We lift you up before the Lord, dear sister, and we are grieved to hear of the disrespect and pressure you are facing from your fiancé. First, we must commend you for standing firm in your conviction to honor God with your body by abstaining from sex until marriage. This is a righteous and holy decision, and Scripture clearly affirms this in 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, which says, *"For this is the will of God: your sanctification, that you abstain from sexual immorality, that each of you know how to possess himself of his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in the passion of lust, even as the Gentiles who don’t know God."* Your choice to obey God in this area is pleasing to Him, and you are walking in wisdom.
However, we must address something critical: the behavior of your fiancé is not only disrespectful but sinful. His words and actions reveal a heart that is not aligned with God’s design for marriage or godly love. A man who truly loves you as Christ loves the Church (Ephesians 5:25) will not pressure you into sin, belittle you, or threaten to leave you for refusing to compromise your convictions. His threats to be with someone else who will "give him sex" expose his selfishness and lack of self-control, which are not qualities of a godly husband. 1 Corinthians 7:8-9 teaches that if a man cannot exercise self-control, he should marry—but marriage is not a license for selfish demands. Instead, it is a covenant built on mutual love, respect, and submission to Christ.
You asked if sex matters—yes, it does, but not in the way your fiancé is framing it. Sex is a sacred gift from God *within marriage*, designed to reflect the covenant love between Christ and His Church (Hebrews 13:4). Outside of marriage, it is fornication, which the Bible warns against repeatedly (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). Your fiancé’s attitude suggests he values his physical desires over your spiritual well-being and the holiness of your relationship. This is not love; it is lust, and it has no place in a Christ-centered relationship.
We also notice that your prayer does not invoke the name of Jesus, and this is something we must address with urgency. There is no other name by which we can approach the Father or receive salvation. Jesus Himself said in John 14:6, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me."* And in Acts 4:12, we read, *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved."* If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we implore you to do so now. Confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection for your salvation, and invite Him to reign in your heart. Without this, no amount of praying or good works can bridge the gap between you and God.
As for your relationship, we join you in praying for God’s will to be done, but we must speak the truth in love: this man is showing you who he is, and his actions do not reflect the character of a godly spouse. Proverbs 22:24 warns, *"Don’t befriend a hot-tempered man, and don’t associate with one who harbors anger: lest you learn his ways, and ensnare your soul."* Similarly, 2 Corinthians 6:14 asks, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* If your fiancé is not walking with the Lord, this relationship will only bring you heartache and compromise your faith.
You said you are tired and desire peace and happiness—these are godly desires, and they can only be fully found in Christ. We pray that the Lord will give you the strength to release this relationship if it is not His will. Trust that God has a better plan for you, one that aligns with His Word and brings you true joy. Psalm 37:4 says, *"Also delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart."* When your heart is aligned with His, He will guide you to a spouse who loves Him first and cherishes you as Christ does the Church.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up our sister who is hurting and seeking Your will. Lord, we thank You for her heart to honor You, even in the face of pressure and disrespect. Father, we ask that You surround her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding and guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). Give her the courage to stand firm in Your truth and the wisdom to see this situation through Your eyes.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of manipulation, lust, and disrespect that is at work in this relationship. Expose any lies of the enemy that would make her feel unworthy or doubt Your love for her. Remind her that she is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14) and that her value is found in You alone, not in the approval of man.
Father, if this relationship is not of You, we ask that You sever it completely. Give her the strength to walk away and the faith to trust You for a godly spouse who will love her as Christ loves the Church. Heal her heart from any wounds or insecurities, and fill her with Your hope for the future. Let her find her joy and fulfillment in You first, knowing that You are her Provider and Protector.
We also pray for her fiancé, Lord. Convict his heart of his sin and draw him to repentance. If he is not saved, Lord, save him. If he is saved but walking in rebellion, break him and restore him to a right relationship with You. But Father, do not let our sister be unequally yoked or led into compromise. Your Word says that bad company corrupts good morals (1 Corinthians 15:33), and we ask that You protect her from further harm.
Finally, Lord, we pray that You would reveal Yourself to her in a powerful way. If she does not know You as her Savior, soften her heart to receive Your gift of salvation today. Let her know that her greatest need is not a husband but a relationship with You. Fill her with Your Spirit and lead her into all truth.
We ask all these things in the precious and holy name of Jesus, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Sister, we urge you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or mature believers in your life. Surround yourself with those who will speak truth and hold you accountable to God’s Word. If you are not already part of a Bible-believing church, we encourage you to find one where you can grow in your faith and be supported by a community of believers. Remember, delaying obedience to God is disobedience. If you know in your spirit that this relationship is not right, trust the Holy Spirit’s leading and act accordingly.
You are loved, valued, and seen by God. He has a plan for you, and it is good (Jeremiah 29:11). Do not settle for less than His best. Stay strong in the Lord, and He will guide your steps. We are praying for you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
