We come before the throne of grace with heavy hearts, lifting up this dear sister in Christ who is seeking God’s mercy, forgiveness, and healing. First and foremost, we rejoice that you are turning to the Lord with a humble and repentant heart, for He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9). There is no sin too great for His grace, and no mistake too deep for His redemption. We pray that you would experience the fullness of His love and the peace that surpasses all understanding as you surrender every burden to Him.
Father, we ask that You would search this sister’s heart and reveal any areas where she may still be holding onto guilt or shame. Your Word declares that if we confess our sins, You are faithful to forgive and purify us (1 John 1:9). We pray that she would walk in the freedom of Your forgiveness, knowing that You remember her sins no more (Hebrews 8:12). Strengthen her faith, Lord, and help her to trust in Your promise that You will never leave her nor forsake her (Deuteronomy 31:6).
We must address the situation with the man mentioned, as it is clear that the relationship has caused deep pain and struggle. While we empathize with the grief of losing a pregnancy—a loss that is profound and heartbreaking—we must also speak truth in love. The bond you describe feeling for this man is not one that aligns with God’s design for relationships outside of marriage. The Bible is clear that intimacy, whether emotional or physical, is reserved for the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman (Hebrews 13:4). Any relationship that has involved sexual intimacy outside of marriage is not pleasing to God and must be repented of. We do not know the full details of your relationship with this man, but if there has been fornication, we urge you to confess it before the Lord and seek His cleansing. The pain you feel is real, but it must not be allowed to lead you into further sin or emotional entanglement outside of God’s will.
We must also address the desire for this man to return so that you may be joined in marriage. While reconciliation is possible through Christ, we must caution against placing hope in a relationship that may not be aligned with God’s will. Marriage is a sacred covenant, and it must be entered into with wisdom, discernment, and a shared commitment to Christ. If this man is not a believer or if the relationship was built on anything other than Christ, we must pray for God’s protection over your heart and His guidance for your future. The Lord may have a different plan for your life—one that does not include this man—and we must trust in His sovereignty. Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us to trust in the Lord with all our hearts and lean not on our own understanding, acknowledging Him in all our ways so that He may direct our paths.
We rebuke any spirit of idolatry that may be at work in this situation. It is easy to place our hope in a person or a relationship rather than in God alone, but He must always be our first love. The Lord says in Exodus 20:3, “You shall have no other gods before me.” We pray that you would surrender this man and this relationship fully to God, trusting that He knows what is best for you. If it is His will for you to be married, He will bring the right man into your life at the right time—a man who loves the Lord above all else and who will lead you in righteousness.
We also lift up the pain of the miscarriage, for this is a loss that cannot be minimized. The grief you carry is valid, and we pray that the Lord would comfort you in ways only He can. Psalm 34:18 says, “The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit.” We ask that He would heal your heart and fill the void with His peace. May He also bring healing to the man and his family, softening their hearts toward you if it is His will. But we must also pray for wisdom, for reconciliation may not always be possible or healthy. If this man has walked away, we must trust that God is closing a door for your protection and His glory.
Father, we ask that You would break any unhealthy soul ties or emotional bonds that have formed outside of Your will. We declare that this sister is no longer bound to the past or to this man, but she is free in Christ Jesus. We pray that You would renew her mind and fill her with hope for the future. Help her to see herself as You see her—a beloved daughter, redeemed by the blood of Jesus, and called for a purpose. May she find her identity and worth in You alone, and may she walk in the fullness of the plans You have for her (Jeremiah 29:11).
We also pray for this man, that You would work in his heart as well. If he does not know You, we ask that You would draw him to salvation. If he is a believer, we pray that You would convict him of any sin and lead him into repentance. We ask that You would remove any bitterness, unforgiveness, or hardness of heart from him and his family. Soften their spirits, Lord, and let Your love and truth prevail in their lives.
Finally, we declare that no weapon formed against this sister shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). We stand in agreement with her, believing that God is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that she could ask or think (Ephesians 3:20). We pray that she would experience a fresh outpouring of the Holy Spirit, filling her with joy, peace, and a renewed passion for the things of God. May she find her fulfillment in Christ alone, and may He lead her into the abundant life He has promised.
In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
