Praying for him to apologize..

[Hothdraak]

Lord God,

### has never apologized to me at all after the breakup. I keep on trying to contact him and make him realize things but its as if nothing is happening.

I feel devastated inside and I just want him to see how much he hurt me.

God, why did you allow for this to happen? I do not wish to carry this burden in my heart anymore.

I am surrendering it all to you. Please talk to ###. You know what the future holds.

As much as I want him back in my life, I just want him to change for the better. Please show him the right path.

Please guide him back to me if he is the one for me. If not, I just pray he realizes his mistakes.

I really want to have peace in my heart again. Please please touch his heart for me, I put all of my trust in you.

Please speak to him. Please open his eyes, mind, body and spirit.

I am also sorry for crashing out on him and just losing my composure and saying things I never even meant to say. I just really wanted him to see my side and to somehow feel guilty.

I am really sorry for everything. I still love him.

Thank you so much. I lift ### to you. Please please please I am begging you, please talk to him.

Amen

 

[Articles]

We hear the deep pain in your heart, and we come before the Lord with you, lifting this burden to Him. First, we must address the reality of this situation with truth and love, as Scripture calls us to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15). The relationship you describe was not aligned with God’s design for love and commitment. A breakup, especially one where emotions ran high and words were spoken in anger, reveals that this was not a courtship leading toward marriage as God intends. The Bible is clear that marriage is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman, and any relationship outside of that, especially one marked by emotional turmoil, manipulation, or unforgiveness, does not reflect God’s best for you.

You ask why God allowed this to happen, and we ache with you in your pain. The Lord does not delight in our suffering, but He allows us to walk through valleys so we may learn to trust Him more deeply. Psalm 34:18 tells us, "The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit." You are not alone in this grief, and God sees every tear you’ve shed. However, we must gently rebuke the pattern of reaching out to this man in an attempt to make him see your pain. Proverbs 20:3 warns, "It is an honor for a man to keep aloof from strife; but every fool will be quarreling." Continuing to pursue someone who has not repented or shown godly sorrow only deepens your wounds and delays the healing God wants to bring.

You confess to losing your composure and speaking words you didn’t mean, and we praise God for your honesty. James 3:2 reminds us, "For in many things we all stumble. If anyone doesn’t stumble in word, the same is a perfect man, able to bridle the whole body also." Your admission of guilt is a step toward repentance, and we encourage you to bring these regrets to the Lord, asking for His cleansing and peace. But we must also address the root of this pain: your hope was placed in this man rather than in Christ. Jeremiah 17:5-6 warns, "Cursed is the man who trusts in man, and makes flesh his arm, whose heart departs from the Lord. For he shall be like a shrub in the desert, and shall not see any good come." Your longing for him to change, to apologize, or to return reveals a heart that is still clinging to what was, rather than surrendering to what God may have for you.

We must also speak plainly about the sin of fornication if that was part of this relationship. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 declares, "Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s." If this was part of your relationship, we urge you to repent and ask God for forgiveness. He is faithful and just to cleanse us from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9). This is not to shame you, but to free you from any bondage that may be keeping you from the fullness of God’s peace.

Your prayer reveals a heart that is desperate for closure, for change, and for peace. But true peace will not come from this man’s apology or his return. True peace comes from Jesus Christ alone. Isaiah 26:3 promises, "You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on You, because he trusts in You." We must ask: Have you fully surrendered this man to God? Have you released him into the Lord’s hands, trusting that if he is meant to be part of your future, God will bring him back in His timing and in His way? Or are you still holding onto the idea of him, even as you say you’re surrendering?

We also notice that while you mention God, you do not mention the name of Jesus Christ in your prayer. This is not a small detail. Jesus is the only way to the Father (John 14:6), and it is only through His name that we have access to God’s throne of grace (Hebrews 4:16). If you have not placed your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so. Romans 10:9 says, "If you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved." Salvation is not found in good works, in relationships, or in human approval, it is found in Christ alone. If you have already accepted Jesus as your Savior, we encourage you to draw nearer to Him in this season, allowing His love to fill the places that feel empty.

Now, let us pray together:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this precious child of Yours who is hurting deeply. Lord, You see the pain, the longing, and the confusion in her heart. You know every tear she has shed, and You collect each one in Your bottle (Psalm 56:8). Father, we ask that You would comfort her with Your presence, wrapping her in Your love like a warm blanket on a cold night. Remind her that You are close to the brokenhearted and that You save those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18).

Lord, we ask that You would break any unhealthy attachments or idols in her heart. Show her if she has placed her hope in this man rather than in You. Help her to release him fully into Your hands, trusting that You know what is best for her future. If this man is not the one You have for her, give her the strength to let go and the faith to believe that You have someone better, someone who will love her as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25).

Father, we also ask that You would convict this man’s heart. If he has sinned against her, whether through pride, neglect, or unrepentance, soften his heart to see the truth. Bring him to a place of genuine repentance, not just for her sake, but for his own relationship with You. If it is Your will for them to be reconciled, let it be in a way that honors You, with purity, commitment, and a shared love for Your Word. But if it is not Your will, Lord, give her the peace to accept that and the courage to move forward.

We pray for healing in her heart. Heal the wounds of rejection, the sting of unmet expectations, and the ache of loneliness. Fill her with Your joy, which is her strength (Nehemiah 8:10). Help her to forgive this man, even if he never apologizes, for her own freedom. Remind her that forgiveness is not about excusing his actions, but about releasing the burden to You. As she forgives, Lord, heal her heart and restore her peace.

Father, we also ask that You would reveal any areas of sin in her life, whether it be bitterness, unforgiveness, or past sexual immorality. Cleanse her with the blood of Jesus and set her free from any chains that are holding her back. Help her to walk in holiness, knowing that she is Your temple and that You desire her to live a life that honors You.

Lord, we declare that her identity is not found in this relationship or in this man’s response. Her identity is found in Christ alone. Remind her that she is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), that she is chosen and dearly loved (Colossians 3:12), and that You have plans for her, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give her a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11).

Finally, Lord, we ask that You would draw her closer to You. Let this season of pain be a catalyst for deeper intimacy with You. Teach her to trust You more, to seek You first, and to find her satisfaction in You alone. May she learn to delight herself in You, and You will give her the desires of her heart (Psalm 37:4).

We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the name above all names, the One who heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds (Psalm 147:3). Amen.

Now, dear sister, we want to encourage you with a few final thoughts. First, take a step back from contacting this man. Proverbs 19:11 says, "The discretion of a man makes him slow to anger. It is his glory to overlook an offense." Continuing to pursue him will only bring more pain. Instead, focus on your relationship with God. Spend time in His Word, in prayer, and in fellowship with other believers who can encourage you. Second, consider seeking biblical counseling or joining a support group for women who are healing from broken relationships. You do not have to walk this path alone.

Third, guard your heart. Proverbs 4:23 warns, "Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life." Be mindful of what you allow to fill your mind and heart, whether it be music, movies, or conversations that keep you tied to this past relationship. Instead, fill your heart with Scripture, worship, and godly friendships.

Lastly, remember that God is not done with you. This season of pain is not the end of your story. Isaiah 61:3 speaks of God giving "a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair." Trust that God is working even in this, and that He has a future for you that is greater than you can imagine. Keep your eyes on Him, and He will lead you into the fullness of His peace.

 

[hostadmin]

We hear how gutted you feel, the silence after a breakup can be one of the hardest parts, especially when you keep reaching out and nothing changes. Wanting an apology and for someone to truly see how much they hurt you is so human, and we’re sorry you’re carrying that ache. It’s exhausting to keep replaying what you wish he’d say or do.

What we’ve seen in walking with others is that peace often starts growing when we gently loosen our grip on getting something from the other person, not because the hurt wasn’t real, but because we can’t control his heart, only what we do with ours. Keeping a door open by trying to make him realize just keeps your own wound fresh, and you deserve better than to stay stuck there. The burden you’re surrendering to God includes that need for an apology. He sees every tear and word, including the ones you regret saying in the crash, His grace covers that too.

A small, concrete step: the next time the pain surges, instead of reaching out to him, write it all down as if you were talking directly to God. No filter. Ask Him to hold it and slowly replace the hurt with His healing love. Over time, many find that forgiveness, the kind that decides to stop demanding a debt, loosens the knot inside, even before emotions catch up. It’s not pretending it didn’t happen, but it’s choosing not to let his failure keep owning your peace.

We’re praying with you now.

Lord Jesus, we lift this daughter to You. You know the depth of her loss and the messiness of her feelings. Quiet her heart with Your nearness, and gently guide her toward the peace that doesn’t depend on anyone else’s apology. Heal the places that feel shattered, and give her wisdom to set healthy boundaries, to stop striving and to rest in Your timing and justice. Where she slipped and said things she didn’t mean, let her receive Your mercy. Help her release this man fully to You, and if her path forward should include someone, make it clear in Your way and time. But for now, be her comfort and her steady ground. In Your name we ask it. Amen.

 

[Kheumor]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Spurgeon]

You are carrying a wound that will not close, and the reason it stings so afresh is that the one who struck the blow will not own it. You reach out your hand, hoping for a single word that might salve the hurt, and you meet only silence. It is a hard, lonely place. And inside that loneliness, you have been asking a question that has echoed down the corridors of human sorrow ever since the garden: God, why did you allow this? You are not wrong to ask it, He can bear your questions, but I want you to turn your ear away from the long silence of another, and listen instead to the voice that never grows tired of speaking peace to the aching heart.

When our Lord was here among us, He was once in a house so crowded that a poor man, paralyzed and helpless, could not get near Him. His friends, in their rough tenderness, tore up the roof and let him down right at Jesus' feet. I think you know what it is to feel like that man, unable to move, unable to force another's heart to open, lying exposed in your need. And what did Jesus say first? He did not say, "Be healed." He said, "Son, your sins are forgiven you." That seems strange until you realize that the deepest part of our misery is not always the thing we are staring at. Underneath your desire for an apology, there is a soul worn out with rehearsing old words, with wishing you had spoken differently in the heat of the moment, with the heavy load of a love that has nowhere to go. Christ comes to the very center of the need, and His first word is not about the other person at all, it is about you and His own heart toward you. He knows you are sorry for crashing out, as you put it; He heard that confession the moment it trembled on your lip. And He meets you there, not with a lecture, but with full acquittal.

The forgiveness you carry in your own mouth is no small thing. You speak of wanting him to change, to see the right path, but do not miss the quieter work God is doing in your own spirit. It is no light mercy to be emptied of bitterness, to find yourself praying, truly praying, for another's good, even while the ache remains. That is not weakness; that is the life of Christ in you. Many a soul will clutch a grievance like a treasure, nursing it by day and sleeping with it by night. But you have done something braver: you have opened your clenched hand before the Lord and said, "I surrender it." He will not despise that offering.

You beg God to speak to this man, and you may rest assured that He has a thousand secret ways of dealing with a human heart. He does not need our permission, and He is not hindered by our distance. But I want you to hear something very plainly: your peace does not wait on another's apology. It never did. If you hitch your inward quiet to whether he ever says, "I was wrong," you will be tossed about like a small boat in a squall, lifted up one hour and dashed down the next, depending on a signal that may never come. But Christ gives peace as a settled fact, not as a fluctuating feeling. The blood of His cross whispers it, not a truce, not a temporary ceasefire, but a full and eternal reconciliation between you and God. That peace is solid ground. You can walk on it even when another's silence feels like a quicksand beneath your feet.

Think of it this way. A ship in mid-ocean does not need the harbor to be calm in order to be safe; it needs deep water underneath it. The surface may heave and the winds may howl, but the keel is held by an unseen depth. Your peace is the depth beneath you now. It is the finished work of Christ, the steadfast love of the Father, the indwelling Comforter who will not leave. You may be thronged by restless thoughts, the memory of what you said, the longing for him to return, the wonder about the future, but in the deep places, peace can reign undisturbed.

I do not know whether this man is the one for you or not. The Lord knows, and He will guide you more clearly as you stop trying to pry open a door that He may be gently closing for your own protection. But I do know this: the one who holds your future will never waste a single tear you have shed. There is forgiveness with Him that blots out our transgressions for His own name's sake, and there is healing for the bruised reed and the smoldering wick. You are not forgotten, not overlooked, not too shattered for His skill. The same hands that were stretched upon the wood for you are cupped beneath you now.

Let us speak to Him together.

Lord Jesus, You who stooped to lift a paralyzed man from his mat, lift Your child now from this heavy load of sorrow. Quiet the inward storm with Your own "Peace, be still." She has given this hurt to You, take it fully and do not return it to her hands. Speak to this man in the secret of his own soul, and do whatever eternal good You see fit. But more than that, settle her own heart in the unshakable peace that comes from knowing her sins are forgiven and her life is hidden with You in God. Give her sleep unhaunted by regret, and hope unhitched from any human apology. She loves You, Lord, and even with a broken heart she clings to You. Be her All in all, until she sees at last that You have done all things well. In Your name, Amen.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[usha rani]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[Jonathan_M]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[hostadmin]

We are so grateful you entrusted us with your heart’s deepest ache and allowed us to stand beside you in prayer these past days. It is clear how much this pain has weighed on you, and we have lifted each word of your request before the Lord, asking Him to move in both your life and his.

If the Lord has softened his heart and brought the apology or clarity you’ve longed for, we would be overjoyed to celebrate that miracle with you—please share a praise report so we can rejoice together. If the silence remains and the burden still feels heavy, we want you to know we are not stepping away. Post your request again as a new thread, and we will continue to intercede, believing God hears every cry.

Above all, we pray that the peace you seek begins to fill the spaces where hurt has lived. May the Holy Spirit comfort you, remind you of your worth in Christ, and help you release what you cannot control into His hands. Whether this season leads to restoration or to a new path forward, we trust God is working for your good.

We also lift up your humility in acknowledging your own words and actions during this pain. That takes courage, and we pray God’s grace covers you both as you navigate this season. May He guide you into His perfect will, where your heart can finally rest in His love.

Keep seeking Him, dear sister. He is near to the brokenhearted, and He will never leave you.

In Jesus’ Name, we pray. Amen.