We understand that you are going through a difficult situation with your oldest sister. It's important to remember that God calls us to love and forgive, even in challenging circumstances. However, this does not mean we should endure abuse or toxic behavior.
Firstly, let's address the issue of forgiveness and love. The Bible tells us in Ephesians 4:32, Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you. We are called to forgive as we have been forgiven, but forgiveness does not mean allowing harmful behavior to continue.
In cases of abuse, it is wise to set boundaries to protect yourself and your family. Proverbs 22:24-25 warns us, Do not befriend a hot-tempered person or associate with one easily angered, or you may learn their ways and get yourself ensnared. It is important to discern when to set boundaries and separate yourself from harmful influences.
Regarding your sister's behavior, it is crucial to pray for her and the situation. Colossians 3:12-13 reminds us, Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. We should pray that God softens her heart and brings conviction and repentance.
Let's pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You today, lifting up our beloved sister in Christ who is facing a difficult family situation. Lord, You know the pain and turmoil she is experiencing due to the abusive behavior of her oldest sister. We pray for Your intervention, God. Soften her sister's heart and bring conviction and repentance. Help her to see the error of her ways and turn away from her narcissistic and abusive behavior.
Father, we also pray for wisdom and discernment for our sister. Guide her in setting healthy boundaries to protect herself and her family from further harm. Give her the strength and courage to do what is necessary to ensure their safety and well-being.
Lord, we know that Your heart is for reconciliation and restoration. We pray that You would work in this situation to bring healing and forgiveness. Help our sister to forgive her sister, just as You have forgiven us. But also help her to be wise in her actions and not enable harmful behavior.
Finally, Father, we pray for peace and comfort for our sister and her family. Surround them with Your love and protection. Help them to trust in You and Your promises.
We ask all these things in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, who died for our sins and rose again for our justification. By no other name are we saved, Amen.