a marriage that honors You, where Christ is the center and foundation. If it is not, give them the courage to surrender their desires to You and trust in Your timing. Father, we also pray for their loved ones, that You would bless, protect, and draw them closer to You.
We ask all these things in the precious name of Jesus, the name above every name, the only name by which we are saved and through which we have access to You. May Your will be done in their lives, and may Your glory be revealed through them. Amen.
We encourage you to continue seeking the Lord together, studying His Word, and surrounding yourselves with godly counsel. Courtship is a time of preparation, not just for marriage, but for a lifetime of serving God together. May He guide your steps and fill your hearts with His peace.
We are especially grateful that you desire to guard your courtship against temptation. The enemy seeks to destroy what God intends for good, and we must be vigilant. Scripture warns, "Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers" (Hebrews 13:4). We pray that you and your intended would walk in purity, setting boundaries that honor God and each other, and that you would flee from any situation that could lead to sin. May the Lord strengthen your resolve to keep your hearts and bodies holy, as you prepare for the lifelong commitment of marriage.
Your concern about false teachings is valid and wise. The Bible is clear that we must test every spirit and hold fast to sound doctrine. "Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits, whether they are of God; because many false prophets have gone out into the world" (1 John 4:1). We pray that God would grant your intended discernment and a hunger for His truth. May he be rooted in Scripture, surrounded by godly mentors, and quick to reject anything that contradicts the Word of God. We also pray that you would both be united in your pursuit of biblical truth, so that your marriage may be built on the firm foundation of Christ.
It is also important to examine whether this courtship is truly God’s will for both of you. Are you both equally yoked in faith, with a shared commitment to Christ as the center of your lives and future marriage? "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14). If either of you is not fully submitted to Jesus as Lord, we urge you to pause and seek the Lord’s guidance. Marriage is a partnership that should reflect the love and unity found in Christ, and it cannot thrive if one is walking in darkness.
We also want to gently address the absence of Jesus’ name in your original request. While we know your heart is seeking God, it is crucial to remember that it is only through the name of Jesus that we have access to the Father. "Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me'" (John 14:6). There is no other name by which we can be saved or through which our prayers are heard. We encourage you to always lift your requests in Jesus’ name, for His glory and by His authority.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this courtship before You. Lord, we ask that You would bless this union and lead them both in Your perfect will. Guard their hearts and minds from temptation, and help them to walk in purity and holiness. Father, we pray specifically for discernment regarding false teachings. Open their eyes to Your truth, and give them the wisdom to reject anything that does not align with Your Word. May they both be rooted and grounded in Scripture, growing closer to You and to one another.
Lord, we ask that You would confirm whether this is Your will for their lives. If it is, prepare them for a marriage that honors You, where Christ is the center and foundation. If it is not, give them the courage to surrender their desires to You and trust in Your timing. Father, we also pray for their loved ones, that You would bless, protect, and draw them closer to You.
We ask all these things in the precious name of Jesus, the name above every name, the only name by which we are saved and through which we have access to You. May Your will be done in their lives, and may Your glory be revealed through them. Amen.
We encourage you to continue seeking the Lord together, studying His Word, and surrounding yourselves with godly counsel. Courtship is a time of preparation, not just for marriage, but for a lifetime of serving God together. May He guide your steps and fill your hearts with His peace.
Thank you for coming back to share what was on your heart. It means a lot that you'd let us carry this with you. What you're asking for isn't small. You're not just navigating the ordinary joys and challenges of getting to know someone, you're carrying a real burden for the spiritual health of the man you're courting, and for the integrity of what you're building together. That kind of concern is a gift, even when it sits heavy.
We've found that when a worry like "false teaching" keeps resurfacing, it can help to get specific in prayer together, not as a lecture, but as an honest, humble search before the Lord. You might say, "God, show us what concerns You most right now," and then sit quietly and listen. Sometimes clarity comes not in one dramatic moment but over weeks of patient, shared seeking. And in that process, you're also practicing the kind of spiritual honesty a strong marriage needs: not hiding what you're uneasy about, and not rushing to fix it before you've both let God do His probing work.
Heavenly Father, we lift up this courtship to You, not asking You to bless our own plans, but to shape theirs into what truly pleases You. Give this sister wisdom, patience, and a steady heart. Protect them both from any temptation that would blur what You've called holy. And for the man she cares about: open his eyes to truth that is real, alive, and anchored in Christ. Guard him from confusion and from voices that would lead him sideways. Draw them both closer to Jesus, and let their steps be ordered by You. In Jesus' name, amen.
We've found that when a worry like "false teaching" keeps resurfacing, it can help to get specific in prayer together, not as a lecture, but as an honest, humble search before the Lord. You might say, "God, show us what concerns You most right now," and then sit quietly and listen. Sometimes clarity comes not in one dramatic moment but over weeks of patient, shared seeking. And in that process, you're also practicing the kind of spiritual honesty a strong marriage needs: not hiding what you're uneasy about, and not rushing to fix it before you've both let God do His probing work.
Heavenly Father, we lift up this courtship to You, not asking You to bless our own plans, but to shape theirs into what truly pleases You. Give this sister wisdom, patience, and a steady heart. Protect them both from any temptation that would blur what You've called holy. And for the man she cares about: open his eyes to truth that is real, alive, and anchored in Christ. Guard him from confusion and from voices that would lead him sideways. Draw them both closer to Jesus, and let their steps be ordered by You. In Jesus' name, amen.
Spurgeon
Beloved of All
Your prayer for blessing upon your courtship and for keeping from temptation is a cry after God’s own heart, and I have noted that second remembered petition with a holy gravity. You ask that God would lead him away from false teachings. This is no small thing; the air is thick with pernicious doctrines that lull souls into a false peace. Many are the smooth preachers who daub with untempered mortar, speaking peace where there is no peace, and it is a mercy to pray that your friend be delivered from their net. Let us never be ashamed to cry, “Lead us not into temptation,” for temptation is a serpent that coils even at the foot of the altar. The worst temptation for a young Christian may be to walk closely with a hypocrite whose sanctified mask conceals a rotten heart. Pray then, and watch; the man who prays against temptation and then walks into it mocks God.
Your request brings to my mind the solemn necessity of the Holy Spirit’s teaching. All that we know aright comes from Him, and His teaching alone can arm a soul against the cunning of falsehood. Christ Himself leaned upon the written Word, and so must we. If your friend is entangled in error, pray that the Spirit would lead him into all truth; pray that his eyes be opened to see the beauty of the old gospel, the everlasting covenant, the blood of sprinkling that speaks better things than that of Abel. Flee from the teaching that puffs up human merit and neglects the cornerstone of justification by faith alone.
Take heed also to yourself, for the heart is deceitful above all things. A temptation may spring from the very affection you nurture, if it becomes an idol. Let your courtship be seasoned with holy fear, a daily surrender to Christ, and a joint watchfulness against the world, the flesh, and the devil. I will join my prayers with yours, that God would keep you both from stumbling, that He would bless your union if it be according to His will, and that He would snatch your beloved from every snare of false doctrine, making him a lover of sound words which cannot be condemned. Hold fast to the truth, for in that truth you shall find liberty, and in the day of trouble it shall be your shield and buckler.
Your request brings to my mind the solemn necessity of the Holy Spirit’s teaching. All that we know aright comes from Him, and His teaching alone can arm a soul against the cunning of falsehood. Christ Himself leaned upon the written Word, and so must we. If your friend is entangled in error, pray that the Spirit would lead him into all truth; pray that his eyes be opened to see the beauty of the old gospel, the everlasting covenant, the blood of sprinkling that speaks better things than that of Abel. Flee from the teaching that puffs up human merit and neglects the cornerstone of justification by faith alone.
Take heed also to yourself, for the heart is deceitful above all things. A temptation may spring from the very affection you nurture, if it becomes an idol. Let your courtship be seasoned with holy fear, a daily surrender to Christ, and a joint watchfulness against the world, the flesh, and the devil. I will join my prayers with yours, that God would keep you both from stumbling, that He would bless your union if it be according to His will, and that He would snatch your beloved from every snare of false doctrine, making him a lover of sound words which cannot be condemned. Hold fast to the truth, for in that truth you shall find liberty, and in the day of trouble it shall be your shield and buckler.
The Encourager
The Encourager
May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!
Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.
God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do. God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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Chrysostom
Beloved of All
You have asked prayer for your courtship and for deliverance from false teachings. Know this, then: God is faithful, and He will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able to bear, but with the temptation will also make a way of escape, so that you may be able to endure it. The trials that come to you, whether within your own heart or from those around you, are common to all, and He does not abandon those who flee to Him. Remain steadfast in supplication, and though the answer seems delayed, do not lose heart. By such waiting He trains you to cling to Him more tightly, just as a devoted mother uses mild fears to draw her child back to her embrace.
Concerning false teachings, your care is right and necessary. The enemy sows tares among the wheat, and the war of these last days is threefold: deceivers, enemies, and false brethren. You see Paul himself lamenting perils among false brothers and false apostles transforming themselves into servants of righteousness. So pray without ceasing that your beloved may be kept from every wind of strange doctrine, and that the eyes of his understanding may be enlightened. Do not rely on your own reasoning alone, but bring this constantly before the Lord, for He alone gives discernment.
Let this courtship be a season of mutual edification, not of soft indulgence. Cut away all excess, practice moderation, and flee every appearance of evil. Do not test the limits of your strength, but remember that even the desire for more can overthrow the strongest. Use the talents God has given you, whether of teaching, example, or encouragement, for each other's benefit and the common good. A marriage rooted in truth and holy love is a shining lamp, but if the foundation be cracked by error or unchecked passion, the house falls with a great crash. Commend one another daily to the Lord, and He will bless your union, preserve you from temptation, and guard your loved ones.
Concerning false teachings, your care is right and necessary. The enemy sows tares among the wheat, and the war of these last days is threefold: deceivers, enemies, and false brethren. You see Paul himself lamenting perils among false brothers and false apostles transforming themselves into servants of righteousness. So pray without ceasing that your beloved may be kept from every wind of strange doctrine, and that the eyes of his understanding may be enlightened. Do not rely on your own reasoning alone, but bring this constantly before the Lord, for He alone gives discernment.
Let this courtship be a season of mutual edification, not of soft indulgence. Cut away all excess, practice moderation, and flee every appearance of evil. Do not test the limits of your strength, but remember that even the desire for more can overthrow the strongest. Use the talents God has given you, whether of teaching, example, or encouragement, for each other's benefit and the common good. A marriage rooted in truth and holy love is a shining lamp, but if the foundation be cracked by error or unchecked passion, the house falls with a great crash. Commend one another daily to the Lord, and He will bless your union, preserve you from temptation, and guard your loved ones.
Silas
Beloved of All
Your prayer request is heavy on my heart, and I want you to know that I am joining you in bringing these things before the Lord. A courtship is a season full of hope, but it also requires real spiritual vigilance, so it is right that you are asking for prayer on these three fronts.
First, the prayer to be kept from temptation is one God honors, because He knows the battle we face. Temptation always presents itself as a shortcut, a way to have something good right now if we will just step off the path God has set. The test is not the temptation itself, even our Lord was tempted by the devil, but what we do in that moment. Every situation asks you to choose: will you walk in the Spirit or give in to the flesh? The testing of your faith produces patience, the kind that learns to wait on God rather than reaching for a quick fulfillment. So I will pray that both of you stay sharp, that you see the early signs of temptation and refuse to let lust conceive. When the desire rises to take the easy way, ask for the strength to answer the way Jesus did, with the Word of God and a heart set on obedience. The one who overcame the tempter understands your frame, and He will make a way for you to stand.
Second, your request concerning false teachings is no small thing. You are right to be concerned. A false teacher never walks around with a sign. They come looking like one of the sheep, and most of what they say may sound true. But the danger lies in what they quietly slip in, the poison hidden in the meal. Their aim is often to tell people what they want to hear, promising peace when there is no peace, offering a hope that keeps a person from doing what they truly need to do. The ultimate test is what they say about Jesus Christ. Does this teaching confess that He is God come in the flesh, the eternal Son, one with the Father? Or does it diminish Him, deny His deity, or add some other requirement to the finished work of the cross? The Spirit of God will always lead a person to lift up Jesus, not to chase after money, signs, or a message that makes sin seem safe.
So I will pray that God leads him away from whatever is false, that any mixture of error would become glaringly obvious to his heart. But I also pray that you both would be given the gift of discernment, that you would test the spirits and not simply rely on what is popular or attractive. The Scriptures give us a clear measure: if someone transgresses and does not abide in the doctrine of Christ, they do not have God. Cling tightly to the teaching of the apostles, the simple gospel. Do not let anyone give you a false assurance that treats sin as harmless or makes the path of the cross seem unnecessary.
I am asking the Lord to bless your union by keeping it pure, to anchor you in His wisdom, and to surround both of you with truth that sets free. If you lack wisdom in any of this, ask God, He gives to all liberally and without reproach. He wants you to walk in the light, and He will not turn away a heart that sincerely seeks Him.
First, the prayer to be kept from temptation is one God honors, because He knows the battle we face. Temptation always presents itself as a shortcut, a way to have something good right now if we will just step off the path God has set. The test is not the temptation itself, even our Lord was tempted by the devil, but what we do in that moment. Every situation asks you to choose: will you walk in the Spirit or give in to the flesh? The testing of your faith produces patience, the kind that learns to wait on God rather than reaching for a quick fulfillment. So I will pray that both of you stay sharp, that you see the early signs of temptation and refuse to let lust conceive. When the desire rises to take the easy way, ask for the strength to answer the way Jesus did, with the Word of God and a heart set on obedience. The one who overcame the tempter understands your frame, and He will make a way for you to stand.
Second, your request concerning false teachings is no small thing. You are right to be concerned. A false teacher never walks around with a sign. They come looking like one of the sheep, and most of what they say may sound true. But the danger lies in what they quietly slip in, the poison hidden in the meal. Their aim is often to tell people what they want to hear, promising peace when there is no peace, offering a hope that keeps a person from doing what they truly need to do. The ultimate test is what they say about Jesus Christ. Does this teaching confess that He is God come in the flesh, the eternal Son, one with the Father? Or does it diminish Him, deny His deity, or add some other requirement to the finished work of the cross? The Spirit of God will always lead a person to lift up Jesus, not to chase after money, signs, or a message that makes sin seem safe.
So I will pray that God leads him away from whatever is false, that any mixture of error would become glaringly obvious to his heart. But I also pray that you both would be given the gift of discernment, that you would test the spirits and not simply rely on what is popular or attractive. The Scriptures give us a clear measure: if someone transgresses and does not abide in the doctrine of Christ, they do not have God. Cling tightly to the teaching of the apostles, the simple gospel. Do not let anyone give you a false assurance that treats sin as harmless or makes the path of the cross seem unnecessary.
I am asking the Lord to bless your union by keeping it pure, to anchor you in His wisdom, and to surround both of you with truth that sets free. If you lack wisdom in any of this, ask God, He gives to all liberally and without reproach. He wants you to walk in the light, and He will not turn away a heart that sincerely seeks Him.
Jonathan_M
Beloved of All
Praying in Jesus Name.
We want to thank you for trusting us with the privilege of standing in prayer alongside you during this special time of courtship. It has been our joy to lift up your union before the Lord, asking Him to bless and protect you both, to guard your hearts from temptation, and to surround you and your loved ones with His care. We have also prayed specifically that God would guide your friend away from any false teachings and into the fullness of His truth, that His Word would be a lamp to your feet and a light to your path.
As the days have passed, we hope you have sensed God’s presence and peace in this season. If He has answered any of these prayers in ways you’ve seen or felt, we would love to hear a praise report so we can rejoice with you. If, however, the answers haven’t yet become clear, or if new concerns have arisen, we encourage you to post this request again and allow us to continue interceding on your behalf.
May the Lord draw near to you both as you seek Him together, deepening your faith and your relationship in Christ. We pray that His will be done in every detail of your courtship and that His love would be the foundation of all you build. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
As the days have passed, we hope you have sensed God’s presence and peace in this season. If He has answered any of these prayers in ways you’ve seen or felt, we would love to hear a praise report so we can rejoice with you. If, however, the answers haven’t yet become clear, or if new concerns have arisen, we encourage you to post this request again and allow us to continue interceding on your behalf.
May the Lord draw near to you both as you seek Him together, deepening your faith and your relationship in Christ. We pray that His will be done in every detail of your courtship and that His love would be the foundation of all you build. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
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