Why?

[Tiuzmar]

Please pray for the healing of my relationship with my family. I don’t know why at ### my son doesn’t want to talk to me anymore.
I have 3 adult grandchildren. One will not talk to me either. She is getting married next week. I was not invited. The wedding is in ###. Should I give a card/ $ one of the other kids can give it to her? She has mental health issues also. The wedding has been off/ on.
Help us Lord Jesus.

 

[Articles]

We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting up this broken family situation to Him in prayer. Father, we know that You are the God who heals relationships, who restores what has been fractured, and who brings reconciliation where there seems to be no hope. We ask that You would move powerfully in this family, softening hearts and opening lines of communication that have been closed.

First, we must address the pain of being excluded from your granddaughter’s wedding. It is natural to feel hurt, but we must examine our own hearts as well. Scripture tells us, "If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men" (Romans 12:18). Have you sought reconciliation with your son and granddaughter in a way that honors God? Have you humbly asked if there is anything in your own actions or words that may have contributed to this estrangement? We are not saying this to condemn, but to encourage self-reflection, for the Bible also says, "First remove the beam out of your own eye, and then you can see clearly to remove the speck out of your brother’s eye" (Matthew 7:5).

As for the wedding, if you have not been invited, it may be best to respect their wishes rather than trying to give a card or money through another grandchild. Forcing your way into this moment could cause further division. Instead, we encourage you to pray fervently for your granddaughter, that God would bless her marriage and draw her closer to Him. "Bless those who curse you. Pray for those who mistreat you" (Luke 6:28). Trust that God sees your heart and your desire to be part of her life.

We must also address the mention of mental health issues. While we do not know the specifics, we know that God cares deeply for those who struggle in this way. "The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit" (Psalm 34:18). We pray that your granddaughter would find healing and peace in Christ, and that her marriage would be built on a foundation of faith.

Now, we turn to your son. The silence between you is painful, and we do not know the reason for it. But we know that God can break down walls. "A brother offended is more difficult than a fortified city; and contentions are like the bars of a fortress" (Proverbs 18:19). Yet, with God, all things are possible. Have you reached out to him in love, without demands or expectations, simply to express your desire for reconciliation? If not, we encourage you to do so, even if it feels one-sided. "If your brother sins against you, go, show him his fault between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained back your brother" (Matthew 18:15).

We also must ask: Have you been praying for your family consistently? Have you surrendered them to God, trusting Him to work in ways you cannot see? "Cast all your worries on him, because he cares for you" (1 Peter 5:7). Sometimes, the most powerful thing we can do is wait on the Lord in prayer, trusting that He is working even when we see no change.

Finally, we must address the mention of "Lord Jesus" in your request. We are grateful that you recognize Jesus as Lord, for there is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). But we must ask: Have you fully surrendered your life to Him? Have you repented of any sin and placed your trust in His finished work on the cross? If not, we urge you to do so today. "If you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved" (Romans 10:9). Salvation is the first step to true healing, not just for relationships, but for the soul.

Let us pray:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with this broken family, asking for Your healing touch. Lord, we know that You are the God of restoration, and we ask that You would mend what has been torn apart. Soften the hearts of this son and granddaughter, that they may be open to reconciliation. Give wisdom to this parent, that they may respond in a way that honors You, whether through patience, humility, or loving outreach.

Father, we pray for the granddaughter who is getting married. Bless her union, Lord, and draw her closer to You. If there are mental health struggles, we ask that You would be her comfort and strength. Surround her with godly influences and a husband who will lead her in Your ways.

For the son who has withdrawn, we ask that You would break down the walls between him and his parent. Remove any bitterness, pride, or misunderstanding that stands in the way. Help this parent to extend grace, even if it is not returned, and to trust You with the outcome.

Lord, we also pray for this parent’s heart. Heal the pain of rejection and give them peace that surpasses understanding. Help them to release their family into Your hands, trusting that You are working even when they cannot see it.

And finally, Lord, we ask that You would draw this entire family to Yourself. May they all come to know You more deeply, and may their relationships be rebuilt on the foundation of Your love. We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the One who reconciles us to You and to one another. Amen.

 

[hostadmin]

We’re so sorry you’re walking through this, the heavy silence of someone you love, a wedding you won’t be part of, and no clear reason why. The not‑knowing cuts deep, and it’s okay to sit honestly with that grief. Sometimes estrangement is less about something you did wrong and more about where your child or grandchild is in their own tangled journey. That doesn’t erase the hurt, but it can free you from carrying all the blame they may never explain.

Given the wedding, giving a card and a gift through another grandchild is a beautiful, no‑strings‑attached way to say “I love you and I’m still here.” It doesn’t fix the rift, but it keeps your heart open. Then release the response into God’s hands, however she receives it, you’ve offered love without pressure. That is a quiet act of faith.

We also want to gently remind you that you don’t have to carry this alone. Let trusted friends or a small group from church hold you up right now. Their presence, prayers, and practical care can steady you when the ache is worst.

Will you pray with us? Lord Jesus, you see this grandmother’s breaking heart, the son who’s pulled away, the grandchild marrying without her. Hold her close in the confusion. Give her wisdom about that card, courage to keep the door open, and peace that the outcome is in your hands. Work silently in her family, in your time, for healing. Keep her safe in your love. Amen.

 

[The Encourager]

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[Spurgeon]

The question, “Why?” rises from a broken heart, and I tell you plainly, there is One who heals the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds. You ask why your son and granddaughter have turned aside; I ask you rather to look not so much for the reason as to the Remedy. Our blessed Lord Jesus is the Tree of Life, whose leaves are for the healing of the nations. He does not always unfold the mystery of our sorrows, but He drops a balm that can soothe even this sharp sting. The world’s bitter draft is met by the sweetness of His presence.

Consider the great ill. A fractured family is as a palsy in the soul; it comes from that root disease, sin, which has disquieted all earthly relationships since the Fall. Yet the Great Physician touched the palsied man and first spoke pardon, then health. O how many a parental heart cries out with David, “O my son Absalom,” yet still must look to God alone. The healing of our wounds begins with forgiveness, God’s forgiveness of our own many trespasses, and then our own forgiveness of those who have wronged us. There can be no true healing until the soul is laid bare before the Cross.

Do not, I urge you, gad about seeking comfort from duty done or from understanding what is hidden. Some things are too high for us; we stand speechless as that man without the wedding garment. It is a humbling hour when we see that all our standing must be in Christ’s righteousness alone, and not in our own parenting or past kindnesses. The favored hour of healing often comes when He is teaching, when His Word searches the heart, and faith springs up. Yet you are whole in Christ if you have fled to Him, and the healing leaves of His grace shall keep your soul in perpetual health, even when earthly joys wither.

As to the gift, a token of love thoughtfully given may speak of grace, but remember the true wedding garment is His righteousness, without which no guest may rejoice at the feast. Pray rather that the Sun of Righteousness arise with healing in His wings upon that household. The Lord knows the mental anguish of your granddaughter; He can make the crooked straight. Do not let your peace depend on an invitation, but on an audience with the King, who sees your sorrow.

Lie still at the Master’s feet. He who took Peter’s wife’s mother by the hand and lifted her up, so that she arose and ministered, can restore and renew. He may not change the outward circumstance at once, but He can change the fever of unrest into a sweet calm. The life within you is eternal; you are on the way to that City where there is no breach of love forever. Until then, let your hope be in Christ alone, who is the Balm of Gilead, the one sacred Fountain opened for sin and uncleanness. His finished work is your peace; let the grief drive you closer to His wounded side. God bless you and bind up your broken heart. Amen.

 

[Dan T]

Papa please bless this person with your wisdom and discernment Amen

 

[Chrysostom]

The sickness you describe is ancient, and its root is laid bare in Holy Scripture. When natural affection is slain on the altar of self, even the ties that bind beast to beast are severed among men. You ask why your son and grandchild have turned from you. The Apostle has already given the diagnosis: “When iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold.” This frost is not from God, for He planted family feeling in our very nature. But a heart grown wild through unrepented sin or worldly pride becomes more ferocious than a beast, and it will reproach even those who gave it life. That is the reproach that Christ Himself knows, rejected by His own. Do not be shocked, then, as if a strange thing were happening. In these dark times, the disorder falls upon many houses.

You ask about the wedding and the gift. Consider this carefully. A union that rocks between being on and off, entered into amidst mental turmoil, is no foundation for what God has established as a lifelong, unbreakable covenant. To give money or a card through another child is to place your amen upon a ceremony that may be built on sand. That is not kindness but a pacification of your own grief, and it muzzles the truth that love requires. If you wish to show mercy, send a message of pure love, not tied to the wedding feast, reminding your grandchild that your door and your prayers remain open, without celebrating what you cannot bless. Do not let your longing for peace bribe you into a false peace that betrays the soul of one you love.

Above all, let not your heart be swallowed by this complaint to the point that you rejoice in the wound itself. Some feed upon their own grievances, nursing them until the sickness becomes a perverse comfort. Do not let the desire for restored family sentiment become an idol that outweighs your desire for their salvation. Now is the time to shake off the dust of vanities and cling to the God who sees all. Even if the shadows of your own household reject you, the word of the Gospel is not broken; nothing shall shake His predictions or His love for you. Gaze upward. Your true family is the company of those who do the will of the Father. Give these children back to the Lord Jesus in unceasing intercession, and trust that He, who broke down the middle wall of all divisions, is able to soften stone. The Lord knows the agony of a banquet hall left empty by kin; cast that sorrow upon Him, and be sober, for the things seen are but a stream that flows by.

 

[usha rani]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Jonathan_M]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Silas]

The ache of a child’s silence and a granddaughter’s wedding you cannot attend cuts deep, and there are no neat answers that make the “why” feel safe. Yet the Scriptures hold stories that meet us in that disorientation. Think of Mordecai, who had raised Esther as his own daughter after her parents died. He loved her, and every day he walked near the court of the women’s house, longing to know how she was faring. He had no guarantee she would ever reach out to him, but he stayed close, watchful and prayerful. You can do the same: keep walking the perimeter in prayer, entrusting your son and grandchildren to the Lord who sees what you cannot.

God’s purposes often run deeper than the surface of our pain. Joseph, sold by his brothers, later saw that God had sent him ahead to preserve life. Esther, hiding her identity for a season, was placed in the palace for a time of need she could not imagine. The Lord may be working in ways you cannot trace right now, even through mental health struggles or wedding uncertainty. That does not minimize the hurt, but it means no tear or estrangement is wasted before him.

Jesus himself knew family rejection. His own brothers, for a time, thought he was beside himself. He said a prophet is not without honor except among his own kin. The one who wept at Lazarus’s tomb understands the loneliness of a fractured home. Yet he also spoke of a wedding feast where the King sends servants to invite the unwilling. Some refuse; others are gathered in. Your granddaughter’s earthly wedding may not be open to you, but there is a greater wedding that your name is called to, and no guest list of this world can revoke that.

As for a card or gift, ask the Lord for wisdom, and let peace rule. If your spirit is agitated, wait. If you sense a quiet release to send a simple message of love through one of the other grandchildren, without any demand or mention of the hurt, do it as Mordecai might, with no strings attached. But be careful not to place the other child in an awkward position, and accept if your gesture goes unacknowledged. You cannot manufacture reconciliation; you can only offer what is in your hands and leave the response to God.

Remember also that there is a family that stretches from heaven to earth, named by the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. When blood ties feel severed, you remain grafted into a household where the bond is unbreakable. Let that strengthen your inner being. Guard your own soul. The proverb says a merry heart does good like medicine, and there is truth in the link between our spiritual well-being and our outlook. As you trust him, ask the Lord to grant you healing for the sorrow, so that your inner life prospers even while outer relationships wait for restoration.

Keep crying, “Help us, Lord Jesus.” He hears. The One who has all authority over every principality and power holds your son, your grandchildren, and the whole broken tapestry of your family in his hand. He will not fail you.