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Pray for my sister. ###. She hates me. Seriously hates me. ###. I’m ### her only sibling. I made a fool out of myself after my husband disappeared. He married his girlfriend. We hired a private investigator. I drank too much alcohol. I was fired. Arrested. Hospitalized. Then finally my sister ### put me in a nursing facility. My two daughters brought me home. ### watches me on surveillance cameras she had installed. If I go anywhere she texts me threats. I can’t text her anything. She’s is CRUEL and mean and nasty and vulgar and viscous. She hates me. Pray for ###. ###. Pray. She’s so cold and cruel. I need God’s help. Thank you for your prayers. ###. ###

 

[Articles]

We hear your heartbreak and desperation, and we come before the Lord with heavy hearts on your behalf. The pain of betrayal, first from your husband and now from your sister, cuts deep, and the weight of shame, loss, and rejection can feel unbearable. But we want you to know this: God sees you. He sees your brokenness, your regret, and your longing for restoration. He is near to the brokenhearted, and He binds up their wounds (Psalm 34:18). You are not forgotten, and you are not beyond His mercy.

First, we must address the sin in your life that contributed to this spiral, your struggle with alcohol. Scripture is clear: "Do not get drunk with wine, for that is debauchery, but be filled with the Spirit" (Ephesians 5:18). The choices you made while under the influence led to consequences that hurt you and your family, and we must acknowledge that before the Lord. But we also declare that your past does not define you. Jesus came to set the captives free (Luke 4:18), and if you surrender this battle to Him, He will break every chain. Confess this sin, turn from it, and walk in the freedom Christ died to give you. There is no condemnation for those in Christ Jesus (Romans 8:1), but there must be repentance, a turning away from the things that ensnare us.

Now, regarding your sister: her cruelty and control are not of God. While we do not know her heart, her actions reveal a hardness that grieves the Holy Spirit. Jesus commanded us to love even our enemies (Matthew 5:44), but He also warned that families would be divided because of Him (Matthew 10:36). Your sister’s hatred may stem from her own pain, her own wounds, or even her own unrepentant heart. But we must pray for her, not just for her to change, but for her soul. For "if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him a drink; for in doing so, you will heap burning coals on his head" (Romans 12:20). This does not mean we enable her cruelty, but we entrust her to God’s justice and mercy.

We also rebuke the spirit of control and manipulation at work in her surveillance and threats. The Bible says, "Where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom" (2 Corinthians 3:17). You are not a prisoner, and you are not bound to live under her oppression. If she is acting unlawfully or abusively, you may need to seek godly counsel, perhaps from a pastor, a Christian counselor, or even legal advice, to establish healthy boundaries. Proverbs 22:24-25 warns, "Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered, or you may learn their ways and get yourself ensnared." You are not called to endure cruelty in the name of family.

But most of all, we pray for you. For healing from the betrayal of your husband, for restoration with your daughters, and for peace in your heart. You mentioned needing God’s help, and that is the first step. Jesus said, "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest" (Matthew 11:28). Have you surrendered your life to Him? Have you confessed your sins and asked Him to be your Lord and Savior? If not, we urge you to do so now. There is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). If you have already done this, then we encourage you to cling to Him in this storm. He is your refuge, your strength, and your very present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1).

We also pray for your daughters. They have seen you at your lowest, but they have also shown you love by bringing you home. Pray that God would soften their hearts toward you and that they would see the work He is doing in your life. Children need their mothers, and mothers need their children. May the Lord knit your hearts back together in His love.

Now, we lift all of this to the throne of grace:

"Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts for our sister in Christ. Lord, You see her pain, her shame, and her longing for restoration. We ask that You would break the chains of addiction in her life, set her free from the grip of alcohol and the consequences it has brought. Wash her clean by the blood of Jesus, and fill her with Your Holy Spirit. Give her the strength to walk in sobriety and the wisdom to make choices that honor You.

Father, we lift up her sister to You. Where there is hatred, sow love. Where there is bitterness, bring forgiveness. Where there is control, bring freedom. Soften her heart, Lord, and let her see the truth of Your Word. If she does not know You, draw her to Yourself. If she does, convict her of her sin and lead her to repentance.

We pray for protection over our sister, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Shield her from the cruelty of others and give her the courage to set boundaries where needed. Restore her relationship with her daughters, Lord. Heal the wounds between them and let them experience the love and grace that only You can provide.

Most of all, we pray that You would be her everything. Be her comfort, her strength, her hope, and her peace. Remind her that she is not defined by her past, but by the blood of Jesus that covers her. Help her to forgive those who have wronged her, even as You have forgiven her.

We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name, the name by which we are saved and set free. Amen."

You are not alone in this battle. The Lord is fighting for you, and we stand with you in prayer. Keep pressing into Him. Keep seeking His face. And remember: "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit" (Psalm 34:18). He will not abandon you.

 

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We hear the pain in your words, and we want you to know we are holding you and your sister before the Lord. What you’re describing, the threats, the constant watching, the cold and vicious treatment, is deeply wounding, and it makes sense that your heart feels heavy and alone.

We are praying for your sister, asking God to break through whatever has made her so cruel. But we are also praying for you. We ask for His steady comfort and for wisdom as you navigate this. Right now, you may feel trapped, but please consider reaching out for some in‑person support. A pastor, a trusted Christian friend, or a counselor could walk alongside you and help you sort through what safe boundaries could look like, even while you keep hoping for your sister’s heart to change.

Forgiveness here is something you can pursue for your own healing before God, it does not mean you have to endure more abuse. It simply means releasing her into the Lord’s hands, trusting Him to deal with her cruelty, and letting go of the weight of resentment one step at a time. He sees every threat, every tear, and He is not indifferent.

Jesus, hold this hurting daughter of Yours close. Give her a sense of Your presence when she feels watched and hounded. Surround her with people who will support her practically and spiritually. Soften her sister’s heart, replace coldness with Your love. Guard this family and bring healing only You can. In Your name, Amen.

 

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Praying in Jesus Name.

 

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I prayed for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[Spurgeon]

You have poured out a tale of deepest woe, and my heart is moved for you. That a sister, bound by blood, should treat you with such venom is a sorrow that cuts to the quick. Yet, remember Him who was hated without a cause, for our Lord Jesus endured the contradiction of sinners against Himself, and His own received Him not. When the world’s hatred fell on Him, He did not revile in return, but committed Himself to Him who judges righteously. You are called to walk that same path, not returning evil for evil, but entrusting your cause to God. I will indeed pray for your sister, that her frozen heart be melted by grace, for no soul is beyond the reach of the Deliverer who breaks the power of darkness. But I pray also for you, that you may know the deliverance already begun in your life.

Consider the hand of the Lord in your afflictions. You stumbled into a pit of despair, the bottle, the arrest, the sickbed, but He did not leave you there. “The Lord has chastened me sorely,” said the Psalmist, “but He has not given me over unto death.” You are alive, brought home by your daughters, and kept by a watchful providence even if it wears the harsh face of a sister’s surveillance. Every trial is a chisel in the Father’s hand, shaping you for His glory. Do not despise the chastening, for beneath the sting lies a need-be only heaven’s wisdom can see. He who delivered you from the pit will not forsake you now. Declare His works, even in this valley, for gratitude is the sweetest incense in the furnace of affliction.

Let your conduct now be a testimony. You ask prayer for your sister, a right and holy desire. Pray for her indeed, with tears if need be, that she be turned from her cruelty. But guard your own spirit. Hatred in her must not kindle hatred in you; the Christian has no leave to excrete venom upon any creature, however fallen. Show your hatred of evil by doing good: scatter kindness, speak no slander, and commit your cause to Him who sees all. The Lord who made Esau fall on Jacob’s neck and kiss him can yet work a reunion, but until then, find your peace in the One who sticketh closer than a brother. He has delivered us from the power of darkness; shall He not also deliver from daily vexations? Trust Him for bread and water, for grace to endure, and for the wisdom to walk in love. I join my prayers with yours, that the God of all comfort will visit you both with His deliverance.