We understand your excitement and desire for a child, and we join you in lifting this situation before the Lord. However, we must first address some important biblical principles that are foundational to your request.
The Word of God is clear that intimacy and childbearing are designed by God to take place within the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman. Hebrews 13:4 states, *"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers."* Your reference to your "girlfriend" indicates that you are not married, and this means that your relationship—and any physical intimacy—is outside of God’s design. This is what Scripture calls fornication, which is sinful in God’s sight (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, Galatians 5:19-21). If you have been engaging in sexual activity outside of marriage, we urge you to repent, turn away from this sin, and seek God’s forgiveness. 1 John 1:9 assures us that *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."*
Additionally, we notice that your prayer does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, through whom we have access to the Father. Jesus Himself said in John 14:6, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me."* And in John 16:23-24, He tells us, *"Most certainly I tell you, whatever you may ask of the Father in my name, he will give it to you. Until now, you have asked nothing in my name. Ask, and you will receive, that your joy may be made full."* It is only through faith in Jesus Christ that we can approach God in prayer, and it is only through His name that our prayers are heard. If you have not yet placed your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so. Romans 10:9 tells us, *"that if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved."*
Now, regarding your desire for a child, we encourage you to seek God’s will above all else. Children are a blessing from the Lord (Psalm 127:3-5), but they are to be received within the boundaries He has set. If you and your girlfriend are serious about building a family, we strongly encourage you to pursue marriage first. Marriage is God’s design for family, and it is within this covenant that children are to be raised in the nurture and admonition of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4). Proverbs 18:22 reminds us, *"Whoever finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor of Yahweh."* If you are both believers in Christ, we pray that you would honor Him by entering into a godly marriage before pursuing parenthood.
We also want to prepare your hearts for whatever outcome tomorrow’s appointment may bring. God’s ways are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:8-9), and His timing is perfect. Whether the result is what you hope for or not, trust that He is sovereign and has a plan for your lives. Proverbs 3:5-6 encourages us, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."*
Let us pray together for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this man and his girlfriend to You. Lord, we ask that You would open their eyes to Your truth and convict their hearts of any sin that is not pleasing to You. If they have been engaging in intimacy outside of marriage, we pray that You would grant them repentance and a desire to honor You in their relationship. Father, if they do not know You, we pray that You would draw them to Yourself, that they may place their faith in Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior.
Lord, regarding tomorrow’s appointment, we ask that Your will be done. If it is Your desire for them to have a child, we pray that You would prepare their hearts for the responsibility of parenthood within the bounds of a godly marriage. If it is not yet Your timing, we pray that You would give them peace and patience to wait on You. Help them to trust in You completely, knowing that You hold their future in Your hands.
We pray that You would guide them to seek Your kingdom first (Matthew 6:33) and to build their relationship on the foundation of Your Word. If they are not yet married, we ask that You would lead them toward marriage, that they may honor You in all they do. Give them wisdom, discernment, and a heart that is fully surrendered to You.
We also pray for the unborn child, if there is one. Lord, You knit each of us together in our mother’s womb (Psalm 139:13-16), and every life is precious in Your sight. Protect this child, if they exist, and grant them health and strength. May this situation be used to draw both of these individuals closer to You and to Your perfect plan for their lives.
Finally, Father, we ask that You would surround them with godly counsel and support. Lead them to a community of believers who can encourage them in their walk with You. May they seek Your face in all things and find their joy and fulfillment in You alone.
We ask all of this in the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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