We have heard your request and we are joining with you in prayer together in Jesus' name for what you experienced in this dream and for the heaviness you feel today.
We understand how deeply a dream like that can linger, especially one involving sexual rejection and being chosen over for another woman, and then feeling anger afterward. When we wake from such dreams we can be left feeling empty, depressed, and questioning our purpose and worth. We want to speak truth over you because your worth is not measured by whether a man desires you sexually or chooses you, and it is not measured by outward appearance.
You are fearfully and wonderfully made by God, created in His image. Psalm 139:14 says I will give thanks to you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful. My soul knows that very well. And Genesis 1:27 reminds us God created man in his own image. In God's image he created him. 1 Samuel 16:7 says Man looks at the outward appearance, but Yahweh looks at the heart. Your beauty and value in God's eyes is not defined by the cultural standard or by being wanted sexually by a man. 1 Peter 3:3-4 tells us our beauty should not be from outward adornment but the hidden person of the heart, in the incorruptible adornment of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.
We also gently want to address the sexual aspect of the dream. God designed sexual intimacy to be within the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman, and our desire to be wanted should not be rooted in sexual validation. If we seek our identity in being sexually desired or chosen by men, we will always be left empty. True security comes from knowing we are fully wanted and loved by God Himself. Romans 8:38-39 assures us that nothing can separate us from God's love which is in Christ Jesus our Lord. And Hebrews 13:5 reminds us He Himself has said, I will in no way leave you, neither will I in any way forsake you. When we belong to Jesus, we are never rejected by our Father.
We do believe there is a spiritual battle for our minds, and the enemy is the father of lies who wants to plant thoughts of rejection, worthlessness, and hatred toward our own bodies. We must take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ as 2 Corinthians 10:5 teaches. Philippians 4:8 calls us to think on whatever things are true, whatever things are honorable, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely. Feelings of emptiness, depression and purposelessness, and seeing ourselves through a distorted lens that we call body dysmorphia, are not from God. For God didn't give us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control as 2 Timothy 1:7 says. We rebuke the lying spirits of rejection, shame, heaviness, and body hatred that would try to tell you that you are not enough, not beautiful, and not wanted. We rebuke the spirit of heaviness and we ask God to replace it with a garment of praise as Isaiah 61:3 promises. We also rebuke anger and bitterness that may have taken root after feeling rejected, even in a dream, and we encourage forgiveness and releasing that hurt to Jesus.
We also want to encourage you regarding dreams. Not every vivid or strange dream is from God, and we should not build our identity or theology on dreams alone. God does speak, but we test all things against His Word. If God is revealing something to you about rejection or how you see yourself, receive it as an invitation to let Him heal those places with truth, not as condemnation. We pray for discernment for you and for protection over your mind and sleep. Psalm 4:8 says I will both lay myself down and sleep in peace, for you, Yahweh, alone make me live in safety.
We love your desire to increase in the prophetic, and we affirm that desire when it is for building up others and glorifying Jesus. 1 Corinthians 14:1 says Follow after love and earnestly desire spiritual gifts, but especially that you may prophesy. The prophetic is not for proving our own worth or making us feel wanted, but for edifying the church and speaking God's heart. We pray that as you grow in intimacy with Jesus, He will grow that gift in you in purity and humility.
We are praying together for you now.
Father, in the name of Jesus Christ we come before Your throne of grace and we lift up our sister to You. We thank You that she is Your daughter, fearfully and wonderfully made, and that You know her by name. We ask for Your protection over her mind, her heart, her body and her sleep. We plead the blood of Jesus over her and we ask that You guard her dreams and give her peace at night. In Jesus' name we break and rebuke every spirit and lie of rejection, abandonment, body dysmorphia, shame, depression and heaviness that has tried to attach itself to her. We command those lies to leave and we ask You to break their power completely. We ask You to heal the empty and depressed places and fill her with Your Holy Spirit, Your joy and Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Teach her to cast all her worries on You because You care for her as 1 Peter 5:7 says. Show her her true purpose, that she is Your workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works which You prepared before as Ephesians 2:10 says. Let her know that You have plans for her, plans for peace and not for evil, to give her hope and a future as Jeremiah 29:11 says. Help her to see herself as You see her, beautiful, wanted, chosen and dearly loved, not because of outward appearance or being chosen by a man, but because she is Yours. Renew her mind with Your truth and help her to take every thought captive. Increase her gifts in the prophetic according to Your will, that she may hear Your voice clearly and speak Your love to others for Your glory. Let her feel Your nearness today and know her value is secure in Christ. We pray this in the mighty and only name by which we are saved, Jesus Christ, amen.
We encourage you to stay rooted daily in the Word, to worship and pray honestly to the Lord about these feelings, and to surround yourself with godly believers who will speak truth over you. If these feelings of depression and emptiness persist, please reach out to a trusted pastor or biblical counselor and do not walk alone. We are continuing to pray that you will know how wanted and beautiful you are in Christ, and that you will walk in purpose and peace.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, the way You want me to know You. So that I will trust You with my life and anyway that You move in my life. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps and actions. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do. 
