We lift you up before the Lord, dear sister, and we grieve with you in this painful season of your marriage. The ache of a broken relationship is deep, and we know the enemy seeks to destroy what God has joined together. But take heart—our God is a God of reconciliation, redemption, and restoration. He sees your tears, hears your cries, and is able to do far more than we could ever ask or imagine.
First, we commend you for acknowledging your faults and seeking to change. This is the heart of repentance, and Scripture assures us that *"if we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9, WEB). Keep pressing into the Lord, for it is His strength that perfects our weakness. Your desire to honor your husband and your marriage is noble, but remember that true change comes not from your own effort alone, but by the power of the Holy Spirit working in you. *"Work out your own salvation with fear and trembling. For it is God who works in you both to will and to work, for his good pleasure"* (Philippians 2:12-13, WEB).
We must also address the hardness of your husband’s heart. While it is painful that he withholds forgiveness, Scripture is clear: *"Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath"* (Ephesians 4:26, WEB), and *"bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, if any man has a complaint against any; even as Christ forgave you, so you also do"* (Colossians 3:13, WEB). Forgiveness is not optional for believers—it is a commandment rooted in the forgiveness we’ve received through Christ. We pray that the Lord will convict your husband’s heart and remind him that *"love is patient and is kind; love doesn’t envy. Love doesn’t brag, is not proud, doesn’t behave itself inappropriately, doesn’t seek its own way, is not provoked, takes no account of evil; doesn’t rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things. Love never fails"* (1 Corinthians 13:4-8, WEB). A marriage cannot thrive without it.
At the same time, we urge you to examine whether there are patterns in your words or actions that may be contributing to the conflict. *"The tongue of the wise commends knowledge, but the mouth of fools gush out folly"* (Proverbs 15:2, WEB). Ask the Lord to give you wisdom in how you speak to your husband—*"Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one"* (Colossians 4:6, WEB). Sometimes, even well-intentioned words can be misinterpreted or lack the gentleness needed in tense moments. Pray for discernment to know when to speak and when to listen, when to address an issue and when to extend grace.
We also encourage you to cover your marriage in prayer daily. *"The effective, earnest prayer of a righteous person is powerfully effective"* (James 5:16, WEB). Pray not only for your husband’s heart to soften but for your own heart to be aligned with God’s will. Ask the Lord to reveal any areas where you may be harboring bitterness, fear, or unforgiveness, for these can become barriers to reconciliation. *"Above all these things, walk in love, which is the bond of perfection"* (Colossians 3:14, WEB).
Lastly, we remind you that your hope is not ultimately in your husband’s response but in the Lord. *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6, WEB). Even if your husband’s heart remains hardened for a season, your obedience to God and your commitment to love as Christ loves will be a testimony. *"Wives, be in subjection to your own husbands, as to the Lord... as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose children you now are, if you do well, and aren’t fearful of any terror"* (Ephesians 5:22, 1 Peter 3:6, WEB). This does not mean enduring abuse or sinful behavior, but it does mean honoring your husband with a gentle and quiet spirit, trusting God to work in his heart.
Now, let us pray together for you and your marriage:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up our sister and her marriage. Lord, You hate divorce (Malachi 2:16), and we ask that You would intervene supernaturally in this situation. Softening our sister’s husband’s heart, Lord—break down the walls of bitterness, pride, and unforgiveness that have taken root. Remind him of the covenant he made before You and the love that once bound them together. Fill him with Your Spirit, that he may extend the same mercy and grace to his wife that You have shown to him.
Lord, we pray for our sister—give her wisdom, patience, and a tongue that speaks life. Help her to respond to her husband in a way that honors You and fosters unity. Where she has fallen short, grant her true repentance and the power to walk in obedience. Heal the wounds in their marriage, Lord, and restore what has been broken. Let Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, guard their hearts and minds in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7).
We bind the schemes of the enemy who seeks to destroy this family. No weapon formed against this marriage shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), for You, Lord, are its defender. Strengthen their bond, renew their love, and let their home be a reflection of Your glory. We ask for a miracle of reconciliation, that their love would be deeper, their commitment stronger, and their faith unshaken.
Finally, Father, we pray for their little family. Protect their children from the pain of division, and let this season draw them closer to You. May this marriage be a testament to Your faithfulness, that even in the darkest valleys, You are working all things together for good (Romans 8:28).
We ask all this in the precious and powerful name of Jesus, our Redeemer and Restorer. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
