🙏 What to Say AND How to Say It, Jn 12:49; Grace to Fast, Isa 58:6-14; Gracious Words, Zech 1:13, Comfort Me, Isa 40:1-2, Peace, 1 Cor 7:15

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What to Say and How to Say It, Jn 12:49; Grace to Fast, Isa 58:6-14; Gracious Words, Comforting Words, Zech 1:13, Comfort My People, Speak tenderly to Jerusalem, Isa 40:1-2; Speak to Her Heart in The Wilderness, Hosea 2:14...

Father, thank You for forgiving me mercy in times I have needed it, and though You've disciplined me severely, You haven't given me over to death, Ps 118:18. Knowing the kindness and severity of the Lord, I'd like to remain in Your kindness, Rom 11:22. Requesting what Jesus said to be my prayer, "I don’t speak on My own authority. The Father who sent Me commands me what to say and how to say it," John 12:49 [1]. May I speak truth the right way (in love, humility and kindness) at the right time (when one isn't tired or in the right place to receive it), Prov 25:11. Like apples of gold in settings of silver, so is the right word at the right time, Prov 25:11

I know You will not give up on my wife -- I forgive and pray for her salvation but after years, am hearing counsel and sensing You are shifting gears, 1 Cor 7:15, Isa 42:9, and ask for wisdom in all that, James 1:5, Col 1:9, Col 4:12, Phil 1:9-11. But without confession and repentance, and conversion, we can only go so far -- “'Truly I tell you,' He said, 'unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven,'" Matt 18:3. Lord, even YOU don't forgive people who don't confess, 1 Jn 1:9, and Your instruction to Peter in Luke is based on someone who returns to the one sinned against and says, "I repent" -- Luke 17:3-4. So help us live in an understanding way with her, and let her see to it she respects me, but as it's evident there is no fruit for You and she's "broke the yoke and burst the bond," Jer 5:5, let me now speak timely words and serve her tenderly, yet not be taken advantage of, but quietly win her over as if I were a woman with an unsaved husband, 1 Peter 3:1-9.

It was while they were ministering to the Lord and fasting -- please help me hunger and thirst for righteousness in these situation, and help others share this burden with me for her, me, our child, the entire situation and all that’s transpired, good, bad and ugly, to be turned for glory, praise and honor, Isa 58:6-14. Let us plead the cause of the widower, and defend the cause that by foolish abandonment was made to be orphaned, Jer 5:28, which if we can't visit the widower or orphan, James 1:27, we can at least pray for them and keep ourselves unstained by the world.

As the early church said, "fasting and giving lends wings to our prayers." The Truth is the same yesterday, but today and forever, Heb 13:8. Please grant powerful grace and strength within me, grant grace to humble my soul with fasting, to CONTROL THE TONGUE with SAYING TRUTH, sanctifying residual pockets of darkness with light, helping the word become flesh, as John says, John 1:14, to love You AND my NEIGHBOR (how much more my wife and children) with ALL my heart, soul, mind, will, emotions, physical strength and finances -- my thoughts, words, deeds, actions and especially my reactions -- let the word be engrafted as explained by James 1:22-23.

I've been sinned against A LOT by her and her family -- I believe the remedy of being sinned against is praying for their salvation -- again nothing's been confessed and repented of... I plainly state for the record I forgive everyone everything, and done as much as I can to be at peace with everyone, Rom 12:18. Salvation is still needed, 2 Tim 2:3-4, repentance isn't optional, but having overlooked times of ignorance You are now commanding everyone everywhere to repent, having fixed a day of certain judgment with justice by The Man appointed, and furnished proof to everyone by raising Him from the dead, Acts 17:31-32, 2 Pet 3:9 -- but please help me say TRUTH in LOVE, Eph 4:15, "filled with GRACE and truth," John 1:14.

Place and use the love of Jesus in me to publicly and privately demonstrate true love of the gospel, Gal 3:1. Let me model it and teach it to myself, her, every family member, those near and dear and those far off and beyond to extended family, friends especially any who might consider me an enemy -- let me be a living ambassador Your love to be known and read by all people groups, everywhere, 2 Cor 3:2, “What to say and how to say it,” John 12:49 [1].

Do not take us out of the world, but keep us from the evil one, John 17:15. Sanctify us by the truth; Your Word is truth, John 17:17. Because I LOVE her, let me wash her with the water of the word to be a bride ready for her husband, Eph 5:25-26, 27 -- and if she could help out by reading the word and preparing herself also, Rev 19:7-8, it would be both helpful and fitting (wholly within bounds of Scripture). I'd also like to have a little respect since it's a picture of Christ and the Church Eph 5:32:33 -- hopefully we don't sit around all day, expect Christ to die for us over and over, Heb 10:26, and disrespect him and do the opposite of what he asks us, Matt 7:21, -- hopefully we don't expect him to say "how high" and don't expect to command Him to jump... We are not stronger than He, correct? Jer 5:22, 1 Cor 10:22.

Keep her, them and us from evil people, 2 Thes 3:2, temptation, Matt 6:13, sin Zeph 3:13 and the evil one, Matt 6:13. Thank you for the angels in advance -- they're real and really do get sent ahead, Heb 13:2, and thank You in advance for the fact "You like to make their faces change," Ps 34:5, May Yahweh bless me, and keep me. make His face to shine on me, and be gracious to me, lift up His face toward me, and give me peace, in Jesus' Name, Phil 4:6-7.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[Nochaeld]

[1] “What to say and how to say it,” John 12:49 — Historical Comments: What to say (εϊπω) and how to say it (λαλήσω) -- (dicam) and (loquar), Latin Vulgate, are supposed to discriminate matter (content) and form (style of speech), as another commentator says, “My words and their manner and tone are all of them the outcome of the Father's (ἐντολὴ) command."

The word εἰπεῖν relates to the words as spoken successively; λέγειν refers to the sentiment and connection of the words.

The former relating to the SUBSTANCE, and the latter to the FORM of Jesus' utterances.

See we not that He brings His expressions with an excess of humility, that He may both win them over, and silence those who would look to persecute Him. This is why He utters words appropriate to humanity, that He may help us bridge the severity of the sayings, as being conscious that the words belong not to Him, but The Father, and are thus tailored, even suited to the weakness of the hearers.

 

[Articles]

We hear your heart, brother, and we stand with you in this deeply painful and complex season. Your love for your wife, your child, and your commitment to God’s truth shine through your words, even as you carry the weight of unrepentance, broken bonds, and the ache of a marriage that has not borne the fruit of salvation. You are not alone in this. We lift you up before the Lord, asking Him to strengthen you, guide you, and fill you with His wisdom and grace as you navigate these waters.

First, we must address the foundation of all things—your relationship with Christ. You have rightly acknowledged Him as Lord, and it is only through His name that we have access to the Father. There is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12). Your prayers are heard because you come in the name of Jesus, and we join you in that truth. If your wife has not yet confessed Christ as Lord, we pray fervently for her salvation, for the Holy Spirit to convict her of sin, righteousness, and judgment (John 16:8), and for her heart to be softened to receive the truth. But we must also remind you—and ourselves—that salvation is a work of God, not man. You cannot repent for her, nor can you confess on her behalf. As you have noted, repentance is not optional; it is the doorway to life (Acts 3:19). We pray that the Lord would grant her the gift of repentance (2 Timothy 2:25) and that she would turn to Him with the humility of a child (Matthew 18:3).

Your desire to speak truth in love, at the right time and in the right way, is commendable. The Word tells us, "A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver" (Proverbs 25:11). But we must also guard our hearts against bitterness, frustration, or resentment, which can creep in when we feel unheard or when our love is not reciprocated. You are called to love your wife as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25), and that love is not contingent on her response. It is a sacrificial, selfless love that seeks her good, even when it is costly. Yet, we must also rebuke the enemy’s lies that would tell you to remain in a place of perpetual harm or enable sin. The Lord does not call you to be a doormat, but neither does He call you to retaliate or withdraw in anger. You are to live with her in an understanding way (1 Peter 3:7), but that does not mean you must endure abuse, manipulation, or a complete breakdown of the marriage covenant. We pray for discernment for you, that you would know when to speak, when to be silent, when to serve, and when to set boundaries that honor God and protect your heart and your child.

Fasting is a powerful tool in this season, and we join you in seeking the Lord’s face through it. Isaiah 58:6-9 tells us that true fasting loosens the bonds of wickedness, undoes the straps of the yoke, and lets the oppressed go free. We fast not to manipulate God or earn His favor, but to humble ourselves before Him, to seek His will, and to intercede for those who are lost or bound. We fast for your wife’s salvation, for your child’s protection and spiritual growth, and for your own heart to be aligned with God’s purposes. We fast for the chains of unrepentance to be broken, for the yoke of bitterness to be lifted, and for the Lord to bring beauty from the ashes of this marriage. May your fasting be accompanied by acts of righteousness—feeding the hungry, clothing the naked, and defending the cause of the fatherless and the widow (Isaiah 58:7, 10). Even if you cannot physically serve the widows and orphans, your prayers and your life of integrity are a fragrant offering to the Lord.

We must also address the reality of the spiritual battle you are in. The enemy would love nothing more than to see this marriage destroyed, your faith weakened, and your child caught in the crossfire. But we rebuke that spirit of division, confusion, and destruction in the name of Jesus. We declare that no weapon formed against you shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and that the gates of hell shall not prevail against the church (Matthew 16:18). You are not fighting against flesh and blood, but against spiritual forces of evil (Ephesians 6:12), and the armor of God is your protection. We pray that you would put on the belt of truth, the breastplate of righteousness, the shoes of the gospel of peace, the shield of faith, the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the Word of God (Ephesians 6:13-17). Stand firm, brother, and do not grow weary in doing good (Galatians 6:9).

Your desire to forgive is a reflection of Christ’s heart, and we commend you for it. Forgiveness does not mean ignoring sin or pretending it didn’t happen; it means releasing the offender to God and refusing to let bitterness take root in your heart. You have done well to forgive, but we must also warn against the danger of enabling sin through silence or passivity. There is a time to speak, and there is a time to be silent (Ecclesiastes 3:7), but there is never a time to compromise truth for the sake of peace. If your wife is living in unrepentant sin—whether it be idolatry, rebellion, or any other form of disobedience—you are not called to ignore it. You are called to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15), to rebuke with gentleness (2 Timothy 2:25), and to pray for her restoration. But you are also called to protect your own heart and your child from the effects of her choices. If she has broken the yoke and burst the bonds (Jeremiah 5:5), you must not allow her sin to become your burden to carry alone.

We must also address the reality of 1 Corinthians 7:15, which you have referenced. If your wife chooses to leave, you are not bound in such circumstances. This is not a license for divorce, but a recognition that God does not call you to force someone to stay who has hardened their heart against Him and against you. We pray that it does not come to that, but if it does, we pray that you would have the strength to release her to the Lord and trust Him with the outcome. Your child’s well-being is of utmost importance, and we pray that the Lord would give you wisdom in how to parent in a way that honors Him, even if the marriage cannot be restored. You are not a failure if this marriage ends; you are a child of God who has loved faithfully, and the Lord sees your heart.

We also lift up your child before the Lord. The wounds of a broken home are deep, and we pray that the Lord would heal any pain, confusion, or fear in their heart. We pray that you would be a godly example to them, showing them what it means to love the Lord with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength (Deuteronomy 6:5). We pray that they would see Jesus in you, even in the midst of this storm, and that they would grow up to love and serve Him. We declare that no weapon formed against them shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and that the Lord would surround them with His angels (Psalm 91:11). We pray that they would be a light in their generation, a testimony to God’s faithfulness even in the midst of brokenness.

Finally, we pray for your own heart. It is easy to become weary, discouraged, or even cynical in a season like this. But the Lord is your strength, your shield, and your very great reward (Genesis 15:1). We pray that you would find your joy in Him, even when circumstances are painful. We pray that you would be filled with the Holy Spirit, that you would walk in the fruit of the Spirit—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23). We pray that you would not grow weary in doing good, for in due season you will reap a harvest if you do not give up (Galatians 6:9). We pray that the Lord would restore to you the years that the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25), and that He would use this season for your good and His glory (Romans 8:28).

Let us pray together now:

Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, our Lord and Savior. We lift up our brother to You, asking that You would strengthen him, guide him, and fill him with Your Holy Spirit. Lord, You see the pain in his heart, the weight of this marriage, and the desire to honor You in all things. We ask that You would give him wisdom, discernment, and grace for each day. Help him to speak truth in love, to set boundaries that honor You, and to love his wife as Christ loved the church—sacrificially, selflessly, and without condition.

Father, we pray for his wife. We ask that You would soften her heart, convict her of sin, and draw her to Yourself. Break the chains of unrepentance, Lord, and let her see her need for You. If she is living in sin, we ask that You would bring her to a place of true repentance and restoration. If she is hardened, we ask that You would either change her heart or give our brother the strength to release her to You. We pray that she would come to know You as her Lord and Savior, and that she would turn to You with the humility of a child.

Lord, we lift up their child to You. Protect their heart, mind, and spirit. Let them see Jesus in their father, and let them grow up to love and serve You. Heal any wounds, Lord, and let them know that You are their heavenly Father, even if their earthly family is broken.

We pray for our brother’s heart, Lord. Guard him against bitterness, resentment, or discouragement. Fill him with Your joy, Your peace, and Your strength. Let him find his hope in You, and let him trust that You are working all things together for his good. Restore to him the years that the locusts have eaten, and let him see Your faithfulness in this season.

Father, we ask that You would surround him with godly community—men who can pray with him, encourage him, and walk alongside him. Let him not be isolated in this battle, but let him know that he is not alone. We pray that You would raise up intercessors for this marriage, for this family, and for the salvation of his wife.

Lord, we rebuke the enemy’s plans to destroy this marriage, this family, and this man’s faith. We declare that no weapon formed against him shall prosper, and that the gates of hell shall not prevail against the church. We pray that You would bind the enemy’s plans and loose Your angels to minister to this family. Let Your light shine in the darkness, and let Your truth prevail.

Finally, Lord, we ask that You would be glorified in this situation. Whether this marriage is restored or not, let Your name be lifted high. Let Your will be done, and let Your kingdom come in this family’s life. We trust You, Lord, and we thank You for Your faithfulness. In Jesus’ mighty name we pray, Amen.

 

[hostadmin]

Dear friend,

I want to express my deepest condolences for the pain and heartache you're experiencing in your marriage. It's never easy to see the person you love struggling, especially when it involves spiritual matters. I'm here to listen, pray, and support you in any way I can.

Firstly, I want to assure you that God sees your heart and the love you have for your wife and child. He knows the struggle you're going through, and He is always there to comfort and guide you. I encourage you to keep seeking His face, even in the midst of this storm.

I understand that you're seeking wisdom on how to speak truth in love, at the right time, and in the right way. This is a delicate balance, and it's important to approach it with humility and patience. Remember, you can't control your wife's actions or heart, but you can control your own. Speak the truth in love, as Ephesians 4:15 reminds us, and let your actions reflect the kindness and compassion of Christ.

Regarding your wife's spiritual state, it's crucial to remember that salvation is a personal choice. We can pray, encourage, and live a godly example, but ultimately, it's between her and God. Trust that the Holy Spirit will work in her heart, convicting her of sin, and drawing her to repentance. However, if she continues in unrepentant sin, you must also consider the well-being of your child and your own heart. It's important to set boundaries that protect you both, without compromising the truth.

I want to encourage you to keep praying, even if it feels like you're not seeing any changes. God is faithful, and He will work in His time. Keep seeking His will, and trust that He has a purpose in all of this. Remember, even in the darkest times, God is with you.

I also want to remind you to take care of yourself. It's easy to pour all your energy into trying to fix the situation, but don't forget to rest, seek support, and allow others to come alongside you. You need strength and wisdom for this journey, and God can provide that through His Holy Spirit and godly community.

Lastly, I want to pray with you:

Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus. We lift up our brother to You, asking that You would strengthen him, guide him, and fill him with Your Holy Spirit. Lord, You see the pain in his heart, the weight of this marriage, and the desire to honor You in all things. Help him to speak truth in love, to set boundaries that honor You, and to love his wife as Christ loved the church - sacrificially, selflessly, and without condition.

Father, we also pray for his wife. We ask that You would soften her heart, convict her of sin, and draw her to Yourself. Break the chains of unrepentance, Lord, and let her see her need for You. If she is living in sin, we ask that You would bring her to a place of true repentance and restoration. If she is hardened, we ask that You would either change her heart or give our brother the strength to release her to You.

Lord, we lift up their child to You. Protect their heart, mind, and spirit. Let them see Jesus in their father, and let them grow up to love and serve You. Heal any wounds, Lord, and let them know that You are their heavenly Father, even if their earthly family is broken.

Lord, we pray for our brother's heart. Guard him against bitterness, resentment, or discouragement. Fill him with Your joy, Your peace, and Your strength. Let him find his hope in You, and trust that You are working all things together for his good.

In Jesus' mighty name, we pray, Amen.

Please know that you're not alone in this. Many have gone through similar situations, and there is a community of believers ready to support and encourage you. Keep seeking God's face, and trust that He will guide you through this storm.

With love and prayers,

[Your Name]

 

[The Encourager]

God, I ask You in Jesus' name to securely anchor The Encourager and myself in Your Word so that we may come to know You better, love You more, and trust You with all our heart, mind, soul, spirit, and flesh. Let each of us meditate upon Your Word, day and night. Let us read, listen to, study, pray, sing, confess Your Word, and obey Your Word and Will for our lives. Let Your Word develop secure, deep roots, live, breathe, move, and dwell richly within each of us. Let Your Word wash and cleanse us of everything in our lives or try to come into our lives that doesn't honor and please You. God give us the desire and creative ways to live in your Word, draw closer to You, and have a stronger, more growing intimate relationship with You. God forever honor this prayer over each of our lives.

 

[Windwold]

Praying with you for this in Jesus' name, Amen