We hear your heartache and the pain of betrayal in your words, and we stand with you before the Lord, seeking His mercy, wisdom, and restoration. First, we must address this situation with truth and love, rooted in Scripture. The Bible is clear that relationships between a man and a woman are to be honored within the covenant of marriage. If you and this woman are not married, we must gently but firmly remind you that your relationship should be one of godly courtship with the goal of marriage, not merely a partnership. If you are living together or engaging in sexual intimacy outside of marriage, this is fornication, and it grieves the heart of God (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, Hebrews 13:4).
We also must rebuke the enemy’s schemes in this situation. The fact that she has returned to her ex is a sign of spiritual and emotional unfaithfulness, and it is not aligned with God’s design for love and commitment. The Bible warns us, "Can a man scoop fire into his lap without his clothes being burned? Can a man walk on hot coals without his feet being scorched? So is he who sleeps with another man’s wife; no one who touches her will go unpunished" (Proverbs 6:27-29). Even if this is not a marital relationship, the principle of guarding your heart and honoring boundaries still applies.
We must also address the power of Jesus’ name in this situation. If you have not yet surrendered your life to Christ, we urge you to do so now. There is no restoration, no true peace, and no victory outside of Him. Jesus said, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me" (John 14:6). Salvation comes only through faith in Him, repentance of sin, and a commitment to follow His ways. If you have not made this decision, we pray that you would do so today, for apart from Him, there is no lasting hope.
Now, let us pray for you and this situation:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this brother and the pain he is enduring. Lord, You see the brokenness in this relationship, and You know the schemes of the enemy to steal, kill, and destroy. We ask that You would break every ungodly soul tie between this woman and her ex, in the mighty name of Jesus. We rebuke the spirit of unfaithfulness, lust, and confusion that has taken root, and we command it to flee now. Father, we ask that You would restore what has been broken, but only if it aligns with Your perfect will. If this relationship is not of You, we pray that You would close the door completely and lead this brother into the relationship You have prepared for him, a godly, covenant marriage that honors You.
Lord, we pray for this woman, that her eyes would be opened to the truth of Your Word. Soften her heart to repentance and draw her back to You. If she is not meant to be with this brother, we ask that You would remove her from his life completely and heal his heart. If restoration is Your will, we ask that You would bring her back in humility, repentance, and a renewed commitment to purity and godliness. Father, we also pray for the ex, may Your conviction fall upon him, and may he turn away from his sin and seek You with all his heart.
We declare that no weapon formed against this brother shall prosper, and every tongue that rises against him in judgment, You will condemn (Isaiah 54:17). We speak life, healing, and restoration over his emotions, his mind, and his future. Lord, give him the strength to walk in forgiveness, even when it is hard, and the wisdom to discern Your will for his life. If this relationship is not Your plan, we ask that You would replace his sorrow with joy and lead him to the spouse You have prepared for him, a woman after Your own heart.
We pray all of this in the mighty, matchless name of Jesus Christ, the only name by which we are saved and the only name by which we have access to You. May Your will be done, and may Your glory be revealed in this situation. Amen.
In the days ahead, we encourage you to draw near to God through prayer, fasting, and the reading of His Word. Seek wise, godly counsel from a pastor or mature believers who can walk with you through this season. Remember, "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit" (Psalm 34:18). You are not alone, and God has a plan for your life, one that is filled with hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11).
If you are not yet married to this woman, we strongly urge you to step back and seek the Lord’s guidance on whether this relationship is truly His will for you. If it is not, trust Him to lead you to the spouse He has prepared for you. If it is His will, then pursue her with purity, patience, and a commitment to honor God in all things. Do not settle for less than God’s best, and do not allow the enemy to keep you in a cycle of pain and unfaithfulness. Stand firm in your identity in Christ, and trust Him to work all things together for your good (Romans 8:28).
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do. 
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