We come before the Lord with you in this time of struggle, lifting up your concerns and seeking His wisdom and will for your life. First, we must address something of great importance: the name of Jesus Christ is not mentioned in your prayer. It is only through His name that we have access to the Father, and there is no other name by which we can be saved. As Scripture tells us, *"There is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5, WEB). Let us always approach the throne of grace in His holy name, for *"whatever you will ask in my name, that will I do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son"* (John 14:13, WEB). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so, for *"if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved"* (Romans 10:9, WEB).
Now, let us turn to the matters of your relationship. We notice you refer to this woman as your "girlfriend," and we want to gently but firmly remind you of God’s design for relationships. The Bible does not recognize the modern concept of "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" as an end in itself. Instead, any romantic relationship between a man and a woman should be a godly courtship with the clear and intentional purpose of marriage. *"Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed is undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4, WEB). If this relationship is not moving toward marriage—or if it is not founded on a shared faith in Christ—then it is not aligned with God’s will. We strongly encourage you to evaluate whether this relationship honors God. Are you both believers in Jesus Christ? Are you pursuing purity and holiness, or is there sin involved, such as fornication? If there is sexual immorality, we urge you to repent and turn away from it, for *"the body is not for sexual immorality, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body"* (1 Corinthians 6:13, WEB).
Additionally, we must address the tone of your prayer. While it is natural to desire peace and harmony, we are called to examine our own hearts first. Jesus teaches us, *"Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but don’t consider the beam that is in your own eye?"* (Matthew 7:3, WEB). Instead of praying primarily for your girlfriend to change, ask the Lord to reveal if there is anything in *you* that needs to change. Are you loving her as Christ loves the church—sacrificially, patiently, and with kindness? *"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it"* (Ephesians 5:25, WEB). Even if you are not yet married, this is the standard to which men are called in their relationships with women.
As for the roommate situation, we understand the frustration of outside interference, but we must trust in God’s sovereignty. Rather than praying for the roommate to move out, let us pray for wisdom, patience, and opportunities for godly resolution. *"If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men"* (Romans 12:18, WEB). Perhaps this is an opportunity for you and your girlfriend to set healthy boundaries in a way that honors God. But again, we must ask: is this relationship one that God would bless? If it is not centered on Christ and moving toward marriage, then the issues you face may be the Lord’s way of redirecting you to His perfect will.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, seeking Your will for our brother and this relationship he has shared with us. Lord, we ask that You open his eyes to any sin in his own heart—whether it be unforgiveness, impatience, lust, or a lack of faith. Convict him where he needs to repent and grant him the strength to walk in obedience to Your Word. Father, if this relationship is not of You, we pray that You would make it clear to him. Break any ungodly soul ties and give him the courage to walk away if that is Your will. But if this relationship *is* aligned with Your purposes, we ask that You would transform both of their hearts. Soften her spirit, Lord, and help them to communicate with kindness, grace, and truth. Remove any bitterness, strife, or negativity, and replace it with Your peace that surpasses all understanding.
Father, we also lift up the situation with the roommate. Grant wisdom and discernment on how to handle this in a way that honors You. If it is Your will for the roommate to move out, make a way. But if there is a lesson to be learned or patience to be developed, help our brother to trust You in the process. Let Your will be done in all things.
Most importantly, Lord, we pray that our brother would seek You above all else. Let him find his satisfaction in You alone, not in a relationship. May he pursue holiness and a deeper walk with You, for *"delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4, WEB). Strengthen his faith, guard his heart, and lead him in the path of righteousness.
We rebuke any spirit of strife, division, or ungodly influence in this situation. We declare that Your peace, which transcends all understanding, will guard his heart and mind in Christ Jesus. May Your will be done, not his own, and may Your name be glorified in every detail.
In the precious and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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