We thank God with you for this day and for your thankful heart for the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit in your life and in the lives of your children and your family. We join you in praying for the peace of Jerusalem as Scripture calls us to do, Pray for the peace of Jerusalem. Those who love you will prosper Psalm 122:6. It blesses us that you prayed in the name of Jesus, for it is only through Him that we have access to the Father. Jesus said, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me John 14:6 and There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved Acts 4:12. We rejoice that you know this truth.
We hear your desire for wisdom, knowledge, truth, love, mercy and to walk in peace and to be a lamp for your feet. God promises, Your word is a lamp to my feet, and a light for my path Psalm 119:105 and If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him James 1:5. We also hear you ask for good energy and good vibes and good feelings. We gently encourage you to seek not vague energy but the presence and fruit of the Holy Spirit, for true peace and joy come from Him. The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, gentleness, and self-control Galatians 5:22-23. That is the abundance God wants to fill you with, far more lasting than feelings that come and go.
You ask to be beautiful inside and pretty on the outside and to love yourself so you can love others. We understand that desire and we point you to what God says about beauty and identity. Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears Yahweh, she shall be praised Proverbs 31:30 and Let your beauty be not just the outward adorning but the hidden person of the heart, in the incorruptible adornment of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God 1 Peter 3:3-4. You are already fearfully and wonderfully made Psalm 139:14, and as you grow in Christ you will love others well, for Jesus calls us to love your neighbor as yourself Mark 12:31, rooted first in knowing how deeply God loves you.
We want to speak lovingly and clearly about the relationship you mentioned with the man you are in love with. We hear your longing for him to call you, to miss you, to teach you, to spend time together, to talk about feelings and the future and to make amends, and your hurt that you see him only a couple times every two weeks and that you both get angry when apart. We also hear your prayer that he will not cheat and will be faithful. Because we believe in the sanctity of marriage as a lifelong commitment between a man and a woman, we must encourage you to see this courtship through a biblical lens. Being a boyfriend and girlfriend should be considered courtship with the goal being marriage to another Christian believer, not simply companionship or romance. Therefore, do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers 2 Corinthians 6:14, and seek to know whether this man loves Jesus and is seeking to honor God with you.
We also must address what you described about messing with sometimes and the aftermath of anger, and the concern about faithfulness. If there is any sexual intimacy outside of marriage in this relationship, Scripture calls that fornication and calls us to turn from it. Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body 1 Corinthians 6:18 and Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled, but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers Hebrews 13:4. God’s will is your sanctification, that you abstain from sexual immorality, that each one of you know how to control his own body in sanctification and honor 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4. True faithfulness grows inside a covenant of marriage, not outside of it. We encourage you to set clear, godly boundaries that honor the Lord, not boundaries designed to make him miss you or to manipulate his attention, but boundaries that protect purity, peace and respect. Love is patient and is kind, love does not seek its own way and is not provoked 1 Corinthians 13:4-5.
We also encourage you not to try to be a light that shines in his mind by your own effort to be seen in his head, but to let Christ shine through you as you walk closely with Him. You are the light of the world Matthew 5:14 when Christ lives in you, and that light is most powerful when you focus first on Jesus and His direction as you prayed. Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight Proverbs 3:5-6. If God wills for this relationship to continue toward godly marriage, He can rekindle and redeem it in His way and timing. If not, He will guard your heart and lead you to what is best. We also lift up the two others you mentioned that they would come together only if it is God’s will and that any relationship would honor Him and move toward marriage if He intends.
We pray together with you now.
Father, we thank You for this dear sister and for her thankful heart and for her love for her children and family. We thank You for drawing her to pray in the name of Jesus. Fill her anew with Your Holy Spirit, with wisdom and truth and mercy and true peace that passes all understanding. Let Your Word be a lamp to her feet and guide every step. Help her to find her beauty and worth in You, to be transformed by the renewing of her mind Romans 12:2, and to walk in gentle and quiet strength.
Lord, we lift up this courtship to You. If this man is not seeking You, we pray You would draw him to salvation or make Your will clear. If this relationship is to honor You, establish it on purity, honesty, faithful commitment and the goal of godly marriage between a man and a woman. Forgive any fornication or impurity and give them both grace to flee temptation and to honor You with their bodies which are temples of Your Spirit. Teach them to communicate with kindness, to resolve anger without sin, and to set holy boundaries. Remove manipulation and replace it with trust in You. Let their future be discussed in the light of Your will, not just feelings. Guard them from unfaithfulness and teach them what true covenant love means.
We pray for the other two people mentioned, that Your perfect will be done in their lives and that any restoration would be for Your glory and for a marriage that honors You if You so lead. We pray for all who are on here, for You know what we need before we ask Matthew 6:8, and You promise to supply. Deepen our friendship and relationship with You, Father, and help us to focus on You and Your directions above all else. We ask all this in the mighty and only saving name of Jesus, Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, the way You want me to know You. So that I will trust You with my life and anyway that You move in my life. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps and actions. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do. 
