We join you in lifting this situation before the Lord, recognizing that reconciliation and healing are at the heart of God’s will for His children. Your acknowledgment of the lessons the Lord is teaching you about guarding your tongue, seeking Him first, and practicing patience in speech reflects a heart that is tender before Him. These are vital truths, and we commend you for embracing them. The Word of God reminds us in Proverbs 18:21, *"Death and life are in the power of the tongue; those who love it will eat its fruit."* Your words have power, and the Lord is refining you to use them in ways that honor Him and build others up.
We also see in your request a deep desire for this man to respond, to heal, and for trust to be restored. However, we must gently but firmly address something critical: you mentioned hurting this man’s trust, and while you’ve sought to apologize, we must ask—what was the nature of this hurt? Was there deception, unfaithfulness, or sin involved, particularly in the context of a relationship? If this was a romantic relationship outside of marriage, we urge you to consider whether the foundation of this connection aligns with God’s design. Scripture is clear that relationships between a man and a woman should be pursued with the intent of marriage, rooted in purity, honesty, and a shared faith in Christ. If there was any sexual immorality (fornication), this is sin before God, and true repentance must include turning away from such actions. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 warns us, *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s."*
If this was not a romantic relationship but a friendship or another bond, the principle of trust and integrity still applies. Proverbs 6:16-19 tells us that the Lord hates *"a lying tongue"* and *"he who sows discord among brothers."* If there was deceit, it must be fully confessed—not just to the person hurt, but to the Lord in repentance. True reconciliation begins with a broken and contrite heart before God (Psalm 51:17). Have you sought His forgiveness first? Have you asked the Holy Spirit to search your heart and reveal any unconfessed sin? This is where healing begins.
You’ve referenced guarding your tongue and being slow to speak, which is wise. James 1:19-20 says, *"Let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger; for the anger of man doesn’t produce the righteousness of God."* This is a season for you to practice these truths not just in this situation, but as a lifestyle of surrender to Christ. The Lord is teaching you valuable lessons, and we pray you lean into His correction with humility. Proverbs 13:3 reminds us, *"He who guards his mouth preserves his life, but he who opens wide his lips shall have destruction."* Your words can either bring life or destruction, and the Lord is calling you to steward them well.
Now, let’s address the silence from this man. While you desire for him to respond, remember that you cannot control his heart or his timeline. Your part is to seek the Lord, repent where necessary, and trust Him with the outcome. The man’s response—or lack thereof—is between him and God. Your focus should be on your own walk with Christ. Have you fully surrendered this situation to the Lord, or are you still clinging to a desired outcome? True peace comes when we release our grip and trust God’s sovereignty. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, *"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."*
We also notice that your prayer request did not invoke the name of Jesus Christ. This is not a small matter. Scripture is clear that we have no access to the Father except through Jesus. John 14:6 declares, *"Jesus said to him, ‘I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me.’"* And in John 16:23-24, Jesus tells us, *"Most certainly I tell you, whatever you may ask of the Father in my name, he will give it to you. Until now, you have asked nothing in my name. Ask, and you will receive, that your joy may be made full."* If you have not yet placed your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now. Salvation comes through repentance and belief in Him alone (Acts 4:12). If you are already a believer, we encourage you to always approach the throne of God in the name of Jesus, for it is only through Him that our prayers are heard.
Let us pray together for you and this situation:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our sister who seeks reconciliation and healing. Lord, we ask that You search her heart and reveal any area of unconfessed sin, particularly if there was deceit, unfaithfulness, or any form of immorality in this relationship. Father, grant her the courage to fully repent and turn away from anything that does not honor You. Cleanse her heart and renew a right spirit within her, as only You can do.
Lord, we pray for the man involved in this situation. Soften his heart, Father, and bring healing to the wounds that have been caused. If it is Your will, we ask that You would open the door for restoration, but only if it aligns with Your perfect plan. Help our sister to release her desire for control and to trust You completely with the outcome. Teach her to guard her tongue, to be slow to speak, and to seek You first in all things. May she grow in wisdom and discernment, rooted in Your Word.
Father, if this relationship was not one that honors You—if it was outside of Your design for marriage or lacked purity—we ask that You give her the strength to walk away and to seek relationships that glorify You. Surround her with godly counsel and community that will point her to You. Let her find her identity and fulfillment in Christ alone, not in the approval or response of man.
We rebuked any spirit of manipulation, deceit, or impatience that may be at work in this situation. Let Your truth prevail, and let Your will be done. Cover our sister with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, and guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus.
Finally, Lord, we pray that if our sister does not yet know You as her Savior, that today would be the day of salvation for her. Open her eyes to see her need for Jesus, and draw her to Yourself. For those of us who do know You, remind us always to come before Your throne in the name of Jesus, for there is no other name by which we are saved.
We ask all these things in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Redeemer. Amen.
Our sister, we encourage you to spend time in the Word and in prayer, seeking the Lord’s face above all else. If this relationship was not centered on Christ or lacked biblical purity, we urge you to surrender it to the Lord and ask Him to redirect your steps. Psalm 37:4-5 says, *"Also delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord. Trust also in him, and he will do this."* Delight in Him first, and trust that He will guide you into relationships that honor Him.
If you need further counsel or prayer, do not hesitate to reach out. We are here to walk with you in truth and love, always pointing you to Christ. May the Lord bless you and keep you as you seek Him with all your heart.
