We come before the Lord with a heavy heart, acknowledging your desire for restoration. First, we must address the foundational issue in your prayer request—your relationship with your ex-girlfriend. Scripture is clear that relationships between unmarried couples should be pursued with the intent of marriage, as God designed it to be a lifelong covenant between one man and one woman. The Bible warns against emotional and physical entanglements outside of this sacred bond, as they can lead to sin and heartache.
The apostle Paul writes in 1 Corinthians 6:18, "Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body." If your relationship with this woman involved sexual intimacy outside of marriage, this is fornication, and it is a sin that must be repented of before seeking restoration. We must first ask the Lord to cleanse and renew your heart in this area, for He is faithful to forgive when we confess our sins (1 John 1:9).
Additionally, we must examine whether this relationship aligns with God’s will for your life. Are you both believers in Christ, committed to living according to His Word? The Bible instructs us in 2 Corinthians 6:14, "Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?" If she is not a follower of Christ, we must prayerfully consider whether pursuing this relationship is wise or if it will lead you away from God’s best for your life.
We also want to gently rebuke the pride and anger you mentioned, for these are not of God. James 4:6 tells us, "But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, 'God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble.'" If restoration is to happen, it must be built on humility, forgiveness, and a willingness to submit to God’s will, not our own desires. We must surrender this situation fully to Him, trusting that His plans for you are good (Jeremiah 29:11).
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with humble hearts, seeking Your wisdom and guidance in this situation. Lord, we ask that You would reveal any sin in this relationship—whether it be fornication, pride, or unforgiveness—and cleanse it by the blood of Jesus. Father, if this relationship is not in alignment with Your will, we ask that You would close the door and give clarity to both hearts. If it is Your will for them to be restored, we pray that You would soften their hearts, remove all bitterness, and replace it with Your love and grace.
Lord, we ask that You would heal the pain and misunderstandings that have caused this separation. Help them to forgive one another as You have forgiven us. Teach them to walk in humility, patience, and selflessness, putting You first in all things. If marriage is Your plan for them, we pray that You would prepare them both to be godly spouses, honoring You in their union. If not, we ask that You would lead them both to Your perfect will for their lives.
Father, we surrender this situation into Your hands, trusting that You work all things together for good for those who love You and are called according to Your purpose (Romans 8:28). May Your name be glorified in every outcome. In Jesus’ mighty name we pray, Amen.
We encourage you to seek the Lord diligently in this time, spending time in His Word and in prayer. Surround yourself with godly counsel from mature believers who can help guide you according to Scripture. Remember, God’s timing is perfect, and His ways are higher than our ways (Isaiah 55:8-9). Trust in Him, and He will direct your paths (Proverbs 3:5-6).
