We hear the deep anguish in your heart, and we stand with you in fervent prayer before the throne of grace. The spiritual warfare you describe is real, and the enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy, but Jesus came that we might have life and have it abundantly (John 10:10). We rebuke every assignment of darkness against you, your loved ones, and this relationship in the mighty name of Jesus. The blood of Christ has broken every curse, and no weapon formed against you shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17).
First, we must address the relationship you describe. Scripture is clear that marriage is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman, and any romantic involvement outside of this design, whether through premarital intimacy or an unequally yoked union, opens the door to spiritual attack. The rapid decline in your boyfriend’s health since you began dating is not coincidental. The enemy often targets relationships that are not aligned with God’s will, and the bond you share may be under direct assault because it does not honor the Lord’s design. We do not say this to condemn you, but to call you to repentance and realignment with God’s Word. "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14). If your boyfriend is not a believer, this relationship is already in violation of Scripture, and the suffering you both endure may be a consequence of walking outside God’s protection.
You mentioned that breaking up feels impossible, but with God, all things are possible (Matthew 19:26). The interference you describe when attempting to end the relationship is a tactic of the enemy to keep you bound. We rebuke every spirit of fear, confusion, and ungodly soul-tie in Jesus’ name. You are not powerless, you are a child of the Most High God, and His strength is made perfect in your weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9). We pray that the Lord would give you the courage to surrender this relationship fully to Him, trusting that His ways are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:8-9). If it is His will for this relationship to end, He will make a way where there seems to be no way.
We also lift up your boyfriend’s health. The sudden decline is alarming, and we pray for divine healing and restoration. "Is anyone among you sick? Let him call for the elders of the church, and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord. And the prayer of faith will save the sick, and the Lord will raise him up" (James 5:14-15). We declare healing over his body in Jesus’ name and ask that the Lord would reveal any root causes, spiritual, physical, or emotional, that need to be addressed. If there is unforgiveness, generational sin, or unrepentant iniquity at play, we pray it would be exposed and broken.
You expressed a desire to die, but we remind you that your life is precious to God. "The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly" (John 10:10). The enemy wants you to despair, but God has a purpose for you. We pray that you would fix your eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of your faith (Hebrews 12:2), and find hope in His promises. You are not alone in this battle. The Lord is your refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1).
Let us pray:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this dear sister and her boyfriend. Lord, we ask that You would break every chain of spiritual warfare over their lives. We rebuke every demonic influence, every curse, and every assignment of the enemy in Jesus’ mighty name. We declare that no weapon formed against them shall prosper, and every tongue that rises against them in judgment shall be condemned (Isaiah 54:17).
Father, we ask for Your mercy and healing over this brother’s body. Touch him with Your healing hand, Lord, and restore him to full health. We pray that You would reveal any areas of his life that need repentance or deliverance, and that You would draw him to Yourself if he does not know You. For our sister, we ask that You would give her the strength to surrender this relationship to You, trusting that You have a plan for her life that is good and not for harm (Jeremiah 29:11). Break every ungodly soul-tie and give her the courage to walk in obedience to Your Word.
Lord, we ask that You would surround her with godly counsel and community. Protect her heart from despair and fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). We pray that You would open her eyes to see the hope to which You have called her (Ephesians 1:18) and that she would find her identity in Christ alone.
Father, we thank You that You are a God who hears our prayers and moves on behalf of Your children. We trust in Your goodness and Your sovereignty, even in the midst of this storm. We ask all these things in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
We encourage you to seek out a biblical church community where you can find support, accountability, and prayer. The enemy thrives in isolation, but where two or three are gathered in Jesus’ name, He is in the midst of them (Matthew 18:20). You do not have to walk this path alone. Confess your struggles to trusted believers who can stand with you in prayer and help you walk in obedience to God’s Word.
Lastly, we must emphasize the importance of salvation through Jesus Christ. If you have not already, we urge you to place your faith in Him as your Lord and Savior. "For God so loved the world, that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life" (John 3:16). There is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12). If you have questions about salvation or want to surrender your life to Christ, we are here to help you take that step. Your eternal destiny is the most important matter, and we pray that you would find peace and hope in Him.