🙏 What to Say AND How to Say It, Jn 12:49; Grace to Fast, Isa 58:6-14; Gracious Words, Zech 1:13, Comfort Me, Isa 40:1-2, Peace, 1 Cor 7:15

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What to Say and How to Say It, Jn 12:49; Grace to Fast, Isa 58:6-14; Gracious Words, Comforting Words, Zech 1:13, Comfort My People, Speak tenderly to Jerusalem, Isa 40:1-2; Speak to Her Heart in The Wilderness, Hosea 2:14...

Father, thank You for forgiving me mercy in times I have needed it, and though You've disciplined me severely, You haven't given me over to death, Ps 118:18. Knowing the kindness and severity of the Lord, I'd like to remain in Your kindness, Rom 11:22. Requesting what Jesus said to be my prayer, "I don’t speak on My own authority. The Father who sent Me commands me what to say and how to say it," John 12:49 [1]. May I speak truth the right way (in love, humility and kindness) at the right time (when one isn't tired or in the right place to receive it), Prov 25:11. Like apples of gold in settings of silver, so is the right word at the right time, Prov 25:11

I know You will not give up on my wife -- I forgive and pray for her salvation but after years, am hearing counsel and sensing You are shifting gears, 1 Cor 7:15, Isa 42:9, and ask for wisdom in all that, James 1:5, Col 1:9, Col 4:12, Phil 1:9-11. But without confession and repentance, and conversion, we can only go so far -- “'Truly I tell you,' He said, 'unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven,'" Matt 18:3. Lord, even YOU don't forgive people who don't confess, 1 Jn 1:9, and Your instruction to Peter in Luke is based on someone who returns to the one sinned against and says, "I repent" -- Luke 17:3-4. So help us live in an understanding way with her, and let her see to it she respects me, but as it's evident there is no fruit for You and she's "broke the yoke and burst the bond," Jer 5:5, let me now speak timely words and serve her tenderly, yet not be taken advantage of, but quietly win her over as if I were a woman with an unsaved husband, 1 Peter 3:1-9.

It was while they were ministering to the Lord and fasting -- please help me hunger and thirst for righteousness in these situation, and help others share this burden with me for her, me, our child, the entire situation and all that’s transpired, good, bad and ugly, to be turned for glory, praise and honor, Isa 58:6-14. Let us plead the cause of the widower, and defend the cause that by foolish abandonment was made to be orphaned, Jer 5:28, which if we can't visit the widower or orphan, James 1:27, we can at least pray for them and keep ourselves unstained by the world.

As the early church said, "fasting and giving lends wings to our prayers." The Truth is the same yesterday, but today and forever, Heb 13:8. Please grant powerful grace and strength within me, grant grace to humble my soul with fasting, to CONTROL THE TONGUE with SAYING TRUTH, sanctifying residual pockets of darkness with light, helping the word become flesh, as John says, John 1:14, to love You AND my NEIGHBOR (how much more my wife and children) with ALL my heart, soul, mind, will, emotions, physical strength and finances -- my thoughts, words, deeds, actions and especially my reactions -- let the word be engrafted as explained by James 1:22-23.

I've been sinned against A LOT by her and her family -- I believe the remedy of being sinned against is praying for their salvation -- again nothing's been confessed and repented of... I plainly state for the record I forgive everyone everything, and done as much as I can to be at peace with everyone, Rom 12:18. Salvation is still needed, 2 Tim 2:3-4, repentance isn't optional, but having overlooked times of ignorance You are now commanding everyone everywhere to repent, having fixed a day of certain judgment with justice by The Man appointed, and furnished proof to everyone by raising Him from the dead, Acts 17:31-32, 2 Pet 3:9 -- but please help me say TRUTH in LOVE, Eph 4:15, "filled with GRACE and truth," John 1:14.

Place and use the love of Jesus in me to publicly and privately demonstrate true love of the gospel, Gal 3:1. Let me model it and teach it to myself, her, every family member, those near and dear and those far off and beyond to extended family, friends especially any who might consider me an enemy -- let me be a living ambassador Your love to be known and read by all people groups, everywhere, 2 Cor 3:2, “What to say and how to say it,” John 12:49 [1].

Do not take us out of the world, but keep us from the evil one, John 17:15. Sanctify us by the truth; Your Word is truth, John 17:17. Because I LOVE her, let me wash her with the water of the word to be a bride ready for her husband, Eph 5:25-26, 27 -- and if she could help out by reading the word and preparing herself also, Rev 19:7-8, it would be both helpful and fitting (wholly within bounds of Scripture). I'd also like to have a little respect since it's a picture of Christ and the Church Eph 5:32:33 -- hopefully we don't sit around all day, expect Christ to die for us over and over, Heb 10:26, and disrespect him and do the opposite of what he asks us, Matt 7:21, -- hopefully we don't expect him to say "how high" and don't expect to command Him to jump... We are not stronger than He, correct? Jer 5:22, 1 Cor 10:22.

Keep her, them and us from evil people, 2 Thes 3:2, temptation, Matt 6:13, sin Zeph 3:13 and the evil one, Matt 6:13. Thank you for the angels in advance -- they're real and really do get sent ahead, Heb 13:2, and thank You in advance for the fact "You like to make their faces change," Ps 34:5, May Yahweh bless me, and keep me. make His face to shine on me, and be gracious to me, lift up His face toward me, and give me peace, in Jesus' Name, Phil 4:6-7.

 

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ὅτι ἐγὼ ἐξ ἐμαυτοῦ οὐκ ἐλάλησα, ἀλλ' ὁ πέμψας με πατὴρ αὐτός μοι ἐντολὴν δέδωκεν τί εἴπω καὶ τί λαλήσω.

[1] “What to say and how to say it,” John 12:49 — Historical Comments: What to say (εϊπω) and how to say it (λαλήσω) -- (dicam) and (loquar), Latin Vulgate, are supposed to discriminate matter (content) and form (style of speech), as another commentator says, “My words and their manner and tone are all of them the outcome of the Father's (ἐντολὴ) command."

The word εἰπεῖν relates to the words as spoken successively; λαλήσω refers to the sentiment and connection of the words.

The former relating to the SUBSTANCE, and the latter to the FORM of Jesus' utterances.

"See we not that He brings His expressions with an excess of humility, that He may both win them over, and silence those who would look to persecute Him. This is why He utters words appropriate to humanity, that He may help us bridge the severity of the sayings, as being conscious that the words belong not to Him, but The Father, and are thus tailored, even suited to the weakness of the hearers," Chrysostom, 347-407.

 

[Articles]

We hear your heart, brother, and we stand with you in fervent prayer, lifting up your marriage, your wife, your child, and your own soul before the throne of grace. Your request is steeped in Scripture, and we see the deep longing in your words—not just for restoration, but for God’s will to be done in truth, love, and righteousness. You are carrying a heavy burden, and we join you in seeking the Lord’s wisdom, strength, and intervention.

First, we must acknowledge the foundation of your plea: **Jesus Christ is the only way to the Father** (John 14:6). There is no access to God apart from Him, no salvation except through His name (Acts 4:12), and no true peace outside of His finished work on the cross. Your wife’s salvation is not merely a desire—it is a necessity, for the Scriptures declare that those who do not know Christ are perishing (2 Corinthians 4:3-4). We pray that the eyes of her heart would be opened, that she would turn from darkness to light, and that she would confess with her mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in her heart that God raised Him from the dead (Romans 10:9). Without this, there can be no true reconciliation before God, no matter how much we love or forgive.

You have shown remarkable grace in forgiving those who have sinned against you, and we commend you for walking in obedience to Christ’s command to forgive (Colossians 3:13). But forgiveness does not negate the need for repentance. You rightly point out that **God does not forgive those who do not confess their sins** (1 John 1:9), and that repentance is not optional (Luke 13:3). We rebuke the spirit of rebellion that may be hardening her heart, and we pray that the Holy Spirit would convict her of sin, righteousness, and judgment (John 16:8). May she come to a place of godly sorrow that leads to repentance (2 Corinthians 7:10), not just for the sake of your marriage, but for the sake of her eternal soul.

Your desire to speak truth in love (Ephesians 4:15) is commendable, but we must also warn against the temptation to use truth as a weapon rather than a balm. **Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones** (Proverbs 16:24). The right word at the right time is indeed like apples of gold in settings of silver (Proverbs 25:11), but we must ensure that our words are seasoned with salt (Colossians 4:6) and that our tone reflects the gentleness of Christ (2 Corinthians 10:1). We pray that the Lord would give you wisdom in what to say and how to say it, that your words would be anointed by the Holy Spirit to bring life rather than strife.

You have also sought the Lord through fasting, and we encourage you to continue in this discipline, for **true fasting loosens the bonds of wickedness, undoes the straps of the yoke, and lets the oppressed go free** (Isaiah 58:6). Fasting is not a transaction with God but a humbling of ourselves before Him, a way to seek His face and align our hearts with His will. We pray that as you fast, the Lord would grant you supernatural strength, clarity, and grace to walk in love toward your wife, even when she is unloving in return. May your fasting break every chain of bitterness, resentment, or ungodly expectation, and may it release a fresh anointing of the Holy Spirit upon your marriage.

We must also address the reality of your situation with biblical clarity. **Marriage is a covenant, not a contract** (Malachi 2:14), and it is meant to reflect Christ’s relationship with the Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). However, Scripture also acknowledges that there are circumstances where a believer is not bound if an unbelieving spouse chooses to leave (1 Corinthians 7:15). This is not a license for divorce but a recognition that God does not call us to be unequally yoked in a way that compromises our faith (2 Corinthians 6:14). We pray that the Lord would give you wisdom to discern His will in this season—whether He is calling you to stand firm in hope or to release her into His hands with peace.

You have rightly identified that **your role is to love your wife as Christ loved the Church** (Ephesians 5:25), washing her with the water of the Word. But we must also remind you that **you cannot save her—only Christ can** (John 14:6). You are called to be a faithful witness, not her Savior. We pray that you would not grow weary in doing good (Galatians 6:9), that you would not be overcome by evil but would overcome evil with good (Romans 12:21), and that you would trust God to fight for you (Exodus 14:14). If she remains unrepentant, we pray that the Lord would give you the strength to walk in godly sorrow rather than bitterness, and that He would protect your heart from becoming hardened.

We also lift up your child before the Lord, for the Scriptures command us to **defend the cause of the fatherless** (Isaiah 1:17). Children suffer deeply when marriages are broken, and we pray that the Lord would shield your child from the effects of this conflict, that He would draw them close to Himself, and that they would grow up knowing the love of their Heavenly Father even if their earthly family is divided. May the Lord grant you wisdom in parenting, that you would raise your child in the nurture and admonition of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4), and that they would come to know Christ as their personal Savior.

Finally, we pray for your own heart. It is easy to become weary when we are sinned against repeatedly, and we pray that the Lord would **renew your strength like the eagle’s** (Isaiah 40:31). May He fill you with His peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7), and may He remind you daily that **His grace is sufficient for you, for His power is made perfect in weakness** (2 Corinthians 12:9). You are not alone in this battle—we stand with you, and more importantly, the Lord stands with you.

Let us pray:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our brother and his marriage before Your throne. Lord, You see the pain, the longing, and the faithfulness of his heart, and we ask that You would move mightily in this situation. We pray for his wife, that You would soften her heart, open her eyes to the truth of the Gospel, and bring her to a place of genuine repentance. Lord, if it is Your will, restore this marriage, but if not, give our brother the strength to walk in peace and obedience to You.

Father, we ask that You would fill him with Your Holy Spirit, that he would speak truth in love, that his words would be seasoned with grace, and that his actions would reflect the love of Christ. Help him to fast in humility, to pray without ceasing, and to trust in Your perfect timing. Protect his heart from bitterness, his mind from doubt, and his spirit from weariness. Lord, we also pray for his child, that You would draw them close to You, shield them from harm, and use this situation for Your glory.

We rebuke every spirit of rebellion, hardness of heart, and division in this marriage, and we declare that Your will be done. Whether in restoration or release, may Your name be glorified, and may Your kingdom come. We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.

 

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Dear brother, I hear your heart's cry and I stand with you in prayer, lifting up your marriage, your wife, your child, and your own soul before the throne of grace. I want to encourage you with these words:

1. **Trust in God's Timing**: "The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance" (2 Peter 3:9). Trust that God is working in your wife's heart, even if you can't see it yet.

2. **Speak the Truth in Love**: "Speaking the truth in love, we must grow up in every way more and more like Christ" (Ephesians 4:15). Be honest with your feelings, but always season your words with love and grace. Remember, "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but harsh words stir up anger" (Proverbs 15:1).

3. **Forgive as You Have Been Forgiven**: "Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ, God forgave you" (Ephesians 4:32). Forgiveness doesn't mean what happened is okay, but it means letting go of bitterness and trusting God to handle justice.

4. **Pray Without Ceasing**: "Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you" (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18). Make prayer your first response, not your last resort.

5. **Seek Wisdom**: "If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given him" (James 1:5). Ask God for wisdom in what to say and how to say it.

6. **Rest in God's Peace**: "Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid" (John 14:27). Rest in the peace that surpasses understanding.

Remember, God sees your faithfulness, and He is working in your situation. Keep trusting Him, keep praying, and keep loving. His grace is sufficient for you.

In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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