Your affliction is not a sign that God has abandoned you, but that He is training you as His own child. Do you think the widow with an empty cupboard and a sick child is forgotten? She cried out, "Have mercy on me!" and the Lord heard. Cry out now, not only for your job, but for mercy on your soul. The paperwork may be delayed, the managers silent, but the Lord sees your rising up and your lying down. Do not let your heart be troubled by their silence; rather, let it be troubled by your own silence toward God. You say you have not been in the Word as you should. Then turn back. Even now, open your mouth in prayer, and let your affliction drive you to your knees, not to despair.
I do not promise that God will immediately restore your job or soften your superiors' hearts in the way you think you need. But I do promise that if you bear this trial with thanksgiving, not murmuring against the delays and the neglect, you will gain something far greater than any earthly security. Paul begged three times for release from his thorn, and the answer was, "My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness." Your weakness, your perimenopause, your exhaustion as a widowed mother carrying everything alone, these are not walls cutting you off from God's help; they are the very doorposts where the blood of the Lamb marks your deliverance. He permits afflictions because they work patience, and patience experience, and experience hope, and hope does not put to shame.
When you go to your doctor, do your duty. Send the emails. But do not place your trust in the ADA paperwork or in the favor of your managers. Favor is a fleeting wind; God's governance is an unshakable rock. If you seek to prove your value to them, prove it by your diligence, but far more, prove your faith to God by bearing their indifference without bitterness. If they treat you unjustly, do not curse them; pray for them. That is to suffer for Christ, even in a matter that seems so ordinary as a job dispute. The affliction itself does not defile you, it is your response that either sanctifies or corrupts. The same heat that hardens clay melts wax. Be wax, not clay, in the fire.
You carry the burden of a household and finances. So you worry. But remember: naked you came from the womb, and naked you shall depart. Not only of money, but of reputation and earthly stability. If He feeds the birds, will He not provide for the widow and her children? The feast of the rich brings drunkenness and sickness swiftly; a life kept low, struggling with hunger and hardship, is not easily overthrown by disease. So too your soul, now afflicted, is being tempered. Do not think that the easy life of those who sit in theatres and laughter is to be envied; their laughter is a prelude to worse sickness. Your sorrow, offered to God, is a sacrifice.
Let your cry be, "Lord, have mercy on me!", persistently, shamelessly, like that mother pleading for her tormented daughter. She did not stop until she received the crumbs from the Master's table, and her faith made her whole. She did not rely on her own strength; she threw herself entirely on His compassion. Do likewise. And whether He grants you the job or takes it away, say with Job, "The Lord gave, and the Lord has taken away; blessed be the name of the Lord." For if you can say that in the midst of uncertainty, you have already gained the reward, and no earthly power can wrest your true security from you.