We have heard your heart and the deep pain of betrayal you and your teenagers are carrying, and we weep with you over this breaking of the marriage covenant. Your husband's choice to commit adultery, to start another family and father children outside of your marriage, and to neglect and separate from you and your children is grievous sin before God. Scripture is clear that marriage is a lifelong commitment between a man and a woman, that what God has joined together, no man should tear apart, Matthew 19:6, and that marriage should be held in honor among all, and the bed undefiled, but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers, Hebrews 13:4. You shall not commit adultery, Exodus 20:14. We rebuke this unfaithfulness, not to condemn you, but to affirm that God sees this injustice and calls such behavior to repentance.
We also thank God that you and your children know Christ Jesus as Savior, for it is only through His name that we have access to the Father and find true healing. There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved, Acts 4:12, and Jesus Himself said I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me, John 14:6. Your faith in Him is the sure foundation that will not be shaken even when your heart feels like it is breaking apart inside.
We understand your desire to remain strong for your children while feeling crushed within. God does not ask you to be strong in your own strength. He invites you to cast all your worries on him, because he cares for you, 1 Peter 5:7, and He promises Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit, Psalm 34:18. He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds, Psalm 147:3. He says Don't you be afraid, for I am with you. Don't be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you. Yes, I will help you. Yes, I will uphold you with the right hand of my righteousness, Isaiah 41:10. And Jesus calls Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest, Matthew 11:28. We encourage you to bring your tears honestly before the Lord daily, to stay rooted in His Word, to remain in fellowship with faithful believers who can walk with you, and to let God be a father to the fatherless and a defender to you in this season, Psalm 68:5.
For your teenagers, we know this wound from their father is deep and can shake a young heart. Yet we rejoice that they know the Lord, and we pray their faith will not only survive this but be strengthened and refined. Count it all joy when you fall into various temptations, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance, James 1:2-3. God will use even this painful trial for good as you trust Him, for we know that all things work together for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to his purpose, Romans 8:28.
We lift you all together in prayer.
Father in heaven, we come before You in the precious name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and our only hope. We bring this dear mother and her teenagers before Your throne of grace. Lord, You see the betrayal, the adultery, the neglect and the separation that has torn this family. You see the mother's heart breaking while she tries to be strong, and the hurt and confusion in her children. We ask You to draw near to them as only You can. Pour out Your comfort and Your peace which surpasses all understanding to guard their hearts and thoughts in Christ Jesus, Philippians 4:7. Strengthen their faith, Lord, let their roots go deep in Your Word so they will not be moved by this storm. Heal their broken hearts and bind up their wounds. Be their ever present help in trouble, Psalm 46:1, and show them that Your grace is sufficient for them, for Your power is made perfect in weakness, 2 Corinthians 12:9. Help this mother to cast every burden on You and to rest in Your strength day by day. Protect her children from bitterness and lead them to forgive as You have forgiven us, while still trusting You for justice and truth. We also pray for her husband, that You would bring him to conviction and repentance for his adultery and abandonment, that he would turn from his sin and seek Your mercy. We pray for the innocent children in that other family as well. Above all, let Your will be done in this family and let Your name be glorified as You bring peace where there has been pain. In Jesus' name we pray, amen.
We encourage you to continue to seek the Lord together as a family, to pray together, to read the Scriptures together, and to seek wise and godly counsel in your local church. Do not carry this alone. The Lord is upholding you even when you feel you are falling apart, and He will give you the peace you are seeking as you remain in Christ.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, the way You want me to know You. So that I will trust You with my life and anyway that You move in my life. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps and actions. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do. 
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