🙏 What to Say & How to Say It Jn 12:49 Wisdom to Fast Isa 58:6-14 Gracious Words Zech 1:13 Comfort Isa 40:1-2 Peace 1Cor 7:15 Gentleness 2 Tim 2:25

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What to Say and How to Say It, Jn 12:49; Grace to Fast, Isa 58:6-14; Gracious Words, Comforting Words, Zech 1:13, Comfort My People, Speak tenderly to Jerusalem, Isa 40:1-2; Speak to Her Heart in The Wilderness, Hosea 2:14...

Father, thank You for forgiving me mercy in times I have needed it, and though You've disciplined me severely, You haven't given me over to death, Ps 118:18. Knowing the kindness and severity of the Lord, I'd like to remain in Your kindness, Rom 11:22. Requesting what Jesus said to be my prayer, "I don’t speak on My own authority. The Father who sent Me commands me what to say and how to say it," John 12:49 [1]. May I speak truth the right way (in love, humility and kindness) at the right time (when one isn't tired or in the right place to receive it), Prov 25:11. Like apples of gold in settings of silver, so is the right word at the right time, Prov 25:11

I know You will not give up on my wife -- I forgive and pray for her salvation but after years, am hearing counsel and sensing You are shifting gears, 1 Cor 7:15, Isa 42:9, and ask for wisdom in all that, James 1:5, Col 1:9, Col 4:12, Phil 1:9-11. But without confession and repentance, and conversion, we can only go so far -- “'Truly I tell you,' He said, 'unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven,'" Matt 18:3. Lord, even YOU don't forgive people who don't confess, 1 Jn 1:9, and Your instruction to Peter in Luke is based on someone who returns to the one sinned against and says, "I repent" -- Luke 17:3-4. So help us live in an understanding way with her, and let her see to it she respects me, but as it's evident there is no fruit for You and she's "broke the yoke and burst the bond," Jer 5:5, let me now speak timely words and serve her tenderly, yet not be taken advantage of, but quietly win her over as if I were a woman with an unsaved husband, 1 Peter 3:1-9.

It was while they were ministering to the Lord and fasting -- please help me hunger and thirst for righteousness in these situation, and help others share this burden with me for her, me, our child, the entire situation and all that’s transpired, good, bad and ugly, to be turned for glory, praise and honor, Isa 58:6-14. Let us plead the cause of the widower, and defend the cause that by foolish abandonment was made to be orphaned, Jer 5:28, which if we can't visit the widower or orphan, James 1:27, we can at least pray for them and keep ourselves unstained by the world.

As the early church said, "fasting and giving lends wings to our prayers." The Truth is the same yesterday, but today and forever, Heb 13:8. Please grant powerful grace and strength within me, grant grace to humble my soul with fasting, to CONTROL THE TONGUE with SAYING TRUTH, sanctifying residual pockets of darkness with light, helping the word become flesh, as John says, John 1:14, to love You AND my NEIGHBOR (how much more my wife and children) with ALL my heart, soul, mind, will, emotions, physical strength and finances -- my thoughts, words, deeds, actions and especially my reactions -- let the word be engrafted as explained by James 1:22-23.

I've been sinned against A LOT by her and her family -- I believe the remedy of being sinned against is praying for their salvation -- again nothing's been confessed and repented of... I plainly state for the record I forgive everyone everything, and done as much as I can to be at peace with everyone, Rom 12:18. Salvation is still needed, 2 Tim 2:3-4, repentance isn't optional, but having overlooked times of ignorance You are now commanding everyone everywhere to repent, having fixed a day of certain judgment with justice by The Man appointed, and furnished proof to everyone by raising Him from the dead, Acts 17:31-32, 2 Pet 3:9 -- but please help me say truth in LOVE, Eph 4:15, "filled with GRACE and truth," John 1:14.

Place and use the love of Jesus in me to publicly and privately demonstrate true love of the gospel, Gal 3:1. Let me model it and teach it to myself, her, every family member, those near and dear and those far off and beyond to extended family, friends especially any who might consider me an enemy -- let me be a living ambassador Your love to be known and read by all people groups, everywhere, 2 Cor 3:2, “What to say and how to say it,” John 12:49 [1].

Do not take us out of the world, but keep us from the evil one, John 17:15. Sanctify us by the truth; Your Word is truth, John 17:17. Because I LOVE her, let me wash her with the water of the word to be a bride ready for her husband, Eph 5:25-26, 27 -- and if she could help out by reading the word and preparing herself also, Rev 19:7-8, it would be both helpful and fitting (wholly within bounds of Scripture). I'd also like to have a little respect since it's a picture of Christ and the Church Eph 5:32:33 -- hopefully we don't sit around all day, expect Christ to die for us over and over, Heb 10:26, and disrespect him and do the opposite of what he asks us, Matt 7:21, -- hopefully we don't expect him to say "how high" and don't expect to command Him to jump... We are not stronger than He, correct? Jer 5:22, 1 Cor 10:22.

Keep her, them and us from evil people, 2 Thes 3:2, temptation, Matt 6:13, sin Zeph 3:13 and the evil one, Matt 6:13. Thank you for the angels in advance -- they're real and really do get sent ahead, Heb 13:2, and thank You in advance for the fact "You like to make their faces change," Ps 34:5, May Yahweh bless me, and keep me. make His face to shine on me, and be gracious to me, lift up His face toward me, and give me peace, in Jesus' Name, Phil 4:6-7.

 

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We hear your heart, brother, and we stand with you in fervent prayer, lifting up your marriage, your wife, your child, and your own weary soul before the throne of grace. Your request is heavy with grief, frustration, and yet a steadfast love that refuses to let go—this is the love of Christ in you, and we honor that. You are walking a difficult path, one that demands wisdom, patience, and a deep reliance on the Lord, and we join you in seeking His face for every step.

First, we must acknowledge the weight of your words regarding your wife’s spiritual state. You have shown remarkable grace in forgiving her and her family, even as you bear the pain of unrepentant sin. Scripture is clear: *"If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9). Yet repentance is not optional—it is the gateway to restoration, both with God and with one another. The Lord does not force His way into hearts, but He calls, waits, and woos. You have done well to pray for her salvation, to live peaceably, and to model Christ before her, just as 1 Peter 3:1-2 instructs: *"Wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; so that, even if any don’t obey the Word, they may be won by the behavior of their wives without a word; seeing your pure behavior in fear."* But we must also remember that while we are called to love and serve, we are not called to enable sin or neglect the truth. There comes a point where loving confrontation is necessary, not out of bitterness, but out of a desire to see her freed from deception.

You ask for wisdom in what to say and how to say it—this is a prayer the Lord delights to answer. Proverbs 15:23 tells us, *"Joy comes to a man with the reply of his mouth. How good is a word at the right time!"* But words must be seasoned with grace, spoken in love, and timed by the Holy Spirit. Fasting, as you’ve sought, is a powerful way to humble yourself and seek the Lord’s direction. Isaiah 58:6-9 reveals the kind of fasting God honors: *"Isn’t this the fast that I have chosen: to release the bonds of wickedness, to undo the straps of the yoke, to let the oppressed go free, and that you break every yoke?... Then you shall call, and Yahweh will answer."* This is not merely about abstaining from food, but about breaking the chains of sin—in your own life and in hers. As you fast, ask the Lord to reveal any areas where bitterness, resentment, or ungodly expectations may have taken root in your own heart. Confess them, and let Him cleanse you, so that your words may flow from a pure heart.

We must also address the reality of your marriage covenant. You are right to uphold it as sacred, for marriage is a picture of Christ and the Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). But a covenant is a two-way promise, and when one party persistently breaks it, the other is left in a painful tension. 1 Corinthians 7:15 does not command divorce, but it does acknowledge that if an unbelieving spouse departs, the believing spouse is *"not under bondage in such cases."* This is not a license to abandon hope, but a recognition that you cannot force someone to honor a covenant they have already broken in their heart. Your role is to continue in prayer, to live righteously, and to trust the Lord with the outcome. If she remains unrepentant, you may need to seek godly counsel to navigate the practical and spiritual implications, always with the goal of glorifying God and protecting your child.

Your child is another sacred trust. The Lord sees the orphan and the fatherless, and He commands us to defend their cause (Jeremiah 5:28, James 1:27). You are doing this by standing in the gap, praying, and modeling a godly life. But we must also warn you: bitterness can take root in a child’s heart if they see one parent dishonoring the other, even if that dishonor is justified. Guard your words about your wife in front of your child. Speak the truth, but do so with grace, always pointing them to Christ as their ultimate source of security and love.

Now, let us pray for you:

Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our brother, lifting up his marriage, his wife, his child, and his own heart before You. Lord, You see the pain, the frustration, and the love that still burns within him. We ask that You would give him wisdom—wisdom to know what to say, when to say it, and how to say it, just as Jesus only spoke what the Father commanded Him (John 12:49). Fill his mouth with gracious words, like apples of gold in settings of silver (Proverbs 25:11), and let his speech be seasoned with salt, that it may minister grace to the hearers (Colossians 4:6).

Father, we pray for his wife. You know her heart, Lord, and we ask that You would soften it. Break the hardness, shatter the deception, and draw her to Yourself. If there is any unconfessed sin, any rebellion, any idolatry, expose it, Lord, and lead her to repentance. Give her a hunger for Your Word, a thirst for righteousness, and a desire to honor the covenant she entered into. If she will not return, Lord, we ask that You would protect our brother and their child from further harm, and that You would work all things together for good (Romans 8:28).

We pray for their child, Lord. Guard their heart, their mind, and their spirit. Let them see Your love through their father, and let them know that You are their true Father, even when earthly relationships fail. Protect them from bitterness, from confusion, and from the enemy’s lies. Surround them with godly influences, and let them grow in wisdom and stature before You.

Lord, we ask that You would strengthen our brother in his inner man. Help him to fast not just from food, but from bitterness, from anger, and from ungodly desires. Let his fasting break every yoke of bondage in his own life, so that he may be free to love as You love. Teach him to control his tongue, to speak truth in love, and to let his words be a source of life, not destruction (James 3:2-12).

We rebuke every spirit of division, of strife, and of ungodliness that has sought to destroy this marriage. We declare that no weapon formed against it shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and that You, Lord, are able to restore what has been broken. But if restoration is not Your will, we ask that You would give our brother the strength to walk in peace, to trust You with the outcome, and to continue to honor You in all things.

Finally, Lord, we ask that You would fill him with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). Let him know that You are with him, that You see his tears, and that You will never leave him nor forsake him (Hebrews 13:5). Give him the grace to love his wife as Christ loves the Church, to serve her as unto You, and to trust You with the results.

We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the Author and Perfecter of our faith, the One who died to redeem us, and the One who lives to intercede for us. Amen.

Brother, we want to encourage you with this: your love for your wife, your commitment to your child, and your desire to honor God in this situation are not in vain. The Lord sees your faithfulness, and He will reward it. Even if the outcome is not what you hope for, He is using this trial to refine you, to shape you into the image of Christ, and to prepare you for the work He has for you. Keep your eyes on Him. Keep speaking truth in love. Keep praying. And remember, you are not alone—we are standing with you, and more importantly, the Lord is standing with you. *"The Lord is near to the brokenhearted, and saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18). Hold fast to that promise.

 

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Dear brother, we hear your heart and we stand with you in prayer, lifting up your marriage, your wife, your child, and your own weary soul before the throne of grace. Your request is heavy with grief, frustration, and yet a steadfast love that refuses to let go. This is the love of Christ in you, and we honor that.

Firstly, we must acknowledge the weight of your words regarding your wife's spiritual state. You have shown remarkable grace in forgiving her and her family, even as you bear the pain of unrepentant sin. However, repentance is not optional. It is the gateway to restoration, both with God and with one another. The Lord does not force His way into hearts, but He calls, waits, and woos. You have done well to pray for her salvation, to live peaceably, and to model Christ before her, just as 1 Peter 3:1-2 instructs. But we must also remember that while we are called to love and serve, we are not called to enable sin or neglect the truth. There comes a point where loving confrontation is necessary, not out of bitterness, but out of a desire to see her freed from deception.

You ask for wisdom in what to say and how to say it. This is a prayer the Lord delights to answer. Proverbs 15:23 tells us, "Joy comes to a man with the reply of his mouth. How good is a word at the right time!" But words must be seasoned with grace, spoken in love, and timed by the Holy Spirit. Fasting, as you've sought, is a powerful way to humble yourself and seek the Lord's direction. Isaiah 58:6-9 reveals the kind of fasting God honors: "Is not this the fast that I have chosen: to release the bonds of wickedness, to undo the straps of the yoke, to let the oppressed go free, and that you break every yoke?... Then you shall call, and the Lord will answer." This is not merely about abstaining from food, but about breaking the chains of sin—in your own life and in hers. As you fast, ask the Lord to reveal any areas where bitterness, resentment, or ungodly expectations may have taken root in your own heart. Confess them, and let Him cleanse you, so that your words may flow from a pure heart.

We must also address the reality of your marriage covenant. You are right to uphold it as sacred, for marriage is a picture of Christ and the Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). But a covenant is a two-way promise, and when one party persistently breaks it, the other is left in a painful tension. 1 Corinthians 7:15 does not command divorce, but it does acknowledge that if an unbelieving spouse departs, the believing spouse is "not under bondage in such cases." This is not a license to abandon hope, but a recognition that you cannot force someone to honor a covenant they have already broken in their heart. Your role is to continue in prayer, to live righteously, and to trust the Lord with the outcome. If she remains unrepentant, you may need to seek godly counsel to navigate the practical and spiritual implications, always with the goal of glorifying God and protecting your child.

Your child is another sacred trust. The Lord sees the orphan and the fatherless, and He commands us to defend their cause (Jeremiah 5:28, James 1:27). You are doing this by standing in the gap, praying, and modeling a godly life. But we must also warn you: bitterness can take root in a child's heart if they see one parent dishonoring the other, even if that dishonor is justified. Guard your words about your wife in front of your child. Speak the truth, but do so with grace, always pointing them to Christ as their ultimate source of security and love.

Now, let us pray for you:

Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our brother, lifting up his marriage, his wife, his child, and his own heart before You. Lord, You see the pain, the frustration, and the love that still burns within him. We ask that You would give him wisdom—wisdom to know what to say, when to say it, and how to say it, just as Jesus only spoke what the Father commanded Him (John 12:49). Fill his mouth with gracious words, like apples of gold in settings of silver (Proverbs 25:11), and let his speech be seasoned with salt, that it may minister grace to the hearers (Colossians 4:6).

Father, we pray for his wife. You know her heart, Lord. We ask that You would soften it. Break the hardness, shatter the deception, and draw her to Yourself. If there is any unconfessed sin, any rebellion, any idolatry, expose it, Lord, and lead her to repentance. Give her a hunger for Your Word, a thirst for righteousness, and a desire to honor the covenant she entered into. If she will not return, Lord, we ask that You would protect our brother and their child from further harm, and that You would work all things together for good (Romans 8:28).

We pray for their child, Lord. Guard their heart, their mind, and their spirit. Let them see Your love through their father, and let them know that You are their true Father, even when earthly relationships fail. Protect them from bitterness, from confusion, and from the enemy's lies. Surround them with godly influences, and let them grow in wisdom and stature before You.

Lord, we ask that You would strengthen our brother in his inner man. Help him to fast not just from food, but from bitterness, from anger, and from ungodly desires. Let his fasting break every yoke of bondage in his own life, so that he may be free to love as You love. Teach him to control his tongue, to speak truth in love, and to let his words be a source of life, not destruction (James 3:2-12).

We rebuke every spirit of division, of strife, and of ungodliness that has sought to destroy this marriage. We declare that no weapon formed against it shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and that You, Lord, are able to restore what has been broken. But if restoration is not Your will, we ask that You would give our brother the strength to walk in peace, to trust You with the outcome, and to continue to honor You in all things.

Finally, Lord, we ask that You would fill him with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). Let him know that You are with him, that You see his tears, and that You will never leave him nor forsake him (Hebrews 13:5). Give him the grace to love his wife as Christ loves the Church, to serve her as unto You, and to trust You with the results.

We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the Author and Perfecter of our faith, the One who died to redeem us, and the One who lives to intercede for us. Amen.

Brother, we want to encourage you with this: your love for your wife, your commitment to your child, and your desire to honor God in this situation are not in vain. The Lord sees your faithfulness, and He will reward it. Even if the outcome is not what you hope for, He is using this trial to refine you, to shape you into the image of Christ, and to prepare you for the work He has for you. Keep your eyes on Him. Keep speaking truth in love. Keep praying. And remember, you are not alone—we are standing with you, and more importantly, the Lord is standing with you. "The Lord is near to the brokenhearted, and saves those who are crushed in spirit" (Psalm 34:18). Hold fast to that promise.

 

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Lord Jesus please richly bless, protect and guide them. Please help them in accordance with your perfect will Father. Thank you and praise you. In your holy name I pray. Amen.

 

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Praying with you for this in Jesus' name, Amen