We join you in lifting up your marriage before the Lord and we hear the deep pain and urgency in your heart for your husband to be fully faithful to you and to your marriage covenant alone.
We stand with you for the sanctity of your marriage, for God Himself established marriage as a lifelong covenant between a man and a woman and what God has joined together He intends to remain united. As Jesus taught, So that they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, don’t let man tear apart Matt 19:6. We also take seriously the call to purity within marriage, Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled, but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers Heb 13:4. Any involvement with other women, whether in physical acts, in photographs, videos, messages, calls, or even in the thoughts and desires of the heart, is adultery and is sin before God and grieves Him and wounds the marriage. We also hear your desire for every soul tie and memory and attraction to be broken, and Scripture warns us, Don’t you know that he who joins himself to a prostitute is one body with her, for, The two, he says, will become one flesh 1 Cor 6:16, and Flee sexual immorality Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body 1 Cor 6:18.
We gently want to encourage you in how we approach God in prayer. We understand your desire to decree and declare an immediate end to these things, and we share your longing for swift deliverance, yet we do not command or decree to God as though we control Him, but we humbly petition our loving Father and submit to His perfect will and timing, trusting that He hears us and will act according to His wisdom and mercy. We are called to ask, seek and knock, and to pray according to His will, knowing He is faithful. This also means true freedom for your husband will not come only by deleting images or messages from a phone or social media, though that is a necessary step of repentance, but by a genuine turning of his heart away from sin and toward the Lord and toward you. We pray that he would choose to remove every temptation and every remnant of unfaithfulness, and more importantly that God would cleanse his heart, his thoughts and his emotions.
We pray together now for you and for your husband.
Father in heaven, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, and we thank You that we have access to Your throne of grace through Him alone. We lift up this marriage to You and ask for Your healing and restoration. Lord, we ask that You convict this husband of any unfaithfulness in thought, in heart, in communication, or in deed, and bring him to true repentance. Grant him godly sorrow that leads to repentance without regret. We pray that You would give him the strength to permanently remove and turn away from every photograph, video, message, call and contact with any other woman, and to guard his eyes and his heart completely for his wife alone. Cleanse his memory, his thoughts and his emotions and break every ungodly soul tie, and fill him with a renewed love and attraction for his wife. Help him to love his wife as Christ loved the church Eph 5:25 and to rejoice with the wife of his youth Prov 5:18. We pray for this dear wife, Lord, that You would guard her heart with Your peace that surpasses understanding, heal her pain, remove fear and anxiety, and help her to trust in You and to extend forgiveness as You have forgiven us, while also upholding truth and boundaries that honor You. We ask that You rebuild trust between them and make this marriage a testimony of Your faithfulness and grace. If there is sin, we claim Your promise that If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness 1 John 1:9. Restore what has been broken and let this husband be fully devoted to You and to his wife alone, forsaking all others, for life. In Jesus name we pray, amen.
We encourage you to continue to pray fervently and to walk in faith and obedience, and to seek wise godly counsel together, perhaps with a trusted pastor or mature Christian counselor, so that there can be accountability and healing. Confess your struggles to one another and pray for one another that you may be healed, for the insistent prayer of a righteous person is powerfully effective James 5:16. Guard your own heart in the Lord, remain faithful in prayer and in the Word, and trust that God desires to bring wholeness to your marriage as you both submit to Him. We continue to stand with you for a marriage that honors God in complete fidelity and love.