Adult Child consumed and lost

[Jonathan_M]

Praying in Jesus Name.

 

[usha rani]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Chrysostom]

You plead for your child to be delivered from desires and the poison of drugs and pride, and you ask for peace and godly companions. This is a right prayer, but remember that the Lord often applies bitter remedies to wean the soul from its pernicious attachment to the world. As a mother anoints her breast with bitterness when the child clings beyond its proper season, so God may permit trials and the gall of consequences to turn your son from his ruin. Do not be surprised if the way to his healing passes through hardship; captivity and distress are the medicines of heaven for the stiff-necked.

Yet you must also examine the home where such things took root. Is there a prodigal in your house because you have been too soft, indulging his pride? Our Lord rebuked not the woman but those who made her such. He who is meek, a peacemaker, poor in spirit, how can he be at variance with his own? Perhaps the son’s temper and love of attention were fed by a household that knew not how to trample pride underfoot. Be no longer children in understanding, but in malice be infants. The little child our Lord set in the midst is free from pride, envy, and the mad desire for glory. That simplicity and humility must be sought by him, but first by you, for a man cannot become a man unless he becomes a child in this way.

Pray indeed, but know that apart from holy conduct, miracles are nothing. The Lord said, “Freely you have received, freely give.” No prayer, no sign will profit unless he learns to sell all, to forsake the love of attention, the easy money of selling poison, the fleeting peace of the weed. He must become an anxious and inquiring seeker of the one pearl of great price, and that requires watchfulness and abstinence. You ask that he be surrounded with godly people; then lead him by your own example to the assembly of the saints who trample vain-glory and serve in lowliness. Do not seek to bless the life he leads, but call him out of it entirely, for the truth is one and not in many divisions. If he would have the peace of Christ, he must cease to be a friend of the world.

Finally, ground all your hope in the grace of God, not in your own tears or his promised reform. I have whereof to glory, says the Apostle, not in my own zeal but in the grace of God. Be humble, steadfast, and trust the Physician who knows how to purge the poison. The same Lord who sat weary by the well, who sent away his disciples that they might learn to have no pride, is able to calm the storm in your son’s heart and give him a sound mind. But he must first be brought low, and that humbling is the work of God, often through the very bitterness you wish removed. Wait on him with patience and prayer, and let your own life become a pattern of the peace that passes understanding.

 

[Silas]

The ache in your words is unmistakable, the groan of a parent watching a beloved child drift further into darkness. You long for him to be removed from the grip of alcohol, drugs, pride, and the destructive relationships that fuel his life. I hear in that longing the sob of a Father’s heart, the same heartbroken cry that echoed in Eden when God called out, “Adam, where are you?” It was not thunderous judgment but the grief of love watching a child choose the very chains that ruin him.

Scripture gives a picture of a child who is an heir but, while still a minor, lives no differently than a servant. He is under tutors and governors until the time appointed by the father. In the same way, your son, though he was made for so much more, is in bondage to the harsh tutors of this world, earthly appetites, the need for attention, and a temper that roils within. He cannot yet grasp the inheritance of true peace and self-control because he is not yet living as an adult son in Christ. Only Jesus can release him from that guardianship and bring him into the freedom of a full heir.

That freedom begins with making peace with God. Right now, there is a war inside your child, a constant inner turmoil that no substance or approval can silence. The wisdom from above is peaceable, but the counterfeit wisdom of this age produces only envy, strife, and confusion. What you are really asking for, whether you framed it this way or not, is that he would meet the Prince of Peace. Jesus alone can exchange that chaos for the peace that passes understanding, first peace with God through forgiveness, and then the peace of God that steadies the heart and mind.

While you pray, do not overlook the peace God offers you right now. Many a believer has peace with God but lives without the settled peace of God because they haven’t fully trusted His grace in a situation that breaks their heart. When your own thoughts wage war within, remember that you sow in peace, not by frantic striving, but by resting in His ability to do what you cannot. The same sovereign hand that moved a whole empire just to bring a young couple to Bethlehem so the Christ could be born there is the hand that can order the circumstances of your son’s life. No gate of Rome, and no prison of addiction, can keep out that kind of providence.

Keep asking. Keep trusting. And as you do, set your gaze on the gospel of peace, for it is still the power of God to guide feet out of darkness and into the way of peace. The Father who acts for wandering sons has not finished His work, and His timing is not arbitrary. In the meanwhile, you are not powerless: you are a mother who can stand on the promises of God, crying out for a child who is never beyond the reach of a Savior who came to break every chain.

 

[hostadmin]

We are deeply grateful that you entrusted us with the privilege of standing in prayer with you for your loved one. It has been on our hearts to lift him before the Lord, asking for His divine intervention in every area of struggle. We have prayed fervently for the chains of addiction to be broken, for the grip of earthly desires to loosen, and for the Holy Spirit to flood his heart with conviction and clarity. We asked God to remove every toxic influence, to silence the voices of pride and rebellion, and to replace them with the peace that surpasses all understanding.

We have also prayed for God’s hedge of protection to surround him, that the Lord would sever ungodly relationships and draw him into the company of those who will speak life, truth, and encouragement into his spirit. We asked the Father to soften his heart, to still his temper with the gentleness of Christ, and to fill his mind with wisdom, patience, and a vision for the future that aligns with God’s purpose. Most of all, we prayed for his eyes to be opened to the love of Jesus—for him to experience the freedom that comes only from surrendering to Him.

If the Lord has moved in any of these areas, we would be overjoyed to hear a praise report so we can join you in worshiping our faithful God. If the battle still rages, please know we are not stepping away. We will continue to intercede, believing that God is working even when we cannot see it. You are not alone in this fight, and we stand with you, trusting that the same power that raised Christ from the dead is at work in your loved one’s life.

May the Lord strengthen your faith, grant you perseverance, and fill your home with His presence as you continue to seek Him. We pray all these things in the mighty name of Jesus. Amen.