We join you in thanking God for this day and for His presence as Father, Son and Holy Spirit in your life and in the lives of your sons and daughters and your brothers and sisters. We rejoice that you are cultivating friendship with Jesus, for He calls those who follow Him friends and He draws near when we draw near to Him. As you prayed for the peace of Jerusalem we agree with you, remembering Psalm 122:6 Pray for the peace of Jerusalem. Those who love you will prosper. We also thank you for closing your prayer in the name of Jesus, for it is only through Him that we have access to the Father. As Jesus said in John 14:6 I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me, and in Acts 4:12 There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved.
We want to speak with love and truth about the relationship you mentioned with this man. You shared that he wants sex and you want more than sex, that you would like to be in a relationship with him if he can tell the truth and be faithful to you, and you also shared strong words about what he had better do and keeping your phone open on his phone. We hear your desire for honesty and faithfulness and that is good, for the Lord delights in truth. Proverbs 12:22 Lying lips are an abomination to Yahweh, but those who do the truth are his delight, and Ephesians 4:25 Therefore, putting away falsehood, speak truth each one with his neighbor. For we are members of one another. We also hear your longing for more than just physical intimacy and we affirm that longing, because God designed sexual intimacy to be holy and to belong only within marriage between a man and a woman. Hebrews 13:4 Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled, but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers, and 1 Corinthians 6:18 Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. If this man is pressuring you for sex outside of marriage, that is fornication and not love, for love is patient and kind and does not seek its own way as described in 1 Corinthians 13:4-5. A godly courtship should be a season of getting to know one another with the clear goal of marriage to another Christian believer, not simply a boyfriend and girlfriend arrangement centered on physical desire. We encourage you to seek a godly marriage that honors God, and to be equally yoked as taught in 2 Corinthians 6:14 Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. Is this man a believer who is pursuing Christ and pursuing marriage with you in a way that honors God.
We also gently urge you to examine the posture of your own heart in this. Words like if he knows what is good for him and demanding that he keep your phone open suggest a spirit of control and threat rather than grace and trust. Love does not control or coerce. Even when we have been hurt by lies we are called to speak truth without manipulation and to extend forgiveness as God has forgiven us. Ephesians 4:32 And be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you, and Colossians 3:13 bearing with one another, and forgiving each other. We know you said you do not deal with liars and that he has had many chances, and it is right to set wise boundaries and not to enable dishonesty, but we encourage you to do so with maturity and peace rather than with demands. True maturity bears the fruit of the Spirit which is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control in Galatians 5:22-23.
We also want to address with care that you shared your divorce is almost final but not yet signed. Until those papers are signed you are still married in the eyes of God, for Jesus said in Matthew 19:6 So that they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, do not let man tear apart. We encourage you not to pursue a new romantic relationship until your marriage covenant has been legally and biblically concluded and you have had time to heal and seek the Lord's direction for a future godly marriage. To pursue romance while still married can be adultery, and we want you to walk in purity and in a way that is above reproach.
We thank God with you for your children and we join you in praying for them and for all your loved ones. We also rejoice with you as you prepare to start your second job next Wednesday and we pray for strength and diligence and integrity in that work. We pray for wisdom and knowledge and for the Lord to be a lamp to your feet as you desire. Psalm 119:105 Your word is a lamp to my feet, and a light for my path, and James 1:5 But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him. We pray too for the financial settlement you mentioned, that your husband who is buying you out would act honestly and fulfill what is agreed with monthly payments, and that God would provide for you and guard your heart from anxiety.
We pray together now for you.
Father in heaven, we thank You for this sister and for her thankful heart and for her love for her children and family. We thank You for her desire to walk in truth, maturity, laughter, love, mercy and forgiveness and to walk in peace all her days. Lord, draw her ever closer in friendship with Jesus, help her to abide in You and to hear Your voice. Grant her wisdom and discernment about this man and about every relationship, help her to flee fornication and to honor You with her body and spirit which are Yours. If it is Your will for her to be married again, we pray You would bring a godly man who is a faithful believer, who speaks truth, who honors marriage as a lifelong covenant between a man and a woman, and who will pursue her in purity with marriage as the goal. If this current man is not that man, give her courage to step away and to wait on You. Heal the wounds of dishonesty, teach her to speak truth in love and to forgive as You have forgiven, and free her from any spirit of control or fear. Lord, bring peace to Jerusalem as she has prayed, bless her children and keep them in Your care, bless the work of her hands in her new job, provide for her needs and let her settlement be handled with honesty and justice. Lead her by Your Word as a lamp to her feet, fill her with Your peace and joy, and help her to walk in maturity and holiness all her days. In the name of Jesus we pray, amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, the way You want me to know You. So that I will trust You with my life and anyway that You move in my life. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps and actions. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do. 
