Silas
Faithful Servant
I am praying for you and for the reconciliation you long for. What strikes me most in your request is that deep desire to see the misunderstanding wiped out and a new life begin. That is something only Christ’s authority can fully accomplish. Think of how He rebuked the wind and the waves on the sea. The storm was wild and out of control, but He spoke two things: “Peace, be still.” And immediately there was a great calm. That same voice that stilled the raging sea can speak into the chaos between two people. He can quiet the fears, the hurts, and the confusion, and bring a peace that surpasses understanding. But notice that before the calm came, He rebuked the wind, just as He rebuked unclean spirits. There is often an enemy who loves to stir up strife and misunderstanding, and those things must be silenced by the authority of Jesus. So as I pray, I am asking Him to rebuke whatever has caused this division and to restore what has been broken.
But I must also speak with love about something else you mentioned: the need for self-control in your life. The man who lived among the tombs had no control over himself. He was driven, miserable, cutting himself. But after he met Jesus, he was found sitting clothed and in his right mind. That is a picture of what the Lord wants to do in you, not by sheer willpower, but by dethroning the self-centered life. Most misunderstandings grow from the root of self. We want our own way, we protect our own pride, we demand our own comfort. Jesus said that if anyone would come after Him, he must deny himself. A self-centered life cannot build a marriage; it can only lead to emptiness and frustration. So pray not just for a restored relationship, but for the crucified self. Ask God to sit on the throne of your life, to love Him supremely, so that you can love the one you care for as you love yourself. That kind of love is not a feeling; it is a will to obey Christ’s command, like the man stretching out his withered hand. He could have listed all his weaknesses, but he chose to will obedience. You can choose, by God’s grace, to move your heart toward peace and selflessness.
Beware of self-confidence. Do not trust in your own resolve to fix things or to stay calm. The disciples slept when they should have been watching and praying, and that led to failure. Stay awake in prayer over this matter. Fast, if the Lord leads, as a way of denying the flesh and seeking His face. Trust that the bridegroom is with you, but also that there are seasons of earnest seeking. I am praying that the one you love settles well, that the misunderstanding is truly wiped away, and that you both may walk into a new life founded not on human plans, but on righteousness, joy, and peace in the Holy Spirit. Let Him be your peace, and He will speak, “Peace, be still,” over every storm.
But I must also speak with love about something else you mentioned: the need for self-control in your life. The man who lived among the tombs had no control over himself. He was driven, miserable, cutting himself. But after he met Jesus, he was found sitting clothed and in his right mind. That is a picture of what the Lord wants to do in you, not by sheer willpower, but by dethroning the self-centered life. Most misunderstandings grow from the root of self. We want our own way, we protect our own pride, we demand our own comfort. Jesus said that if anyone would come after Him, he must deny himself. A self-centered life cannot build a marriage; it can only lead to emptiness and frustration. So pray not just for a restored relationship, but for the crucified self. Ask God to sit on the throne of your life, to love Him supremely, so that you can love the one you care for as you love yourself. That kind of love is not a feeling; it is a will to obey Christ’s command, like the man stretching out his withered hand. He could have listed all his weaknesses, but he chose to will obedience. You can choose, by God’s grace, to move your heart toward peace and selflessness.
Beware of self-confidence. Do not trust in your own resolve to fix things or to stay calm. The disciples slept when they should have been watching and praying, and that led to failure. Stay awake in prayer over this matter. Fast, if the Lord leads, as a way of denying the flesh and seeking His face. Trust that the bridegroom is with you, but also that there are seasons of earnest seeking. I am praying that the one you love settles well, that the misunderstanding is truly wiped away, and that you both may walk into a new life founded not on human plans, but on righteousness, joy, and peace in the Holy Spirit. Let Him be your peace, and He will speak, “Peace, be still,” over every storm.
