Whom should I date???

This is a question so many single Christians ask the pastor. He has to deal with who, where and what to say to them. But the question remains... Who is the right person for my life?

A. The ones who cuddles me and loves me till death do us part.
B. He will never ever cheat on you.
C. He will touch your feelings and make you smile.
D. Responds promtly to your text when you are away.
E. Surprises you with flowers and chocolate chips.
F. He never gets angry on any issue.
G. I can be easy and feel so happy with him.

Those are wonderful qualities for those who are dating of want to date anyone. But they forgot the most important qualities of a person should have.

1. The person you will date should love the Lord with all their heart, mind and soul.
2. Love children and teach them Gods word.
3. Serve the Lord in your church as a deacon, usher or at least sing in the choir.
4. If he or she loves Jesus a lot then, he will love you too.


Remember what Gods word says to everyone who is thinking or having a date. Speaking one to another with psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit Sing and make music from your heart to the Lord. Eph. 5.19
 
I wish I knew all theses pre check conditions before I got married. I am happy at least I got to know more about God and how to look for spouse before my children get married.
Hopefully I can help them.

Yes, God's Sheep, and even after knowing some of these "road-signs," it doesn't guarantee a person can't change over the course of a marriage, or eliminate the chance a person may have been serving God for ulterior motives at the inception of the marriage, or eliminate the pull of the world, flesh or devil -- it just means that you need prayer and discernment, pastoral advice and then you can marry with a clear conscience... May God bless Glenn for posting it and strengthen couples to seek him for healthy marriages from the start, in Jesus' Name, Amen.
 
Yes, God's Sheep, and even after knowing some of these "road-signs," it doesn't guarantee a person can't change over the course of a marriage, or eliminate the chance a person may have been serving God for ulterior motives at the inception of the marriage, or eliminate the pull of the world, flesh or devil -- it just means that you need prayer and discernment, pastoral advice and then you can marry with a clear conscience... May God bless Glenn for posting it and strengthen couples to seek him for healthy marriages from the start, in Jesus' Name, Amen.
Yeah, I agree with you. Whatever check we do is not enough. Only God can help us thru prayer. God can lead us to the right person. I hope the young people pray before they fall in love blindly.
 
Our date in in our entire life should be first and most with Jesus. He is the One who sent us to this world to be a light to those who walk in darkness. I had wonderful person to see around that brough so many dates to church. I was wondering who this girl is bringing so many friends to church to make sure they will hear Gods word and when Jesus call them to the alter they went and got saved. She was bringing all her classmates, specially male dates to church and all of them got saved. A mission field was at work in our midst. Praise the Lord.
 
Excellent list of qualifiers and pre-qualifiers... I would add "one who shares Christ with others," "has a prayer life and spends time reading the Bible," and "has time in fellowship with other Christian men" to merely serving in church -- most every evangelistic tract I have ever read had 5 things to do once you prayed and received Christ. Again these were the common infant stages of a Christian in most tracts from the 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s & 1980s...

1) Spend time each day praying and worshipping God
2) Daily read the Bible (Begin with the Gospel of John)
3) Find a church that teaches the Bible as 100% the Word of God & encourages a personal relationship w/Jesus
4) Begin to develop friendships with sincere Christians
5) Tell others about your new relationship with God

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Intercessor, i agree definetely on these points:
1)"one who shares Christ with others,"
2) "has a prayer life and
3) spends time reading the Bible," and
4) "has time in fellowship with other Christian men" to
5) merely serving in church

Although i have get to know christians who do all of that, but i would not spend time with them, because they were in some wrong spirit or not teachable, or in religion etc etc...so there is more to that, Holy spirit can only help to discern between friends and frenemies, real and fake christians, counterfeits and originals, sheeps and goats, weeds and Gods seeds. The angel of light can really disguise himself good. So, this list can only help partialy, the other part is the Holy Ghost.
 
Intercessor, i agree definetely on these points:
1)"one who shares Christ with others,"
2) "has a prayer life and
3) spends time reading the Bible," and
4) "has time in fellowship with other Christian men" to
5) merely serving in church

Although i have get to know christians who do all of that, but i would not spend time with them, because they were in some wrong spirit or not teachable, or in religion etc etc...so there is more to that, Holy spirit can only help to discern between friends and frenemies, real and fake christians, counterfeits and originals, sheeps and goats, weeds and Gods seeds. The angel of light can really disguise himself good. So, this list can only help partialy, the other part is the Holy Ghost.

We need discernment but it is really only God who knows the heart and knows whether someone will come to Christ and bear fruit or not (Prime example, Saul of Tarsus to Paul the Apostle -- most Christians would have and at that time had counted him out in regards to someone to whom it was safe to witness : )

Staying in the Word does help us remain as Jesus' disciples, as well as bear good fruit, Jesus said, "If you remain in Me and My words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you. "This is to My Father’s glory, that you bear much fruit, proving yourselves to be My disciples" (John 15:7-8). Jesus said many times that you could tell a tree by its fruit (Matt 7:16, 7:20, 12:33, Luke 6:44) and that "abiding in His Word or Teaching" is necessary for "bearing fruit" which again, according to Jesus, is the proof of being a disciple (John 15 in entirety).

The reason I reiterated what baby Christians should do after conversion, and I really emphasize evangelism and teaching each other the Word is that it is the very final words and "Great Commission" of Jesus, meaning His last words were like of summary of his entire mission, are to wait to receive the power to witness and to make disciples depicted not only in in Matthew 28:16–20,

Now the eleven disciples went to Galilee, to the mountain to which Jesus had directed them. And when they saw Him they worshiped Him, but some doubted. And Jesus came and said to them, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to Me. Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the Name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, even to the end of the age.”​

Other versions of the Great Commission are found in Mark 16:14–18, Luke 24:44–49, Acts 1:4–8, and John 20:19–23. They all emphasize "sending" or "commissioning" which means announcing what Jesus has done, who He is (King of earthly Kings and Lord of earthly lords), as well as teaching observance of everything Jesus not suggested but "commanded."

In my experience, many religious people and hypocrites do not spend time reading the New Testament, much less practicing loving one another including our neighbors (The thing Jesus emphasized a very close 2nd to loving God with all the heart, soul, mind and strength and is also a litmus test of a true Christian just as obeying The Great Commission to preach and teach Jesus as the Risen and Returning "Messiah" to rule and reign on earth, whose Words, according to Him, must be both studied, taught and obeyed). They also may have, as Jesus described in Matthew 6, great public prayer lives or public ministries, but that prayer time Jesus commanded in the inner room or closet which only the Father can see is very little and mostly none at all (Paraphrase of Matt 6:5-6).

So also is it very rare where one is actually submitted to and open to one another and also open to correction "as iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another" (Prov 27:17). So when I mention "true fellowship with other believing people," above, it is no different from what Paul describes "submitting to one another in the fear of God" (Eph 5:21), wheras hypocrites are usually "pure in their own eyes" (Prov 30:12), and their leaders are usually "irreproachable" -- unable to be corrected since they need no correction, being pure in their own eyes. How much different does James describe the Wisdom from Above -- "But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be entreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy" (James 3:17).

Lastly, how many "goats" actually spend time feeding the hungry and poor, visiting the sick or those in prison in addition to all those things above listed?

Jonathan Edward, in his classic, The Religious Affections, wrote 414 pages about distinguishing true and false conversions in 1746 after "The Great Awakening" which occurred in the time between 1734 to about 1740 in the original 13 British Colonies which became The U.S. after they declared independence from Britain on July 4th, 1776 and the subsequent Revolutionary War...

"The Great Awakening" further put into words and even laws much of what the first New England "Pilgrims -- Just passing by in this earthly life because their real home was a future and eternal dwelling with God" -- a forming into words, sermons, sayings and laws the revised beliefs of the first Puritans who landed in America.

Here is "The Religious Affections" Book by Jonathan Edwards on https://www.ccel.org/ccel/edwards/affections.html
Here is "The Religious Affections" Audio by Jonathan Edwards on

This is the introduction to the above mentioned book, The Religious Affections, which goes on for several hundred more pages, and is one of my Top Ten recommended books for the beginning Christian...

THERE is no question whatsoever, that is of greater importance to mankind, and what is more concerns every individual person to be well resolved in, than this: What are the distinguishing qualifications of those that are in favor with God, and entitled to his eternal rewards? Or, which comes to the same thing, What is the nature of true religion? And wherein do lie the distinguishing notes of that virtue and holiness that is acceptable in the sight of God? But though it be of such importance, and though we have clear and abundant light in the word of God to direct us in this matter, yet there is no one point, wherein professing Christians do more differ one from another. It would be endless to reckon up the variety of opinions in this point, that divide the Christian world; making manifest the truth of that declaration of our Savior, "Strait is the gate and narrow is the way, that leads to life, and few there be that find it."

The consideration of these things has long engaged me to attend to this matter, with the utmost diligence and care, and exactness of search and inquiry, that I have been capable of. It is a subject on which my mind has been peculiarly intent, ever since I first entered on the study of divinity. But as to the success of my inquiries it must be left to the judgment of the reader of the following treatise.

I am sensible it is much more difficult to judge impartially of that which is the subject of this discourse, in the midst of the dust and smoke of such a state of controversy, as this land is now in, about things of this nature. As it is more difficult to write impartially, so it is more difficult to read impartially. Many will probably be hurt in their spirits, to find so much that appertains to religious affection, here condemned: and perhaps indignation and contempt will be excited in others by finding so much here justified and approved. And it may be, some will be ready to charge me with inconsistency with myself, in so much approving some things, and so much condemning others; as I have found this has always been objected to by some, ever since the beginning of our late controversies about religion. It is a hard thing to be a hearty zealous friend of what has been good and glorious, in the late extraordinary appearances, and to rejoice much in it; and at the same time to see the evil and pernicious tendency of what has been bad, and earnestly to oppose that. But yet, I am humbly but fully persuaded, we shall never be in the way of truth, nor go on in a way acceptable to God, and tending to the advancement of Christ's kingdom till we do so. There is indeed something very mysterious in it, that so much good, and so much bad, should be mixed together in the church of God; as it is a mysterious thing, and what has puzzled and amazed many a good Christian, that there should be that which is so divine and precious, as the saving grace of God, and the new and divine nature dwelling in the same heart, with so much corruption, hypocrisy, and iniquity, in a particular saint. Yet neither of these is more mysterious than real. And neither of them is a new or rare thing. It is no new thing, that much false religion should prevail, at a time of great reviving of true religion, and that at such a time multitudes of hypocrites should spring up among true saints. It was so in that great reformation, and revival of religion, that was in Josiah's time; as appears by Jer. 3:10, and 4:3, 4, and also by the great apostasy that there was in the land, so soon after his reign. So it was in that great outpouring of the Spirit upon the Jews, that was in the days of John the Baptist; as appears by the great apostasy of that people so soon after so general an awakening, and the temporary religious comforts and joys of many: John 5:35, "Ye were willing for a season to rejoice in his light." So it was in those great commotions that were among the multitude, occasioned by the preaching of Jesus Christ; of the many that were then called, but few were chosen; of the multitude that were roused and affected by his preaching, and at one time or other appeared mightily engaged, full of admiration of Christ, and elevated with joy, but few were true disciples, that stood the shock of the great trials that came afterwards, and endured to the end. Many were like the stony ground, or thorny ground; and but few, comparatively, like the good ground. Of the whole heap that was gathered, great part was chaff; that the wind afterwards drove away; and the heap of wheat that was left, was comparatively small; as appears abundantly, by the history of the New Testament. So it was in that great outpouring of the Spirit that was in the apostles' days as appears by Matt. 24:10-13. Gal. 3:1, and 4:11, 15. Phil. 2:21, and 3:18, 19, and the two epistles to the Corinthians, and many other parts of the New Testament. And so it was in the great reformation from Popery. It appears plainly to have been in the visible church of God, in times of great reviving of religion, from time to time, as it is with the fruit trees in the spring; there are a multitude of blossoms, all of which appear fair and beautiful, and there is a promising appearance of young fruits; but many of them are but of short continuance; they soon fall off, and never come to maturity.

Not that it is to be supposed that it will always be so; for though there never will, in this world, be an entire purity, either in particular saints, in a perfect freedom from mixtures of corruption; or in the church of God, without any mixture of hypocrites with saints, and counterfeit religion, and false appearances of grace with true religion, and real holiness: yet it is evident, that there will come a time of much greater purity in the church of God, than has been in ages past; it is plain by these texts of Scripture, Isa. 52:1. Ezek. 44:6, 7, Joel 3:17. Zech. 14:21. Psal. 69:32, 35, 36. Isa 35:8, 10, chap. 4:3, 4. Ezek. 20:38. Psal. 37:9, 10, 21, 29. And one great reason of it will be that at that time God will give much greater light to his people, to distinguish between true religion and its counterfeits. Mal. 3:3, "And he shall sit as a refiner and purifier of silver: and he shall purify the sons of Levi, and purge them as gold and silver, that they may offer to the Lord an offering in righteousness." With ver. 18, which is a continuation of the prophecy of the same happy times. "Then shall ye return, and discern between the righteous and the wicked, between him that serveth God, and him that serveth him not."

It is by the mixture of counterfeit religion with true, not discerned and distinguished, that the devil has had his greatest advantage against the cause and kingdom of Christ, all along hitherto. It is by this means, principally, that he has prevailed against all revivings of religion, that ever have been since the first founding of the Christian church. By this, he hurt the cause of Christianity, in and after the apostolic age, much more than by all the persecutions of both Jews and Heathens. The apostles, in all their epistles, show themselves much more concerned at the former mischief, than the latter. By this, Satan prevailed against the reformation, began by Luther. Zwinglius, &c., to put a stop to its progress (The Reformation), and bring it into disgrace; ten times more, than by all those bloody, cruel, and before unheard of persecutions of the church of Rome. By this, principally, has he prevailed against revivals of religion, that have been in our nation since the reformation. By this he prevailed against New England, to quench the love and spoil the joy of her espousals, about a hundred years ago. And I think, I have had opportunity enough to see plainly that by this the devil has prevailed against the late great revival of religion in New England, so happy and promising in its beginning. Here, most evidently has been the main advantage Satan has had against us; by this he has foiled us. It is by this means, that the daughter of Zion in this land now lies on the ground, in such piteous circumstances as we now behold her; with her garments rent, her face disfigured, her nakedness exposed, her limbs broken, and weltering in the blood of her own wounds, and in no wise able to arise, and this, so quickly after her late great joys and hopes: Lam. 1:17, "Zion spreadeth forth her hands, and there is none to comfort her: the Lord hath commanded concerning Jacob, that his adversaries shall be roundabout him: Jerusalem is as a menstruous woman among them." I have seen the devil prevail the same way, against two great revivings of religion in this country. Satan goes on with mankind, as he began with them. He prevailed against our first parents, and cast them out of paradise, and suddenly brought all their happiness and glory to an end, by appearing to be a friend to their happy paradisaic state, and pretending to advance it to higher degrees. So the same cunning serpent, that beguiled Eve through his subtlety, by perverting us from the simplicity that is in Christ, hath suddenly prevailed to deprive us of that fair prospect, we had a little while ago, of a kind of paradisaic state of the church of God in New England.

(Please continue the study of this topic by downloading or reading the remainder of The Religious Affections online, or listening to it from the Libravox link above -- "Let the reader understand" [Mark 13:14], and, "Then He opened their mind to understand the Scriptures" [Luke 24:45]), in Jesus' Name, may "the Word of the Lord spread rapidly and be glorified" (2 Thes 3:1), Amen.
 
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Well, we're not to be unequally yoked,so I would say Amen to that.

Bob, this is a topic of astronomical proportions in The USA and World at present. Your quoting 2nd Corinthians is one of the answers of this multi-colored tunic... Please continue to read the depth and discernment which this topic continues to unfold, Dave
 
This is a question so many single Christians ask the pastor. He has to deal with who, where and what to say to them. But the question remains... Who is the right person for my life?

A. The ones who cuddles me and loves me till death do us part.
B. He will never ever cheat on you.
C. He will touch your feelings and make you smile.
D. Responds promtly to your text when you are away.
E. Surprises you with flowers and chocolate chips.
F. He never gets angry on any issue.
G. I can be easy and feel so happy with him.

Those are wonderful qualities for those who are dating of want to date anyone. But they forgot the most important qualities of a person should have.

1. The person you will date should love the Lord with all their heart, mind and soul.
2. Love children and teach them Gods word.
3. Serve the Lord in your church as a deacon, usher or at least sing in the choir.
4. If he or she loves Jesus a lot then, he will love you too.


Remember what Gods word says to everyone who is thinking or having a date. Speaking one to another with psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit Sing and make music from your heart to the Lord. Eph. 5.19

Glenn, the second portion of your blog on “Who Should I Date” is a short explication on the fruit that should be evident in a good tree, and therefore very worthy of explication. I get into some fruit we would like to see as pastors and laity in not only the coming together as one in a marriage or even the preliminary dating, but the actual fruit of salvation. I point some common-sensicals, but pount to “the summation of this the sistinguishing marks of a Christian” penned by in 1746 after The First Great Awakening” by Jonathan Edwards in “The Religious Affections,” a 414 Page Book that deals entirely of the fruits and abuses of Both true and false religion as it surfaced in the middle of the first great awakening in the British colonies of the now United States of America from 1734 to around 1741.
 
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