Marriage

I’ve had a lot of feedback lately from spouses resentful about the lack of sex in their marriage. At times, it’s pushback about my lack of sympathy or understanding for their heartache.

Truth is, I don’t know what it’s like to walk in your shoes.

However, I do know that ongoing rejection hurts. It stinks, and it’s wrong.

Still, I will not validate...

 

I’ve been hearing more and more from spouses refused sex for a long time in their marriage. They are understandably disheartened and frustrated, but some are also angry.

Not just angry with their spouses, but angry with me and other Christians for letting their spouse off the hook. What they seem to want is the full force of Christendom, or at least a fair number of...

 

My best friend in 7th grade had a brother with muscular dystrophy. He was confined to a wheelchair, got moved in and out of the bathtub and bed by his father, and had a pretty girlfriend. At first, I wondered why a teen girl would want to carry her boyfriend’s books while he wheeled his way to class. Obviously, I was the shallow one. Once I got to know him, I realized he...

 

Actually, I do convey to lower interest spouses that they should have sex with their higher interest mates. I wholeheartedly believe that sex is good for a marriage, a gift from God that expresses and fosters intimacy.

But I have received numerous messages over the years—primarily from men but not entirely—complaining that Christian bloggers, authors, speakers...

 

Many contend that regular sex in marriage keeps a spouse from cheating. Is that true?

Can regular sex prevent an affair?

Some have gone so far as to say that regular sex “affair-proofs” a marriage. I don’t buy that.

We are responsible for ourselves. Day by day, we each decide to fulfill our vows or break them. Our spouse’s behavior can make that decision...

 

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My parents had a terrible marriage.

This is not news, since their divorce is public record. But recently, I’ve been contemplating once again the example I grew up with. Let’s just say they didn’t set me up well to address issues in my own marriage.

You can probably relate. Some of you had functional families (yes, they exist!), with flaws of course. Some of you had...

 

Dear Lord,

My heart is heavy for those who have lost a spouse. I could not imagine losing my best friend and lover, yet these husbands and wives know that pain all too well. I pray that your loving kindness would comfort them. I pray that your love would fill their hearts. Reveal to them the purpose of their spouse’s death or the good that can come from their loss. Help them to regain strength and confidence. If any of them have pulled away from you in anger I pray that you would soften...

 

Dear Lord,

We pray for those who are tired, weary, exhausted, and we ask that you give them rest. May you sustain them, provide for all their needs and comfort them. We pray that you would give them strength and fill their hearts with hope. Help them to endure. Help them to have faith. For those who are specifically weary in marriage, may you lighten their burdens. Carry them, Lord, refresh them and revive their relationships. May husbands seek to do good to their wives and may they love...