🙏 What to Say AND How to Say It, Jn 12:49; Grace to Fast, Isa 58:6-14; Gracious Words, Zech 1:13, Comfort, Isa 40:1-2, Peace, 1 Cor 7:15

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What to Say and How to Say It, Jn 12:49; Grace to Fast, Isa 58:6-14; Gracious Words, Comforting Words, Zech 1:13, Comfort My People, Speak tenderly to Jerusalem, Isa 40:1-2; Speak to Her Heart in The Wilderness, Hosea 2:14...

Father, thank You for forgiving me mercy in times I have needed it, and though You've disciplined me severely, You haven't given me over to death, Ps 118:18. Knowing the kindness and severity of the Lord, I'd like to remain in Your kindness, Rom 11:22. Requesting what Jesus said to be my prayer, "I don’t speak on My own authority. The Father who sent Me commands me what to say and how to say it," John 12:49 [1]. May I speak truth the right way (in love, humility and kindness) at the right time (when one isn't tired or in the right place to receive it), Prov 25:11. Like apples of gold in settings of silver, so is the right word at the right time, Prov 25:11

I know You will not give up on my wife -- I forgive and pray for her salvation but after years, am hearing counsel and sensing You are shifting gears, 1 Cor 7:15, Isa 42:9, and ask for wisdom in all that, James 1:5, Col 1:9, Col 4:12, Phil 1:9-11. But without confession and repentance, and conversion, we can only go so far -- “'Truly I tell you,' He said, 'unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven,'" Matt 18:3. Lord, even YOU don't forgive people who don't confess, 1 Jn 1:9, and Your instruction to Peter in Luke is based on someone who returns to the one sinned against and says, "I repent" -- Luke 17:3-4. So help us live in an understanding way with her, and let her see to it she respects me, but as it's evident there is no fruit for You and she's "broke the yoke and burst the bond," Jer 5:5, let me now speak timely words and serve her tenderly, yet not be taken advantage of, but quietly win her over as if I were a woman with an unsaved husband, 1 Peter 3:1-9.

It was while they were ministering to the Lord and fasting -- please help me hunger and thirst for righteousness in these situation, and help others share this burden with me for her, me, our child, the entire situation and all that’s transpired, good, bad and ugly, to be turned for glory, praise and honor, Isa 58:6-14. Let us plead the cause of the widower, and defend the cause that by foolish abandonment was made to be orphaned, Jer 5:28, which if we can't visit the widower or orphan, James 1:27, we can at least pray for them and keep ourselves unstained by the world.

As the early church said, "fasting and giving lends wings to our prayers." The Truth is the same yesterday, but today and forever, Heb 13:8. Please grant powerful grace and strength within me, grant grace to humble my soul with fasting, to CONTROL THE TONGUE with SAYING TRUTH, sanctifying residual pockets of darkness with light, helping the word become flesh, as John says, John 1:14, to love You AND my NEIGHBOR (how much more my wife and children) with ALL my heart, soul, mind, will, emotions, physical strength and finances -- my thoughts, words, deeds, actions and especially my reactions -- let the word be engrafted as explained by James 1:22-23.

I've been sinned against A LOT by her and her family -- I believe the remedy of being sinned against is praying for their salvation -- again nothing's been confessed and repented of... I plainly state for the record I forgive everyone everything, and done as much as I can to be at peace with everyone, Rom 12:18. Salvation is still needed, 2 Tim 2:3-4, repentance isn't optional, but having overlooked times of ignorance You are now commanding everyone everywhere to repent, having fixed a day of certain judgment with justice by The Man appointed, and furnished proof to everyone by raising Him from the dead, Acts 17:31-32, 2 Pet 3:9 -- but please help me say TRUTH in LOVE, Eph 4:15, "filled with GRACE and truth," John 1:14.

Place and use the love of Jesus in me to publicly and privately demonstrate true love of the gospel, Gal 3:1. Let me model it and teach it to myself, her, every family member, those near and dear and those far off and beyond to extended family, friends especially any who might consider me an enemy -- let me be a living ambassador Your love to be known and read by all people groups, everywhere, 2 Cor 3:2, “What to say and how to say it,” John 12:49 [1].

Do not take us out of the world, but keep us from the evil one, John 17:15. Sanctify us by the truth; Your Word is truth, John 17:17. Because I LOVE her, let me wash her with the water of the word to be a bride ready for her husband, Eph 5:25-26, 27 -- and if she could help out by reading the word and preparing herself also, Rev 19:7-8, it would be both helpful and fitting (wholly within bounds of Scripture). I'd also like to have a little respect since it's a picture of Christ and the Church Eph 5:32:33 -- hopefully we don't sit around all day, expect Christ to die for us over and over, Heb 10:26, and disrespect him and do the opposite of what he asks us, Matt 7:21, -- hopefully we don't expect him to say "how high" and don't expect to command Him to jump... We are not stronger than He, correct? Jer 5:22, 1 Cor 10:22.

Keep her, them and us from evil people, 2 Thes 3:2, temptation, Matt 6:13, sin Zeph 3:13 and the evil one, Matt 6:13. Thank you for the angels in advance -- they're real and really do get sent ahead, Heb 13:2, and thank You in advance for the fact "You like to make their faces change," Ps 34:5, May Yahweh bless me, and keep me. make His face to shine on me, and be gracious to me, lift up His face toward me, and give me peace, in Jesus' Name, Phil 4:6-7.

 

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We hear your heart, brother, and stand with you in fervent prayer before the throne of grace. Your burden is heavy, but you carry it with a spirit of humility, forgiveness, and unwavering commitment to God’s truth. We lift your words to the Lord, aligning them with Scripture and asking Him to guide your steps, your speech, and your heart in this season.

First, we rejoice that you recognize the authority of Christ’s words in John 12:49: "For I spoke not from myself, but the Father who sent me, he gave me a commandment, what I should say, and what I should speak." This is our foundation, speaking only what the Father commands, in the manner He prescribes. The right word at the right time is indeed like apples of gold in settings of silver (Proverbs 25:11), and we pray that the Holy Spirit would anoint your tongue with grace, truth, and wisdom. May your words be seasoned with salt (Colossians 4:6) and your heart guarded by the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7).

Your marriage is a sacred covenant, a living picture of Christ and the Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). The pain you endure is real, and the lack of repentance from your wife is grievous. Yet we must address a critical truth: marriage is a lifelong commitment before God (Matthew 19:6), and while Scripture permits separation in cases of abandonment or unrepentant sin (1 Corinthians 7:15), it does not dissolve the covenant unless there is sexual immorality (Matthew 19:9) or an unbeliever departs. You are right to seek wisdom (James 1:5) and to walk in love, even as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself for her (Ephesians 5:25). But we must also rebuke any hint of bitterness or resentment, for the Lord commands us to forgive as we have been forgiven (Colossians 3:13). Your forgiveness is commendable, but we must also guard against enabling sin by failing to speak truth in love (Ephesians 4:15). If your wife is in unrepentant sin, the most loving act is to call her to repentance, just as Nathan confronted David (2 Samuel 12:7) or Paul instructed the Corinthians (1 Corinthians 5:1-5). This is not about control but about calling her to holiness, for her soul is at stake.

Your fasting and prayer are powerful weapons in this battle (Isaiah 58:6-9). We join you in pleading for your wife’s salvation, for the Lord is not slow concerning His promises (2 Peter 3:9). Yet we must also warn against the deception of false peace, God’s kindness leads to repentance (Romans 2:4), but His severity is also real (Romans 11:22). If she remains hardened, you must prepare your heart for the possibility of a season of separation, trusting God to work in ways you cannot see. Your child’s spiritual and emotional well-being must also be guarded, for the Lord is a father to the fatherless (Psalm 68:5). We pray that you would be a godly example, teaching your child to fear the Lord and walk in His ways (Proverbs 22:6).

We must also address the sin of others in your wife’s family. Forgiveness does not mean ignoring sin or pretending it did not happen. You are right to pray for their salvation (Matthew 5:44), but you must also guard your heart against bitterness (Hebrews 12:15). If they have sinned against you, Scripture commands you to go to them in private (Matthew 18:15-17). If they refuse to listen, you are not bound to maintain fellowship with those who persist in unrepentant sin (2 Thessalonians 3:14-15). Your love must be wise, not naive.

Now, let us pray:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our brother and his marriage. Lord, You see the pain, the longing, and the faithfulness of his heart. We ask that You would pour out Your grace upon him, giving him wisdom to know what to say and how to say it (James 1:5). May his words be gracious, seasoned with salt, and may his actions reflect the love of Christ (Colossians 4:6).

Father, we pray for his wife. Soften her heart, Lord. Break the hardness that has taken root, and let her see her need for You. If she is to be won without a word, let her be won by the godly behavior of her husband (1 Peter 3:1-2). But if she remains in rebellion, give our brother the strength to stand firm in truth, even if it means a season of separation. Protect their child, Lord, and let this little one grow up knowing You and fearing You.

We ask for grace to fast and pray with purpose, Lord. Let this fasting not be for show but for true repentance and breakthrough (Isaiah 58:6-9). Raise up intercessors to stand in the gap for this family, that Your will would be done and Your name glorified.

Father, we rebuke every spirit of bitterness, resentment, and unforgiveness. We declare that our brother’s heart is guarded by the peace of God (Philippians 4:7). Let him love his wife as Christ loved the Church, even if she does not respond in kind. And if she remains in sin, give him the courage to call her to repentance, not out of anger, but out of love for her soul.

Lord, we pray for protection over this family. Guard them from the evil one, from temptation, and from the schemes of the enemy (2 Thessalonians 3:3). Send Your angels to encamp around them (Psalm 34:7), and let Your face shine upon them (Numbers 6:24-26).

Finally, Lord, we ask that You would be glorified in this situation. Whether through restoration or through a testimony of Your faithfulness in the midst of trial, let Your name be exalted. We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name, the only name by which we are saved (Acts 4:12). Amen.

Brother, we stand with you. Do not grow weary in doing good (Galatians 6:9). The Lord is faithful, and He will complete the work He has begun in you (Philippians 1:6). Walk in truth, speak in love, and trust God with the outcome. If your wife remains in unrepentant sin, seek godly counsel from your pastor or elders, for Scripture commands us to involve the church in matters of discipline (Matthew 18:15-17). But above all, keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, the author and perfecter of your faith (Hebrews 12:2). He is your strength, your hope, and your reward.

 

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We hear your heart, brother, and we’re standing with you in this heavy season. It’s clear you’re wrestling with so much, pain, confusion, and a deep longing for God’s truth to prevail in your marriage and family. We want you to know we’re praying for you, that God would give you the right words at the right time, just like He promised in Proverbs 25:11, words that are seasoned with grace and spoken in love.

Your commitment to forgiveness and peace is beautiful, and we pray that your wife would see Christ in you, even if she’s not ready to turn to Him yet. It’s hard to love someone who hasn’t repented, but you’re modeling Christ’s love by not giving up on her. We’re asking God to soften her heart and bring repentance, but we also pray for you, that you’d have the strength to walk in wisdom, especially when it comes to protecting your child’s heart.

We know this isn’t easy, and the enemy wants to steal your peace, but we’re asking God to guard your home and your mind. Pray for your wife, yes, but also pray for yourself, that you’d feel His presence and leading in every conversation and decision. God hasn’t abandoned you, even when it feels like everything is falling apart.

Lord, we lift up this brother and his family to You. Fill him with Your Spirit so he can speak truth in love, guard his heart from bitterness, and trust You with the outcome. Soften hearts where they need softening, and give him the courage to act in faith, no matter what comes. We ask all this in Jesus’ name.

 

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Praying in Jesus Name. Amen.