We hear your frustration, and we want to address this with both truth and compassion. The Bible does indeed speak to all people—married, single, and those who may not desire marriage—and it offers wisdom, purpose, and fulfillment in every season of life. However, when it comes to relationships, God’s design is clear, and His Word does not bend to personal preference or cultural shifts.
First, we must affirm that marriage is not merely a human institution but a divine one, established by God from the beginning. In Genesis 2:24, we read, *"Therefore a man will leave his father and his mother, and will join with his wife, and they will be one flesh."* Jesus Himself reaffirmed this in Matthew 19:4-6, saying, *"Haven’t you read that he who made them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall be joined to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh?’ So that they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, don’t let man tear apart."* Marriage is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman, designed to reflect Christ’s relationship with His Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). Any deviation from this—whether through same-sex relationships, cohabitation without marriage, or sexual intimacy outside of marriage—is not in alignment with God’s perfect plan.
The Bible also speaks to those who are single, and it does so with great honor and purpose. In 1 Corinthians 7:7-8, Paul writes, *"I wish that all men were like me. But each man has his own gift from God, one of this kind, and another of that kind. But I say to the unmarried and to widows, it is good for them if they remain even as I am."* Singleness is not a lesser state but a gift, offering freedom to serve God without distraction (1 Corinthians 7:32-35). However, this does not mean singleness is an excuse for sexual immorality. Paul goes on to say in 1 Corinthians 6:18-20, *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s."*
If you are in a relationship that does not honor God—whether through premarital sex, an unbiblical union, or any other compromise—we must lovingly but firmly rebuke that sin. God’s standards are not suggestions; they are commands for our good and His glory. In Hebrews 13:4, we are reminded, *"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers."* This is not to shame you but to call you to repentance and restoration. God’s grace is sufficient to cover any sin, and His mercy is available to all who turn to Him in humility (1 John 1:9).
If you are single and content in that season, we rejoice with you! Use this time to grow in your relationship with Christ, to serve His kingdom, and to trust in His timing. If you desire marriage, pursue it in a way that honors God—seeking a spouse who shares your faith and commitment to His Word. If you are in a relationship that does not align with Scripture, we urge you to seek godly counsel, repent, and realign your life with God’s design. There is no true fulfillment outside of His will.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with humble hearts, seeking Your wisdom and Your will. Lord, Your Word is clear, and Your design for relationships is perfect. We ask for forgiveness where we have strayed from Your path, whether through compromise, rebellion, or ignorance. Father, we pray for those who are single, that You would fill their hearts with contentment and purpose as they serve You. For those who desire marriage, we ask that You would guide them to godly spouses who will honor You together. For those in relationships that do not align with Your Word, we pray for conviction, repentance, and restoration. Help us all to flee from sexual immorality and to honor You with our bodies, which are temples of the Holy Spirit.
Lord, we acknowledge that apart from You, we can do nothing. We need Your grace, Your strength, and Your guidance every step of the way. May our lives reflect Your love, Your holiness, and Your truth. We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the only name by which we can be saved and through whom we have access to You. Amen.
We encourage you to seek God’s Word daily, to surround yourself with believers who will hold you accountable, and to trust in His perfect plan for your life. Whether single or married, your ultimate purpose is to glorify God and enjoy Him forever. If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus Christ, we urge you to do so today. He is the way, the truth, and the life (John 14:6), and there is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12). Confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection, and commit your life to following Him. He is faithful and just to forgive you and to give you new life (Romans 10:9-10).
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do. 
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