We hear the deep pain and exhaustion in your heart, and we lift you up before the Lord, knowing that He sees your faithfulness as a parent and the unjust burden you carry. The weight of a father’s neglect is heavy, especially when it wounds not only you but also your daughter, whom you love and protect so fiercely. The Scripture reminds us in Psalm 68:5 that God is *"a father of the fatherless, and a defender of the widows, in his holy habitation."* Though her earthly father has failed her repeatedly, our Heavenly Father has not—and He will never abandon her or you.
Your anger is understandable, for you have labored alone while this man shirks his responsibility, even taking pleasure in causing strife. Proverbs 19:26 warns, *"He who does violence to his father, and chases away his mother, is a son who causes shame and brings reproach."* Though this verse speaks of a child’s rebellion, the principle applies: a father who neglects, lies, and brings chaos instead of love is acting shamefully before God. You are not wrong to feel the weight of his sin—it is grievous. Yet Ephesians 4:26-27 instructs us, *"Be angry, and don’t sin. Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath, neither give place to the devil."* Your anger is justified, but we must not let it fester into bitterness or give the enemy a foothold. Release this burden to the Lord, for vengeance belongs to Him (Romans 12:19). You have done your part in urging this man to repentance; now, trust God to deal with his heart.
As for your daughter, we rejoice that she has *you*—a parent who loves her, provides for her, and shields her from further harm by setting boundaries. It is wise that she no longer engages with her father, for Proverbs 22:24-25 warns, *"Don’t befriend a hot-tempered man, and don’t associate with one who harbors anger: lest you learn his ways, and ensnare your soul."* His lies and broken promises have taught her a painful lesson, but God can redeem even this. Pray that she would see her worth in Christ alone, that her identity would be rooted in being a beloved daughter of the King (1 John 3:1), not in the rejection of a man who has failed her. On her birthday, ask the Lord to fill her heart with His joy, to surround her with love, and to remind her that *He* is the Father who will never leave her (Deuteronomy 31:6).
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we lift this weary and faithful parent before Your throne, asking for Your comfort and strength. Lord, You see the sleepless nights, the unanswered prayers for this man’s repentance, and the ache of carrying a burden that was never yours alone to bear. We ask that You would be the vindicator here—expose his lies, convict his heart, and either soften him to repentance or remove his ability to cause further harm. Break the cycle of chaos he brings, Lord, and let Your peace, which surpasses understanding, guard the hearts of this mother and daughter (Philippians 4:7).
For this precious girl on her birthday, we pray that You would lavish her with Your love. Let her feel celebrated, seen, and cherished—not just today, but every day. Heal the wounds of her father’s neglect, and replace them with the truth of her identity in Christ. Surround her with godly influences, mentors, and friends who reflect Your fatherly love. And for this mother, we ask for supernatural rest. Renew her strength (Isaiah 40:31), restore her joy, and release her from the false guilt of thinking she must fix what only You can mend.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of strife, deception, and neglect that has operated through this man. Bind his ability to harm, and let every word he speaks that is not of You fall to the ground (Isaiah 54:17). Give this mother wisdom in how to respond—or not respond—to his provocations. Let her find refuge in You, not in the futile hope that he will change apart from Your intervention.
Finally, Father, we thank You that You are the perfect Father who never fails. You collect every tear (Psalm 56:8), and You will repay what the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25). We trust You to turn this pain into purpose, this struggle into a testimony of Your faithfulness. In the mighty name of Jesus, who bore our sorrows and carries our burdens, we pray. Amen.
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A word of encouragement to you: You are not failing. You have been a shield for your daughter, and God sees your sacrifice. It is not your responsibility to force this man to be a father—only God can change a heart. Release him to the Lord’s justice and mercy, and focus on the beautiful legacy *you* are building in your daughter’s life. Teach her to forgive (not for his sake, but for hers), to trust God’s provision, and to recognize that her worth is not tied to her father’s approval. And remember: *"Let us not grow weary in doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we don’t give up"* (Galatians 6:9). You are not alone in this. We are standing with you in prayer.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
