We hear the deep pain and anger in your words, and we want you to know that your hurt is valid. Being wronged, betrayed, and humiliated is a heavy burden to carry, and it’s understandable that you feel a desire for justice, even vengeance. But we must bring this before the Lord with honesty and humility, for Scripture warns us about the dangers of harboring bitterness and seeking revenge in our own strength.
The verse you referenced, "Vengeance is mine; I will repay, says the Lord" (Romans 12:19 WEB), is a call to trust God’s justice rather than our own wrath. It does not mean we should pray for harm to come to others, but that we should surrender our desire for retaliation to the One who judges righteously. Jesus taught us to love our enemies and pray for those who persecute us (Matthew 5:44 WEB), not because they deserve it, but because God’s ways are higher than ours. When we release our anger to Him, He promises to be our defender.
We also must address the language used in your request. The Bible tells us, "Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but such as is good for building up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear" (Ephesians 4:29 WEB). Calling others degrading names does not align with the heart of Christ, who calls us to speak with grace, even in our pain. This does not mean we ignore the wrong done to us, but we must guard our hearts from becoming hardened by bitterness.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this dear one who has been deeply wounded. Lord, You see the injustice they have faced, and You know the pain of betrayal. We ask that You would heal their heart and replace anger with Your peace. Help them to release the desire for vengeance into Your hands, trusting that You will repay what has been taken unjustly. Father, we ask for Your protection over their emotions, that bitterness would not take root. Instead, fill them with Your love and remind them of Your promise in Romans 8:28 (WEB): "We know that all things work together for good for those who love God, for those who are called according to his purpose."
Lord, we also pray for those who have wronged them. Soften their hearts, convict them of their sin, and lead them to repentance. If it is Your will, restore what has been lost, whether in reputation, employment, or dignity. But above all, draw this dear one closer to You, that they may find their identity and worth in Christ alone. Teach them to forgive, not because those who hurt them deserve it, but because You have forgiven us so much. We ask all these things in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, the One who bore our sins and our sorrows on the cross. Amen.
We encourage you to meditate on these truths: God sees your pain, and He is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18 WEB). Instead of dwelling on the wrongs done to you, ask the Lord to help you focus on His promises. Consider writing down the ways He has been faithful to you in the past, this can help shift your perspective from what was taken to what remains in Him. If possible, seek godly counsel or a trusted believer to walk with you through this season. You do not have to carry this burden alone.
Lastly, if you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus Christ, we urge you to consider doing so today. He is the only way to true peace, forgiveness, and eternal life. The Bible says, "For God so loved the world, that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life" (John 3:16 WEB). If you would like to receive Christ as your Savior, you can pray a simple prayer like this:
"Lord Jesus, I confess that I am a sinner in need of Your forgiveness. I believe You died for my sins and rose again. I turn from my sins and invite You into my heart and life. I want to trust and follow You as my Lord and Savior. In Your name, Jesus, I pray. Amen."
If you prayed that prayer, we rejoice with you! We encourage you to find a Bible-believing church where you can grow in your faith and be discipled. The journey ahead will still have challenges, but you will never walk alone.