We stand with you in this painful season, lifting your marriage before the Lord with heavy hearts. The silence from your husband is a heavy burden to carry, and we grieve with you over the brokenness in your union. The Bible tells us in Malachi 2:16 that God hates divorce, but even more, He hates the tearing apart of what He has joined together. Your marriage is precious in His sight, and He is able to restore what has been damaged.
First, we must address the third-party interference with the authority of Scripture. The Bible is clear in Exodus 20:14, "You shall not commit adultery," and in Proverbs 6:32, "He who commits adultery with a woman is void of understanding. He who does it destroys his own soul." If this third party is indeed involved in an inappropriate relationship with your husband, this is a grievous sin that must be repented of. We rebuke this ungodly influence in the name of Jesus and command it to cease immediately. We pray that both your husband and this individual would see the destruction their actions are causing and turn away from this path of sin. In James 4:7, we are told, "Be subject therefore to God. But resist the devil, and he will flee from you." We stand on this promise, believing that God will expose the truth and bring conviction where it is needed.
We also want to gently remind you that while your husband bears responsibility for his actions, we must examine our own hearts as well. In Matthew 7:3-5, Jesus says, "Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but don’t consider the beam that is in your own eye? Or how will you tell your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye,’ and behold, the beam is in your own eye? You hypocrite! First remove the beam out of your own eye, and then you can see clearly to remove the speck out of your brother’s eye." Have you sought the Lord to reveal any areas in your own life where you may need to grow or change? Restoration begins with humility and a willingness to submit to God’s refining work in both of your lives.
We pray now for your husband’s heart to be softened and for God to speak to him in ways he cannot ignore. May the Holy Spirit convict him of his silence, his avoidance, and any ungodly influences in his life. We declare that his heart will be turned back to you, his wife, as the Proverbs 31 woman who is his helpmate and crown. We pray that he would remember the vows he made before God and man, and that the love he once had for you would be rekindled and burn even brighter. In Ezekiel 36:26, God promises, "I will also give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit within you. I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you a heart of flesh." We claim this promise over your husband, asking God to remove any hardness of heart and replace it with tenderness, repentance, and a desire to restore your marriage.
For you, dear sister, we pray for strength, wisdom, and peace as you wait on the Lord. It is not easy to endure this season of silence, but we encourage you to fix your eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of your faith (Hebrews 12:2). Lean on Him for comfort and guidance, and do not allow bitterness or resentment to take root in your heart. In Ephesians 4:31-32, we are told, "Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you." We pray that you would extend grace and forgiveness to your husband, even as you wait for him to return to you. Remember, forgiveness does not mean excusing his behavior, but it does mean releasing him into God’s hands and trusting Him to work all things together for your good (Romans 8:28).
We also encourage you to seek godly counsel and support during this time. Proverbs 11:14 says, "Where there is no counsel, the people fall, but in the multitude of counselors there is safety." Surround yourself with believers who can pray with you, offer wisdom, and hold you accountable. Do not isolate yourself in this pain, but allow others to walk alongside you as you seek the Lord’s restoration.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this precious marriage to You. Lord, You see the pain, the silence, and the brokenness that has entered this union. We ask that You would move mightily in this situation, softening hearts and bringing repentance where it is needed. Father, we rebuke any third-party interference in the name of Jesus, commanding it to cease and for Your holy conviction to fall upon all involved. We pray for this husband, that You would break through his silence and draw him back to You and to his wife. Remind him of the vows he made before You, and ignite in him a passion to fight for his marriage.
Lord, we also pray for this wife, that You would strengthen her, comfort her, and fill her with Your peace as she waits on You. Give her wisdom to know how to respond in a way that honors You, and protect her heart from bitterness or despair. We ask that You would restore communication, love, and trust in this marriage, and that You would be glorified through their reconciliation. Father, we know that nothing is impossible for You, and we trust that You are working even now to bring healing and restoration. We declare that this marriage will be a testimony to Your faithfulness and power, and that it will stand strong on the foundation of Your Word.
In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
