We hear the deep longing in your heart for a marriage that reflects the love, unity, and intimacy God designed, and we join you in lifting this before the Lord with urgency and faith. Your passion for your husband and your marriage is evident, and we commend you for seeking God’s will in this. Marriage is a sacred covenant, a reflection of Christ’s love for His Church, and we know God delights in restoring, healing, and deepening the bonds between husband and wife when both are surrendered to Him.
First, we must gently but firmly remind you that the power in our prayers comes not from our own desperation or repetition, but from the name of Jesus Christ alone. You invoked His name at the end of your request, and we praise God for that, but we want to encourage you to always begin your prayers by acknowledging Jesus as your Lord and Savior, for it is only through Him that we have access to the Father. As Scripture declares:
*"There is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5, WEB).
*"No one comes to the Father, except through me"* (John 14:6, WEB).
*"Most certainly, I tell you, whatever you may ask of the Father in my name, he will give it to you"* (John 16:23, WEB).
If you have not already, we urge you to surrender every part of your life—and your marriage—to Jesus Christ. Have you both accepted Him as your personal Lord and Savior? Are you both walking in obedience to His Word? A marriage cannot be fully united unless both spouses are first united with Christ. If your husband does not know the Lord, we will pray earnestly for his salvation, for that is the greatest need of all. If he does, we will pray for his heart to be softened and turned fully toward God and toward you, as his wife.
We also notice the intensity of your desire for your husband’s affection, attention, and emotional openness. While these longings are natural and good within marriage, we must caution you against placing your ultimate hope or identity in your husband’s response. Your worth, security, and fulfillment must first be found in Christ alone. He is the only One who can satisfy the deepest needs of your heart. As Jesus said:
*"Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart; and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light"* (Matthew 11:28-30, WEB).
Now, let us address the specific cries of your heart. You are asking for your husband to open up to you completely—his past, his insecurities, his emotions—and for total unity, communication, and affection between you. These are beautiful and biblical desires. Scripture teaches:
*"Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow; but woe to him who is alone when he falls, and doesn’t have another to lift him up... A threefold cord is not quickly broken"* (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12, WEB).
*"Let the husband render to his wife the affection owed her, and likewise also the wife to her husband"* (1 Corinthians 7:3, WEB).
*"Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace"* (Ephesians 4:2-3, WEB).
However, we must also remind you that while you can pray for your husband’s heart, you cannot control or force his responses. Your role is to love him unconditionally, respect him as the head of your home (Ephesians 5:22-24), and trust God to work in his heart. Have you examined whether there is anything in your own attitude or actions that may be hindering openness or unity? Are you showing him the respect and honor God commands, even when he is not meeting your emotional needs? Scripture is clear:
*"Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord... even as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose children you now are, if you do well, and aren’t put in fear by any terror"* (Ephesians 5:22, 1 Peter 3:6, WEB).
*"A worthy woman is the crown of her husband"* (Proverbs 12:4, WEB).
We also note your repeated requests for physical affection and intimacy. Intimacy in marriage is a gift from God, but it must be pursued in a way that honors Him. Are you and your husband guarding your marriage bed against any ungodly influences? Are there unresolved conflicts, bitterness, or sin that may be affecting your intimacy? Scripture warns:
*"Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath"* (Ephesians 4:26, WEB).
*"Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed is undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4, WEB).
If there is any sin—whether it be unforgiveness, idolatry (placing your husband above God), or even lustful desires that are not aligned with God’s design—we urge you to repent and seek God’s cleansing. Only then can you fully experience the intimacy He intends.
You also asked for supernatural wisdom, discernment, and the "right words" to speak to your husband. This is a godly request! James 1:5 (WEB) promises:
*"But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach; and it will be given to him."*
We will pray that God grants you this wisdom, but we also encourage you to study Scripture diligently, for it is the ultimate source of wisdom. Proverbs 2:6 (WEB) says:
*"For Yahweh gives wisdom. Out of his mouth comes knowledge and understanding."*
Additionally, you mentioned dreams and visions about your husband. While God can and does speak through dreams, we must be cautious. Not every dream is from the Lord, and we must test everything against Scripture. If you believe God is speaking to you in this way, pray for discernment and confirmation through His Word and godly counsel.
Finally, we address your plea for your husband to be devoted to you "only" and to have "no other women." This is a righteous desire, for marriage is to be exclusive. However, we must ask: Is there any reason for concern about infidelity or emotional unfaithfulness? If so, this must be addressed with truth, grace, and firmness. If not, we will pray against any spiritual attacks on your marriage and for God to guard your husband’s heart and eyes. Scripture warns:
*"But sexual immorality, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not even be mentioned among you, as becomes saints"* (Ephesians 5:3, WEB).
*"Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge"* (Hebrews 13:4, WEB).
If there is any hint of unfaithfulness or temptation, we urge you to confront it with love and truth, seeking restoration and repentance. If this is not an issue, we will pray prophylactically for God’s protection over your marriage.
Now, let us pray together over these matters:
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**Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. We thank You for the institution of marriage, which You designed to reflect Your covenant love for Your people. We lift up this sister and her husband to You, asking for Your divine intervention, healing, and restoration in their marriage.**
**Lord, we pray first and foremost that if this husband does not know You as his Savior, You would draw him to Yourself with irresistible grace. Open his eyes to see his need for Christ, and soften his heart to receive Your love and forgiveness. If he is a believer, we pray You would renew his passion for You, that he would seek You first above all else, and that his heart would be turned toward his wife in love, devotion, and openness.**
**Father, we ask You to break down every wall that hinders communication and intimacy between this husband and wife. Remove fear, pride, past hurts, and insecurities that may be keeping him from opening up to her. Give him the courage to be vulnerable and the wisdom to lead his wife with love and strength. Grant this wife supernatural patience, wisdom, and discernment as she supports and loves her husband. Show her how to speak life into him, to encourage him, and to create a safe space for him to share his heart.**
**Lord, we rebuke any spirit of division, misunderstanding, or apathy that may be at work in this marriage. We bind any influence of the enemy that seeks to steal, kill, or destroy what You have joined together. We declare that no weapon formed against this marriage shall prosper, and every tongue that rises against it shall be condemned (Isaiah 54:17).**
**We pray for a supernatural unity between them—a unity that can only come from You. May they be of one mind, one heart, and one spirit, submitted to You and to one another in love. Help them to laugh together, to enjoy one another’s company, and to find joy in their union. Restore the playfulness, affection, and deep connection that You intend for marriage.**
**Father, we ask You to protect this marriage from any form of infidelity or temptation. Guard this husband’s heart and eyes, that he would remain devoted solely to his wife. Give this wife the confidence and security of knowing she is cherished by You and by her husband. Remove any jealousy, fear, or insecurity that may be affecting her, and fill her with Your peace and assurance.**
**Lord, we pray for their physical intimacy—that it would be a blessing, a source of joy, and a reflection of Your love. Heal any brokenness or shame that may be affecting this area of their marriage, and let it be a place of deep connection and mutual honor.**
**We ask for dreams and visions, if it is Your will, that would encourage and guide this wife in praying for her husband. Give her clarity and understanding, and let her prayers be powerful and effective. Perform miracles in this marriage, Lord, that only You can do. Let this husband and wife experience a love deeper than they have ever known—a love that is rooted in You.**
**Finally, Father, we pray that both would seek You individually and as a couple. May their marriage be a testimony of Your grace, love, and power. Let them be a light to others, showing the world what a Christ-centered marriage looks like.**
**We declare all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone has the power to transform hearts and restore marriages. Amen.**
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**Our encouragement to you:**
Sister, we want you to know that God sees your heart and your tears. He hears your cries, and He is at work even when you cannot see it. While you wait for God to move in your husband’s heart, we urge you to:
1. **Draw closer to Jesus.** Spend time in His Word daily, worship Him, and surrender your longings to Him. He is your ultimate Husband and Provider (Isaiah 54:5).
2. **Pray consistently but with faith, not desperation.** God is not moved by our repetition but by our faith in His character and promises (Matthew 6:7-8).
3. **Respect and honor your husband.** Even if he is not meeting your emotional needs, show him the respect God commands. Often, a man’s heart is softened when he feels honored (1 Peter 3:1-2).
4. **Guard your heart against bitterness or idolatry.** It is easy to slip into resentment or to make your husband an idol by placing your hope in him rather than God. Ask the Lord to reveal any areas where you need to repent.
5. **Seek godly counsel.** If there are deep issues in your marriage, consider speaking with a pastor or biblical counselor who can provide wisdom and support.
We will continue to pray for you and your husband, believing that God is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that you ask or think (Ephesians 3:20). Trust in His timing, and rest in His love for you. He who began a good work in your marriage will be faithful to complete it (Philippians 1:6).
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
