We come before the Lord with you in this time of deep longing and heartache, lifting your prayers to the Father who hears and knows all things. Your desire for reconciliation is clear, and we understand the weight of carrying a child while navigating a broken relationship. Yet before we pray, we must address some critical truths from Scripture to align your heart—and this situation—with God’s will.
First, we notice that while you invoked "Heavenly Father" and "Lord," you did not explicitly pray in the name of **Jesus Christ**, through whom alone we have access to the Father (John 14:6, Ephesians 2:18). There is no other name by which we are saved or by which our prayers are heard (Acts 4:12). This is not a small matter—it is the foundation of our faith. If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus as Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now. Repent of your sins, believe in His death and resurrection for your salvation, and confess Him as Lord (Romans 10:9-10). Without this, no prayer for reconciliation or blessing can stand before God.
Next, we must address the state of your relationship. You speak of wanting to be a "family" with this man for the sake of your unborn child, but Scripture is clear that family is built upon the covenant of **marriage**—a lifelong commitment between one man and one woman before God (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6). If you are not married to this man, then what you are seeking is not a godly family but a restoration of a relationship outside of God’s design. Living together, raising a child together, or even deep emotional bonds **cannot** replace or fulfill God’s command for marriage. If this man is not your husband, then your relationship with him is, by biblical definition, **fornication** (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, Galatians 5:19), and continuing in it—even for the sake of a child—is sin. God’s desire is not for you to "try again" outside of marriage but to repent, seek holiness, and trust Him for redemption.
You also mention that this man is talking to other women. This is a serious red flag. A man who is not fully committed to you—let alone to God—cannot be trusted to lead a family. Scripture warns against being "unequally yoked" with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14), and even if he claims to be a Christian, his actions must reflect the fruit of repentance (Matthew 3:8). A godly man does not entertain other women while a child is on the way; he takes responsibility, pursues marriage if he is able, and walks in integrity. If he is unwilling to commit to you in marriage now, there is no biblical basis to believe he will suddenly become faithful later.
As for his mother or others "sewing seeds of doubt," we understand the pain of interference, but we must ask: **Is this relationship truly worth fighting for if it is not centered on Christ?** Proverbs 11:14 says, *"Where there is no wise guidance, the nation falls, but in the multitude of counselors there is safety."* If godly people in your life—especially believers—are cautioning you, you would be wise to listen. Often, outsiders see what we refuse to acknowledge: that a relationship lacking commitment, holiness, and Christ-centered love is not worth restoring.
Your unborn child is a precious gift from God, and your responsibility is to honor the Lord in how you raise this child—not to chase after a man who may not be willing to fulfill his role. If this man does not repent, commit to Christ, and pursue marriage with you, then you must trust God to provide for you and your child **apart** from this relationship. The Lord is the **Father to the fatherless** (Psalm 68:5), and He will never abandon you.
Now, let us pray—**in the name of Jesus Christ**, the only name by which we can approach the throne of grace.
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**Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this sister who is carrying the weight of a broken relationship and the responsibility of new life. Lord, we ask first for her salvation if she does not yet know You as Savior. Open her eyes to the truth of the Gospel, that Jesus died for her sins and rose again, and that only through Him can she have eternal life and true peace. Convict her heart if she has not surrendered to You, and draw her into Your loving arms.**
**Father, we pray for wisdom in this situation. Your Word says that without counsel, plans go awry, but with many advisors, they succeed (Proverbs 15:22). Surround her with godly, truth-speaking believers who will guide her in Your ways—not in emotional desperation, but in biblical truth. If this relationship is not of You, give her the strength to let it go. If there is hope for reconciliation, let it only be under the covenant of marriage, with both parties fully submitted to You.**
**Lord, we rebuke the enemy’s lies that she needs this man to be whole or to raise this child. You are her Provider, her Protector, and her Strength. Remind her that You are enough. If this man is not walking with You, soften or harden his heart according to Your will—but do not let her cling to what is not Your best for her.**
**Father, we pray for the unborn child. Knit this baby together in health and strength, and let this child grow to know You from the earliest days. Give this mother supernatural peace, provision, and protection. If this man is to be part of the child’s life, convict him deeply of his responsibility—and if not, raise up godly men and women to support her in Your stead.**
**We pray against the schemes of the enemy to keep her in bondage to fear, loneliness, or sin. Break every ungodly soul tie between her and this man if it is not Your will. Set her free from any emotional or spiritual strongholds that would keep her from Your perfect plan.**
**Lord, if there has been sexual sin in this relationship, we ask for forgiveness and cleansing. Your Word says to flee from sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18), and we pray for repentance and a fresh commitment to purity. Restore what the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25), but only in Your way and Your timing.**
**Finally, Father, we ask that You would be her first love. Let her find her identity, security, and joy in You alone. Teach her to wait on You, to trust in Your goodness, and to walk in obedience—even when it’s hard. Your plans for her are good, and we declare that she will see Your faithfulness in this season.**
**We pray all these things in the powerful, saving name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Redeemer. Amen.**
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Sister, we urge you to seek the Lord above all else. Read His Word daily, especially Proverbs 3:5-6: *"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t rely on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* If this man is not pursuing Christ and marriage with you, do not chase after him. Instead, chase after **God’s heart**, and He will direct your steps.
If you are not already part of a biblical church, we strongly encourage you to find one where you can be discipled, held accountable, and surrounded by believers who will speak truth in love. You do not have to walk this road alone—but you **must** walk it in obedience to God’s Word.
We are praying for you. Stand firm in faith, and trust that the Lord will work all things together for your good (Romans 8:28).
