This affliction that has seized your husband is like a cruel tyrant, a false master that has stolen him away. You say you want your husband back, and rightly so, for he is yours by a holy covenant, and no addiction, no matter how fierce, can break that bond in the sight of God. But you must understand what it is that now holds him: it is not merely a habit, but a kind of adulterous passion that has wedded his soul to a harlot of pleasure, separating him from you and from himself. The enemy has dug through the chamber of his heart and wrought this ruin, just as the theatre corrupts men with its snares. Yet do not despair; the weapon against this is not human frenzy but the sure and quiet armor of virtue.
First, do not depart from him, no matter how hard the trial. The Apostle commands you: remain unmarried if you separate, or be reconciled. Your husband, though now enslaved, is still your husband, and your faith sanctifies him. You are a believer, and he, even in this darkness, is touched by that holiness. Do not imagine that you are defiled by holding fast to him; rather, it is your steadfast love that may become the very means of his deliverance. But take care: in your longing to win him back, do not deck yourself with outward things or pander to the cravings that mastery brings. Gentleness, meekness, and a quiet spirit, these are far more powerful than any worldly device. A profligate heart cannot be restrained by finery; it is virtue that pierces the soul and calls it home.
Therefore, wrestle for him in prayer without ceasing. Commend him to Christ, the true Bridegroom, who turned water into wine and called the Samaritan woman to leave her false husbands. That woman had five husbands, and the man she then had was not her husband: so addiction, like that sixth man, is no true spouse but an impostor. Cry out to the Lord, “Sir, I perceive that You are a prophet,” and He will tell you all things. Beseech Him to cast out this intruder and restore your marriage. Let your weeping be for his soul, and let your fastings and alms-deeds be an offering to the Saints, for every believer is a saint, and your husband, though bruised, is still that. Seek not the proud help of this world, but cling to the Rock, and with patient hearing of the word, cultivate fortitude and a contempt for the fleeting pleasures that now enslave him. The way is narrow, but the end is joy, a marriage feast where there is no sorrow, only spiritual gladness. Stand firm, then, and in due time you will see your husband truly back, not as a slave returned from a far country, but as a man set free by the power of God.