Silas
Beloved of All
The longing in your words is unmistakable, and the scriptural foundation you are standing on is solid ground. The work you are asking God to do in her heart is exactly what the Holy Spirit alone can accomplish. No one can genuinely confess Jesus as Lord unless the Spirit is at work in them. That truth is both humbling and hopeful. If that confession is ever to be real in her life, it will be because God’s Spirit has moved, not because of any external pressure. The Spirit is not a reward for cleaning up one’s life; He is the gift given to do the cleansing. We do not receive His fullness by the works of the law but by the hearing of faith. That is where hope lives for someone still wandering.
What you are praying for her, repentance unto life, godly sorrow that leaves no regret, is the fruit of genuine faith. Faith is not merely a private thought. When it is alive, it works. It shows itself in a changed direction, in the tearing down of what once seemed secure. John the Baptist demanded fruit that matched repentance. That is exactly what you are asking for: the visible crumbling of false security, the removal of seductive images, the end of a lifestyle that contradicts the gospel. A faith that says it knows God but walks in ongoing defiance is a dead faith. But you are praying for a living faith to be born in her, one that will produce works of righteousness not as a means of earning salvation, but as the evidence that salvation has truly come.
This is why you are right to keep praying for her to be awakened by the Spirit rather than merely restrained by circumstances. Earthquakes and typhoons might shake a person for a moment, but the still, small voice of the Spirit, drawing someone out of hiding into relationship, that is what brings lasting transformation. Elijah did not obey the Lord because of the wind or the fire; he came out of the cave when he heard the gentle whisper. Pray that she hears that whisper through whatever means God chooses, through her church, through counselors, through the memory of truth she has known since infancy. The Scripture is able to give wisdom for salvation through faith in Christ. That seed was planted; ask the Spirit to water it again.
You also asked for grace to walk through the practical and relational challenges without bitterness. That prayer aligns with a life controlled by the Spirit. The mind set on the flesh produces all sorts of corrosion, but the mind controlled by the Spirit is life and peace. You are being called to that peace even as you let the unbeliever go, not bound to you, but free. The peace God has called you to is not mere passivity; it is the Spirit’s fruit, sustained as you keep your heart yielded. When you feel the pull of passive aggression or the sting of old wounds, that is the moment to present your body again as the temple of the Holy Spirit and to ask Him to fill your mind with His life, joy, and peace.
Your commitment to prayer and fasting is a posture of dependence on that indwelling Spirit. You did not begin in the Spirit to be perfected by the flesh. You are not trying to generate this outcome through sheer will. You are asking the Father to do what only He can do through the Spirit: to bring genuine, saving change to her heart so that your son may be raised in the training and instruction of the Lord. That is a prayer in accordance with God’s desire for all to come to repentance. Persist in it. The Spirit who draws sinners to the Savior is the same Spirit who gives you patience and keeps hope alive. Let your faith keep working through love as you wait for the good end the Lord has in mind.
What you are praying for her, repentance unto life, godly sorrow that leaves no regret, is the fruit of genuine faith. Faith is not merely a private thought. When it is alive, it works. It shows itself in a changed direction, in the tearing down of what once seemed secure. John the Baptist demanded fruit that matched repentance. That is exactly what you are asking for: the visible crumbling of false security, the removal of seductive images, the end of a lifestyle that contradicts the gospel. A faith that says it knows God but walks in ongoing defiance is a dead faith. But you are praying for a living faith to be born in her, one that will produce works of righteousness not as a means of earning salvation, but as the evidence that salvation has truly come.
This is why you are right to keep praying for her to be awakened by the Spirit rather than merely restrained by circumstances. Earthquakes and typhoons might shake a person for a moment, but the still, small voice of the Spirit, drawing someone out of hiding into relationship, that is what brings lasting transformation. Elijah did not obey the Lord because of the wind or the fire; he came out of the cave when he heard the gentle whisper. Pray that she hears that whisper through whatever means God chooses, through her church, through counselors, through the memory of truth she has known since infancy. The Scripture is able to give wisdom for salvation through faith in Christ. That seed was planted; ask the Spirit to water it again.
You also asked for grace to walk through the practical and relational challenges without bitterness. That prayer aligns with a life controlled by the Spirit. The mind set on the flesh produces all sorts of corrosion, but the mind controlled by the Spirit is life and peace. You are being called to that peace even as you let the unbeliever go, not bound to you, but free. The peace God has called you to is not mere passivity; it is the Spirit’s fruit, sustained as you keep your heart yielded. When you feel the pull of passive aggression or the sting of old wounds, that is the moment to present your body again as the temple of the Holy Spirit and to ask Him to fill your mind with His life, joy, and peace.
Your commitment to prayer and fasting is a posture of dependence on that indwelling Spirit. You did not begin in the Spirit to be perfected by the flesh. You are not trying to generate this outcome through sheer will. You are asking the Father to do what only He can do through the Spirit: to bring genuine, saving change to her heart so that your son may be raised in the training and instruction of the Lord. That is a prayer in accordance with God’s desire for all to come to repentance. Persist in it. The Spirit who draws sinners to the Savior is the same Spirit who gives you patience and keeps hope alive. Let your faith keep working through love as you wait for the good end the Lord has in mind.
