Whom should I date???

This is a question so many single Christians ask the pastor. He has to deal with who, where, and what to say to them. But the question remains... Who is the right person for my life?

A. The ones who cuddles me and loves me till death do us part.
B. He will never ever cheat on you.
C. He will touch your feelings and make you smile.
D. Responds promptly to your text when you are away.
E. Surprises you with flowers and chocolate chips.
F. He never gets angry on any issue.
G. I can be easy and feel so happy with him.

Those are wonderful qualities for those who are dating or want to date anyone. But they forgot the most important qualities of a person should have.

1. The person you will date should love the Lord with all their heart, mind, and soul.
2. Love children and teach them God's word.
3. Serve the Lord in your church as a deacon, usher, or at least sing in the choir.
4. If he or she loves Jesus a lot then, he will love you too.

Remember what God's word says to everyone who is thinking or having a date. Speaking one to another with psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit. Sing and make music from your heart to the Lord. Eph. 5:19

 

[Intercessor]

I wish I knew all these pre-check conditions before I got married. I am happy at least I got to know more about God and how to look for a spouse before my children get married. Hopefully I can help them.

Yes, God's Sheep, and even after knowing some of these "road-signs," it doesn't guarantee a person can't change over the course of a marriage, or eliminate the chance a person may have been serving God for ulterior motives at the inception of the marriage, or eliminate the pull of the world, flesh or devil -- it just means that you need prayer and discernment, pastoral advice and then you can marry with a clear conscience... May God bless ### for posting it and strengthen couples to seek Him for healthy marriages from the start, in Jesus' Name, Amen.

 

[God's sheep]

Yes, God's Sheep, and even after knowing some of these "road-signs," it doesn't guarantee a person can't change over the course of a marriage, or eliminate the chance a person may have been serving God for ulterior motives at the inception of the marriage, or eliminate the pull of the world, flesh or devil -- it just means that you need prayer and discernment, pastoral advice and then you can marry with a clear conscience... May God bless ### for posting it and strengthen couples to seek him for healthy marriages from the start, in Jesus' Name, Amen.

Yeah, I agree with you. Whatever check we do is not enough. Only God can help us thru prayer. God can lead us to the right person. I hope the young people pray before they fall in love blindly.

 

[Intercessor]

Yeah, I agree with you. Whatever check we do is not enough. Only God can help us thru prayer. God can lead us to the right person. I hope the young people pray before they fall in love blindly.

Young and old alike!

 

[RevShields]

Our date in our entire life should be first and most with Jesus. He is the One who sent us to this world to be a light to those who walk in darkness. I had a wonderful person to see around that brought so many ### to church. I was wondering who this girl is bringing so many friends to church to make sure they will hear God's word and when Jesus calls them to the altar they went and got saved. She was bringing all her classmates, especially male ### to church and all of them got saved. A mission field was at work in our midst. Praise the Lord.

 

[natasha2]

Excellent list of qualifiers and pre-qualifiers... I would add "one who shares Christ with others," "has a prayer life and spends time reading the Bible," and "has time in fellowship with other Christian men" to merely serving in church -- most every evangelistic tract I have ever read had 5 things to do once you prayed and received Christ. Again these were the common infant stages of a Christian in most tracts from the 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s & 1980s...

1) Spend time each day praying and worshipping God
2) Daily read the Bible (Begin with the Gospel of John)
3) Find a church that teaches the Bible as 100% the Word of God & encourages a personal relationship w/Jesus
4) Begin to develop friendships with sincere Christians
5) Tell others about your new relationship with God

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Intercessor, I agree definitely on these points:
1) "one who shares Christ with others,"
2) "has a prayer life and
3) spends time reading the Bible," and
4) "has time in fellowship with other Christian men" to
5) merely serving in church

Although I have gotten to know Christians who do all of that, but I would not spend time with them, because they were in some wrong spirit or not teachable, or in religion etc etc...so there is more to that, Holy Spirit can only help to discern between friends and frenemies, real and fake Christians, counterfeits and originals, sheep and goats, weeds and God's seeds. The angel of light can really disguise himself well. So, this list can only help partially, the other part is the Holy Ghost.

 

[Intercessor]

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[Intercessor]

Well, we're not to be unequally yoked, so I would say Amen to that.

###, this is a topic of astronomical proportions in The USA and World at present. Your quoting 2nd Corinthians is one of the answers of this multi-colored tunic... Please continue to read the depth and discernment which this topic continues to unfold, ###

 

[Intercessor]

This is a question so many single Christians ask the pastor. He has to deal with who, where and what to say to them. But the question remains... Who is the right person for my life?

A. The ones who cuddles me and loves me till death do us part.
B. He will never ever cheat on you.
C. He will touch your feelings and make you smile.
D. Responds promptly to your text when you are away.
E. Surprises you with flowers and chocolate chips.
F. He never gets angry on any issue.
G. I can be easy and feel so happy with him.

Those are wonderful qualities for those who are dating or want to date anyone. But they forgot the most important qualities of a person should have.

1. The person you will date should love the Lord with all their heart, mind and soul.
2. Love children and teach them God's word.
3. Serve the Lord in your church as a deacon, usher or at least sing in the choir.
4. If he or she loves Jesus a lot then, he will love you too.

Remember what God's word says to everyone who is thinking or having a date. Speaking one to another with psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit Sing and make music from your heart to the Lord. Eph. 5:19

###, the second portion of your blog on “Who Should I Date” is a short explication on the fruit that should be evident in a good tree, and therefore very worthy of explication. I get into some fruit we would like to see as pastors and laity in not only the coming together as one in a marriage or even the preliminary dating, but the actual fruit of salvation. I point some common-sensicals, but point to “the summation of this the distinguishing marks of a Christian” penned by in 1746 after The First Great Awakening” by Jonathan Edwards in “The Religious Affections,” a 414 Page Book that deals entirely of the fruits and abuses of both true and false religion as it surfaced in the middle of the first great awakening in the British colonies of the now United States of America from 1734 to around 1741.