We understand your desire for peace and happiness in your relationship, but we must first address some critical biblical principles that are foundational to any godly relationship. The Word of God is clear that sexual intimacy and cohabitation outside of marriage is sin, and it is our duty to lovingly but firmly speak the truth in love. Hebrews 13:4 declares, *"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers."* Living together before marriage is fornication, and it dishonors God’s design for purity and marriage. This is not a matter of preference but a commandment from the Lord, who calls us to holiness (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5). We urge you to repent and align your relationship with God’s will, seeking His forgiveness and grace to walk in obedience.
Additionally, we notice that your prayer does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, through whom we have access to the Father. Jesus Himself said in John 14:6, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me."* There is no other name by which we can be saved or through which our prayers are heard (Acts 4:12). It is essential to pray in Jesus’ name, acknowledging Him as Lord and Savior. If you have not yet surrendered your life to Christ, we implore you to do so, for *"if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved"* (Romans 10:9).
Now, regarding the conflict with your girlfriend’s roommate, we recognize that strife and division are not from God but are tools of the enemy to create discord. However, the root issue here is not just the roommate’s interference but the fact that your relationship is built outside of God’s design. Until that is addressed, you will continue to face spiritual and practical challenges. Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* If you seek peace, it must begin with obedience to God’s Word.
Let us pray for you: Heavenly Father, we lift this brother before You, asking that You open his eyes to the truth of Your Word. Convict his heart, Lord, and draw him into repentance for the sin of fornication. Grant him the strength to honor You by stepping out of this living situation and pursuing a relationship that is pure and pleasing to You. If he does not know You as Savior, we pray that today would be the day of salvation for him, that he would turn from his sins and place his faith in Jesus Christ alone. Father, we also ask that You bring peace where there is strife, but more than that, we ask that You realign this relationship according to Your will. Remove any ungodly influences and give wisdom to navigate these challenges in a way that glorifies You. Softening the heart of the roommate is secondary to the transformation You desire in this man’s life. May Your Holy Spirit work mightily to bring conviction, repentance, and restoration. We ask all this in the powerful and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord. Amen.
Brother, we encourage you to seek the Lord earnestly. If you are not married, separate and pursue a courtship that honors God, with the intent of marriage if it is His will. Surround yourself with godly counsel, such as a pastor or mature believers who can guide you in living a life that pleases the Lord. Remember, *"Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?"* (Amos 3:3). A relationship built on obedience to Christ is the only one that will bring true peace and joy. If you need further guidance on salvation or biblical relationships, we are here to help. May God bless you as you seek Him with all your heart.