We understand the deep frustration and hurt you’re experiencing, and we commend you for turning to Jesus in this moment. However, we must address some critical concerns in your request to ensure your heart and prayers align with Scripture.
First, it is clear you are seeking Jesus, which is wonderful, for He alone is our Savior and Mediator. There is no other name under heaven by which we can be saved, and it is only through Him that we can approach God (Acts 4:12, 1 Timothy 2:5). Your acknowledgment of Jesus in your prayer is vital, and we encourage you to always come before God in His name, for He is the source of all peace, provision, and progress.
That said, we must gently but firmly rebuke the spirit of vengeance and destruction in your words. The Bible is clear that vengeance belongs to the Lord, not to us. Romans 12:19 says, *"Don’t seek revenge yourselves, beloved, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, 'Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord.'"* When we harbor bitterness or ask God to destroy others—even those who have wronged us—we are not walking in love or obedience to Christ. Instead, we are called to bless those who curse us and pray for those who mistreat us (Luke 6:28). This does not mean what she is doing is acceptable or just, but it does mean our response must reflect Christ’s heart.
Additionally, your words reveal a deep resentment that, if left unchecked, will fester into bitterness, which Hebrews 12:15 warns *"looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and many be defiled by it."* Bitterness is a poison that harms *you* far more than it harms the one who wronged you. We urge you to release this to the Lord and ask Him to cleanse your heart. Psalm 51:10 says, *"Create in me a clean heart, O God. Renew a right spirit within me."*
As for the woman you mentioned, we do not know the full context of your relationship with her, but we must address this: if there is any romantic or emotional attachment outside of a biblical marriage covenant, it must be surrendered to God. The Bible is clear that we are to flee from relationships that are not centered on Christ and His design for marriage between one man and one woman (1 Corinthians 6:18, 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5). If this is a situation where you are not married but are emotionally entangled, we strongly encourage you to seek godly counsel and set boundaries that honor the Lord. Proverbs 4:23 warns, *"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life."* Do not allow your heart to be tied to someone who is not walking in obedience to Christ, especially if there is manipulation or ungodly behavior involved.
Instead of asking God to destroy fondness or curse her, pray for *her salvation* and *your deliverance* from any ungodly soul ties. Pray that God would break any emotional hold she has over you and fill you with His peace. Colossians 3:12-13 says, *"Put on therefore, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, a heart of compassion, kindness, lowliness, humility, and perseverance; bearing with one another, and forgiving each other. If anyone has a complaint against another, even as Christ forgave you, so you must do."* This is not easy, but it is the path to freedom.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother to You, knowing that You see his pain and frustration. Lord, we ask that You would cleanse his heart from all bitterness, resentment, and desires for revenge. Replace these things with Your love, peace, and wisdom. Help him to forgive as You have forgiven him, for we know that unforgiveness is a chain that binds us, not the one who wronged us.
Father, if there is any ungodly soul tie or emotional attachment in this situation that is not pleasing to You, we ask that You would sever it by the power of Your Holy Spirit. Set him free from any manipulation, wasted time, or distractions that are not from You. Guard his heart and mind in Christ Jesus, and lead him into relationships that honor You—relationships built on Your truth, love, and purity.
We also pray for the woman involved. Lord, if she does not know You, we ask that You would draw her to Yourself. Soften her heart and convict her of any wrongdoing. If she is a believer, we pray that You would reprove her and lead her to repentance. Break any cycle of pettiness or revenge in both of their lives, and let Your peace reign.
Finally, Lord, we ask that You would give our brother wisdom in how to handle this situation. Show him whether he needs to set boundaries, have a difficult conversation, or simply walk away in obedience to You. Fill him with Your Spirit so that his responses are godly, and his heart remains pure.
We thank You, Lord, for Your faithfulness. We trust that You will work all things together for his good, as he loves You and is called according to Your purpose (Romans 8:28). Give him patience, strength, and a heart that seeks You above all else. In the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.
Brother, we encourage you to meditate on God’s Word daily, especially verses about forgiveness, love, and guarding your heart. Psalm 37:1-9 is a wonderful passage to reflect on in times like these. Seek the Lord’s face, and He will give you the grace to overcome. If this situation continues to weigh heavily on you, we strongly recommend seeking counsel from a mature believer or pastor who can provide biblical guidance. You are not alone in this—the body of Christ is here to support you in walking in obedience and freedom. Stay steadfast in prayer, and trust that God is working, even when you cannot see it.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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